My kingdom, my rules

30 |🇧🇷| acearo | multifandom ficwriter | I DON'T care about fandom discourse, ship and let ship, just be respectful | ANTI AND MINORS DNI

[checkyourasianbias]

"poc person" you are saying person of color person. "poc artist poc writer poc media" that's not what it means!! stop that!!!

[checkyourasianbias]

why are you guys acting like i'm asking you to move heaven and earth to change how you use one term

[circularlogic]

this is the internet. better yet, this is the progressive internet. everyone is being bombarded with requests to change their language all the time. each individual one is small but it's not nothing. with enough of them it adds up to be a real task. and to be honest there are real harms out there that take precedence over eliminating tautologies in my "carefully curate my vocabulary to please the internet" priority list.

[linestalker]

This and also the fact that using such argument to paint others as racist is so... Fucking tone deaf, have anyone here take one minute to remember that NOT everyone using english have actually this language as their mother language?

[about-faces]

Marvel characters: This is Gwenpool, she’s an unstable, deluded girl who genuinely believes that she comes from another reality where we’re all comic book characters. Obviously, that’s too ridiculous to even consider, so she must be crazy. No, we can’t explain how she knows so much about everyone, nor how she seems to bend reality to her will. She must just be a powerful mutant. Oh now she’s saying that she recently made herself a mutant through something called a “retcon.” Sigh. Poor, confused young woman. We hope she gets the help she needs.

DC characters: This is Superboy Prime. He says he’s from a reality where we’re all comic book characters. Okay, that makes sense. Have a nice day, kid, please don’t go evil again and kill everyone.

[linestalker]

Both characters from different publishers with different Origins (SBP being older than Gwenpool) and DC having a historic with meta characters

Why are people making it about gender?

[linestalker]

Listen to me, Knightingale Pride & Prejudice AU

[linestalker]

Something that makes me enjoy Occtis and Julien dynamic is that Julien doesn't for one second allow himself to ignore that Occtis is dangerous and still he cares too much

[linestalker]

The fact the three popular Occtis' ships are with the PCs who wants his family dead will never stop being funny

[homosexualslug]

realizing all of my top campaign 4 ships are now split up except for wiccany (cannot be separated without a warrant) and occtis's, who inexplicably ended up at a table with all of my top picks for him at the same time.

seekers arc 1: "man, occtis, they gave you THREE moms?"

seekers arc 2: "man, occtis, they gave you THREE baddies who keep flirting with and/or devoting themselves to you? and thaisha isn't even here to witness it?"

[raisondetriment]

Seekers v2 is going to go so crazy. Thaisha's no longer there to keep the original Seekers from killing each other. We have the Thimble/Occtis duo I've craved, PLUS the Julien/Thimble and Julien/Occtis acrimonious duos I've equally craved - this triangle alone is going to be JUICY. We have Bolaire here to make things worse at any given moment - cause a conflict, amplify a conflict, y'know, his favorite thing to do. We have Vaelus to be the wildcard - she has positive relationships with both Occtis and Julien so far (and they hate each other [or do they?]), and the other three are characters she's barely interacted with at all up until now, so how's that going to go? And then we have Kattigan around to just be the funniest motherfucker in the room at any given moment (but also he'd probably back up Thimble if it came down to it. Unless there's Tachonis to kill. Then he's backing up Julien. Ohhh he's another wildcard).

Why do we have to wait SEVEN WEEKS?!

[linestalker]

We also have Occtis and the three people who very much wants kill his whole family and have great chemistry with him

Such a great table

[linestalker]

Knightingale nation is winning so hard in the last episodes

[linestalker]

I understand those who have strong feelings about Grace being aroace, I do, because I'm aroace and loves Project Hail Mary, but I believe we need talk about stereotypes and unintentional acephobia in this fandom

First, something that is constantly ignored in aroace headcanons is that asexuality and aromanticism are two very different things and both have a broad spectrum that encompasses different degrees of sexual/romantic attraction, and this complexity is valid when both come together and form what is called aromantic asexual

"Aroace" in itself is already an umbrella term that also encompasses the spectrum, which means there is no "right way" to be acearo (not that there is a right way to be anything, but that's a discussion for another time), because the specificity of what is to be acearo is the lack of interest or necessity of defining our relationships in sex or romance

So NO, aroace people DON'T live in celibacy or are lonely, we are capable of having sexual, romantic, and queerplatonic relationships; yes, all three!!! But if an aroace person wants to live the rest of their life with their pet (aka like me) that's also totally valid, still as human beings, we can have emotional and physical connections, whether these are strictly platonic or not

Let's now demystify the idea that queerplatonic relationships are this pure sex-less thing

Queerplatonic relationships are often confused with celibate relationships, a mistaken assumption based on the belief that "platonic" in "queerplatonic" means "without sex", but asexual and aromantic identity is a complex spectrum, so obviously the dynamics in a queerplatonic relationship with an aroace partner would also be complex!

Talking with friends in the community, I realized that there are at least three general dynamics for QRP relationships: sex-favorable, sex-neutral, and sex-averse. In each of these, we find partial or total favorability and/or aversion to sex, so even within these same general dynamics, we see different levels of how much or even if the need for sex exists in a QRP relationship; not every sex-favorable acearo will desire to have sexual relations, and not every sex-averse acearo will reject it completely in their QRP relationship

And if anything, I'd say that aroace people might be the most kinkiest motherfuckers on this planet lol

So after explaining all this my last point is: aroace characters in a sexual or romantic relationship is NOT wrong

If you can't see the aroace experience as something deeper and have the need to fit being aroace into a stereotypical view, then you're being aceophobic

And specifically in Ryland Grace's case, it's even more annoying because he is NOT a canonical aroace character; it's just a popular headcanon, and like any personal interpretation about a fictional character, it can have different views that will not align with what is the more popular headcanons, or simply will be ignored by those who disagree with Grace being aroace

So please, stop using stereotypes to define what it is to be aroace and stop trying control how other fans engage with this character

[onemonthintheatlantic]

SAM REID CALLING OMEGAVERSE "VERY URSULA LE GUIN"

[onemonthintheatlantic]

[benson-bradley]

no homo but the deer in headlights look you got going on is doing it for me

[sometiktoksarevalid]

[greengableslover]

I have not killed you. I could no more forget you than myself. When you're at peace, I shall be in hell.

WUTHERING HEIGHTS (2011) dir. Andrea Arnold

[journoeil]

what bothers me most about Fennell’s adaptation of Wuthering Heights is the discourse that continues to be propagated (often by women themselves!) that because it was written by a woman, the novel must reflect the kind of relationship the author secretly dreamed of, that she was quirky, dark, perhaps secretly romantic in a morbid way. if it had been written by a man, everyone would say: “oh, the author is analyzing toxic relationships through these characters. he’s criticizing them.” it always bothered me that Brontë was immediately branded as a weird lovelorn woman, when in reality there is not much in her biography to attest to that. she was just a very intelligent writer who thought about a very intelligent subject like any of her male counterparts.

the canon always sees men as universal observers and geniuses who undertake social studies, but when it comes to women, they are reduced to being mere subjective chroniclers of interiority, supposedly recording their personal romantic fantasies.

many novels contain a romantic thread. among other things, Wuthering Heights opens with one. but most of the book is about revenge, cruelty, trauma, inheritance, generational damage etc. and yet, because it was written by a woman, only the love story is treated as significant.

if Wuthering Heights had been written by, say, F. Scott Fitzgerald, critics would likely praise the ruthless anatomy of obsession. I am just so sick of this. I sure would love to see the day when The Great Gatsby is marketed as the greatest love story ever told, overflowing with loose erotic scenes, rather than the highbrow social critique it’s usually presented as. the idea that women write “from emotion” while men write “from intellect” is still too deeply sedimented in how we talk about art.

[linestalker]

If anything The Great Gatsby is more a romance than Wuthering Heights BECAUSE The Great Gatsby is about dreams, the yearning of reach it and the despair of having said dreams shattered by the cold reality, while Wuthering Heights rejects the romantic views of ALL characters in it narrative, it straight up make fun when any of them try justify the abusive dynamics, it forces the readers to acknowledge as awful the entire experience of reading this book really is

But because Wuthering Heights was written by a woman, people really loves to pretend it's a beautiful tragic romance

[linestalker]

The despair of when the ship you love share the same space with the ship you hate

[strictlyquadrilateral]

and this isn't even getting into harm that's genuinely necessary! i read a book recently that was intended to educate people in healthcare about medical trauma, written by a medical professional who found that there weren't existing resources to help her cope with the aftermath of the extremely traumatic c section that saved her life. the whole tone of the book was "i know you've never thought about this before, but walk with me through this case study" and it's aimed at other medical professionals! it's aimed at the people who are doing this harm, and so many of them think that people aren't allowed to find it harmful just because it's necessary!

[strictlyquadrilateral]

so many trauma resources assume that your trauma is from a specific person or people who treated you in a way that society deems unacceptable. if your trauma doesn't fit that profile then you're left sitting there like. idk i dont think most of this stuff applies to me. where are the resources for people like me.

[strictlyquadrilateral]

if you were ever scared or in pain and were told that you had to grin and bear it because it's necessary for you to do the thing that scares and hurts you, you are allowed to say that that was traumatic. you are allowed to say that you were scared and in pain and that even if this was the least bad option, even if it was lifesaving, it still was not okay. something being necessary does not inherently make it okay.

[the-real-seebs]

i think i still have mild trauma from a dentistry-related thing some years back, and it was completely voluntary and i wanted it, just, the experience was actually really upsetting. like, totally worth it in overall outcomes, just. wow, yeah. i do not want to ever do that again.

i have more than one thing that saved my life and traumatized me.

[meteorasmayyetfall]

I'm a juvenile diabetic: relatedly, I used to be crippled by CPTSD. it turns out, infants dislike needles, and having your primary caregivers administer them daily can be bad for those relationships. I had no sense of trauma as the etiology of my issues for a while, because I couldn't find any 'abuse' in my history.

I remember talking to a psychologist: guy was like "are you absolutely sure you weren't abused as a child? I am literally a therapist, so you can tell me". when I demurred, he was like "truly? because you really really come across like you were, and I meet a lot of people with that history".

it was only after a parent mentioned that I'd go quiet and waxy during injections (tonic immobility, in retrospect) that I started to consider whether the lifesaving medical care I received had negative psychological effects.

[fittingoutjane]

This is a common gateway to pseudoscience. People experience trauma from receiving, or from seeing a loved one receive, lifesaving medical care and aren't able to find the space to process that it was necessary, the alternative was worse, AND it was really and truly awful. People who are afraid to go back. People who need accommodations to make necessary medical care less stressful and scary, and can't get them.

[mevima]

I've been getting eye injections for years now. Yes, injections directly in my eyeball. At the start, it was every month in both eyes. Now, it's down to one eye about every three months.

This had to happen. I had advancing diabetic retinopathy, and without the injections to dry up the blood vessels my eyes kept creating, I would have gone blind. My vision is permanently damaged, but I am not blind. I needed - and still need - those injections.

Unfortunately, the first doctor I went to had no patience for the idea that this might be traumatic and painful. He was brusque, and rude, and his way of convincing me to do it was "well, it's either this or go blind." It was terrible. I hated it. I considered whether it was worth stopping and just letting my eyes deteriorate.

It wasn't until I went to a different retinal specialist that I even learned there were smaller clamps they could use, which hurt much less! There were other methods of numbing, so I didn't feel the needle! The staff there was patient with my fear and pain. They worked with me to successfully make the process much more tolerable. They encouraged me to get a situational anti-anxiety (Xanax) prescription from my PCP, and even offered to write one for me if I couldn't!

And unlike the first doctor, they didn't require me to: sign a consent form for the procedure, then take the pill, then wait half an hour for it to kick in, before finally starting the procedure - and if I had to take medication to survive the appointment, I needed to go through this process every single time.

That second specialist saved my vision, and severely reduced my trauma, just by validating it and working with me. It took years, but I don't even need the Xanax any more. The shots are now just a normal doctor's appointment for me. And if I hadn't come across compassionate care, I would still be terrified and traumatized every single time.

[danielsarmand]

Come here. Dance with me. Here. Get on my feet.

Half Man 1.02