Update on my transphobic father!!
This morning I came downstairs dressed for work (which is in 2 hours) and my father got upset bc he noticed I was wearing my binder. He then went off on me claiming I only started “acting like a boy” the past two weeks by not shaving, cutting my hair short, and wearing a binder.
Mind you I’ve ALWAYS tried to be androgynous. This is nothing new. I’ve only been more blunt with it recently as I’m finally comfortable being myself after graduating!
My stepmom came in and I asked her what she thinks of me wearing a binder. She said she doesn’t really care since I’m almost an adult but I need to think of the long term effects and how title impact my future and others around me.
My dad proceeded to ask AI for a list of things a binder can do. It listed off every little negative thing but failed to mention that it’s only if they are misused or worn too long. But he wouldn’t listen to me.
My dad kept bringing up how I don’t shave my legs and haven’t shaved my pits (I put on deodorant frequently so this isn’t a problem) and my stepmom mentioned that she agrees I’m erasing my femininity. I asked her what makes body hair masculine and she didn’t have an answer other than it just was.
My dad then proceeded to say “if you want to be a lesbian just be a fucking lesbian don’t do all of this” and I told him I wasn’t. He asked me what I was and, knowing I can’t tell him I’m berrisexual, told him “idk I like everyone.”
My stepmom chimed in and said “so you’re bi? You like boys and girls.” And when I responded “no I like EVERYONE but mainly women” my dad got upset and said “there’s only boys and girls! If you wanna date a ‘nonbinary’ girl, then you’re lesbian!”
I got upset at this as IM NONBINARY AND IVE FUCKING TOLD HIM THAT and told him, that’s not how it works and that sex does not equal gender. My stepmom started laughing at me and my dad was yelling at me saying he didn’t believe in that bullshit.
Somehow the conversation diverged into trans rights, something I am very passionate about, and my dad said, “oh sure trans rights, so you want some man pretending to be a woman to be in a woman’s restroom?” Of course I said “as long as SHES not causing any problems, yes. Not every trans person is a pedophile.”
He asked me if I’d be fine with it if I had a child in the bathroom with a trans woman. Again I said yes. He went on about “what if what if what if” to which I stopped and asked him “if that’s the case how am I to know that YOU wouldn’t molest a child?”
My stepmom then began screaming at me to shut up. They both yelled at me telling me not to be disrespectful to their opinions while they were actively laughing and belittling my own.
A bit later my dad told me I’m not allowed to wear the binder in his house (as if I’ll listen) and so I went up to my room.
About 20-30 minutes ago my stepmom came to my room and went on about how shes a catholic conservative and democrats and liberals are pushing out beliefs onto them. When I brought up several historical cases of the church both catholic and Christian harmfully doing the same thing, she got upset.
I asked her how it’s okay for the pledge of allegiance to be a requirement for children throughout their education but they aren’t allowed to be “exposed” to lgbtq+ and she was upset and told me by not saying it I’m disrespectful to my family.
Both my mother and father served in the US army and I respect THEM. I do not however respect our country and its wrongdoings and I refuse to pay respects to a God I don’t worship when my own beliefs are shot down.
That’s all I have for now so now I’m trying not to cry and fuck up my guyliner
