I was supportive of the trans community for about 8 years, and got involved with trans activism starting when I was a teenager. I had known I was a lesbian since early childhood, and the big trans “movement” really kicked off when I was in high school, so I naturally fell in with the trans activism because there was the common belief that trans people were the “most oppressed” members of the LGBT community so us “cis” gays needed to really stick our necks out for them.
Early on I was very very supportive of trans people. I had a lot of friends who were trans, but most of them were transmen and transmascs, and the few transfems I knew were actually gay men. I had no knowledge of the lesbian fetishist males yet. My trans friends were the very dysphoric types, so I really felt bad for them for their mental struggles and so I was willing to brush it off when they made misogynistic comments. But as I got more familiar with the trans community, the issues became a lot harder to ignore.
The treatment of transmen at the hands of transwomen was pretty disturbing to me. It was always obviously blatant misogyny coming from the males of the community, but to protect everyone’s feelings we all had to pretend like I was something else. We had to pretend that the male trans people being misogynistic to the female trans people were actually “punching up” at their oppressors (lol) and if you don’t play along with this nonsense you’re basically worse than a Nazi and are actively genociding trans people.
The invention of terms like “afab/amab” and “TMA/TME” made it very obvious that trans people don’t actually view themselves as the gender they identify as, they still very much cling to their biological sex as the core part of their identity. The trans community insisting that “amab”/“TMA” people are altogether more important, intelligent, interesting, and oppressed than the highly privileged, whiny, bitchy “afab”/“TME” people kind of gives the whole thing away.
But the biggest issue, and the one that fully peaked me, was the way the trans community treats lesbians. Once I was fully involved with the overarching trans community, I came to realize that the homosexual male transfems I knew personally were kind of outliers, and that the majority of them are heterosexual men who transition because they fried their brains on lesbian fetish pornography and hentai.
Even when I was fully supportive of the trans community, I would never even consider dating a trans woman, because I am a lesbian and therefore not attracted to biological males. It wasn’t out of hatred, it was just my natural, unchangeable sexuality. I had thought that most trans people would accept that, and only a few fringe outliers would be angry, but nope. EVERYONE was mad about that.
The trans community fetishizes the shit out of lesbians but absolutely DESPISES real lesbians. Any lesbian who is not willing to date a biological male is treated like a criminal. Even if I very calmly and respectfully said “I want all trans people to live their lives how they want and be comfortable in their own body, but I personally am not comfortable interacting sexually with a penis” I would be crucified as a evil TERF witch.
My dignity as a lesbian will not allow me to support a community that takes every opportunity to attack and degrade me based on my sexuality.
That’s the basic gist of what made me stop supporting the trans community. And this is a very abridged version, there were actually a lot of other specific things that happened that eventually pushed me over the edge, but these are the main reasons.
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