Sinister Wisdom #76
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Sinister Wisdom #76
Queer theory is so funny to me as African because I'll see all these people in the western countries trying to assign meanings to clothes and to pronouns and to parts of their personalities, they'll believe that changing their clothes or their pronouns or their language or their behavior will exempt them from misogyny. And while I understand that it is a condition of the System to keep us all separated, I can't help but bristle at the racism behind this all.
If any of these liberals had bothered to read, they would know that there exists many many communities indigenous to Africa whose languages don't have gendered pronouns, where clothing rules are different. Where men and women dressed the same, where the rules of nudity are different. Where men are effeminate. And in most, if not all of these communities, misogyny will still be rampant.
My community used to allow female to female marriages but all those women were still circumcised. My language does not have "she" or "he" but that did not save any of us from misogyny. My friend's community doesn't even have gendered slurs and she still had to run away when she was 11 so that she wouldn't be circumcised. There is no solution other than uprooting the whole system. Creating more categories does nothing.
When leftists discuss work, we are very quick to point out that work is not enjoyable. Nobody enjoys stocking shelves all day every day, or dealing with customers, or having to show up to work every day for hours to provide a service. But as soon as “sex work” is being discussed, the tune changes. Suddenly, workers enjoy work. They want to show up to work and provide a service—sex—for hours. “Sex workers” love sex which is why they monetise it, so you’re actually doing them a favour by purchasing their service (sex)!
This is because as soon as you frame “sex work” the same way as any other work, it quickly begins to look like rape. Unwilling women forced to show up to work to afford to live, hating every second of the labour they provide by having sex (being raped) for hours with/by customers who treat them like shit (while raping them). Leftists understand, even if they don’t admit it, that sex is different than any kind of work you can name. And that as soon as it’s unwilling, it’s rape, even if a man pays a woman to stay quiet about it. But they believe that it’s so very important for men to be allowed to buy women, so instead of accepting that “sex work” is rape, they change the narrative about work only when discussing “sex work” so they don’t have to experience cognitive dissonance.
There’s a young black girl on TikTok, Paris Mwenda, who made videos speaking about the same kind of stuff that I do here- how feminism has become so watered down and neutered. Her content is strongly pro-woman and she doesn’t constantly grovel or perform the “fuck TERFs, transwomen are woman” genuflection. So of course the transvestites’ balls started itching and getting uncomfortable.
Strongly Pro woman+ critical of mainstream feminism+ no constant trans dick eating= I know she’s a terf, I just can’t prove it.
So they’ve been hounding her. Sad to watch. I think she has said “trans rights blah blah blah” but apparently because TERFs are in her comments agreeing with her, they aren’t placated and need her to strongly denounce TERFs and do some serious dick eating and centering of trans women in order to be comfortable.
Sad to watch.
Anyway, I hope this is a mass peaking event for many young woman about how you could be literally minding your own business and speaking about women’s issues but if you don’t genuflect to the prostate havers- they’ll have a problem.
Because remember, they identify AS us, not WITH us. They don’t hear the word “woman” and think “Oh, that’s me”. They need direct acknowledgment at all times, because someone simply speaking about regular women’s issues (which they don’t relate to or gaf about) causes injury to their identity. And you have to make up for it by Identity Stroking and reassuring them that Hey, even though I’m speaking about women’s issues that you’re totally disinterested in and can’t relate to at all, you’re still sooooo valid.
PEAK thread- people who peaked recently within the last two years- can you share your experience and what sent you over the edge. I’m curious
I was supportive of the trans community for about 8 years, and got involved with trans activism starting when I was a teenager. I had known I was a lesbian since early childhood, and the big trans “movement” really kicked off when I was in high school, so I naturally fell in with the trans activism because there was the common belief that trans people were the “most oppressed” members of the LGBT community so us “cis” gays needed to really stick our necks out for them.
Early on I was very very supportive of trans people. I had a lot of friends who were trans, but most of them were transmen and transmascs, and the few transfems I knew were actually gay men. I had no knowledge of the lesbian fetishist males yet. My trans friends were the very dysphoric types, so I really felt bad for them for their mental struggles and so I was willing to brush it off when they made misogynistic comments. But as I got more familiar with the trans community, the issues became a lot harder to ignore.
The treatment of transmen at the hands of transwomen was pretty disturbing to me. It was always obviously blatant misogyny coming from the males of the community, but to protect everyone’s feelings we all had to pretend like I was something else. We had to pretend that the male trans people being misogynistic to the female trans people were actually “punching up” at their oppressors (lol) and if you don’t play along with this nonsense you’re basically worse than a Nazi and are actively genociding trans people.
The invention of terms like “afab/amab” and “TMA/TME” made it very obvious that trans people don’t actually view themselves as the gender they identify as, they still very much cling to their biological sex as the core part of their identity. The trans community insisting that “amab”/“TMA” people are altogether more important, intelligent, interesting, and oppressed than the highly privileged, whiny, bitchy “afab”/“TME” people kind of gives the whole thing away.
But the biggest issue, and the one that fully peaked me, was the way the trans community treats lesbians. Once I was fully involved with the overarching trans community, I came to realize that the homosexual male transfems I knew personally were kind of outliers, and that the majority of them are heterosexual men who transition because they fried their brains on lesbian fetish pornography and hentai.
Even when I was fully supportive of the trans community, I would never even consider dating a trans woman, because I am a lesbian and therefore not attracted to biological males. It wasn’t out of hatred, it was just my natural, unchangeable sexuality. I had thought that most trans people would accept that, and only a few fringe outliers would be angry, but nope. EVERYONE was mad about that.
The trans community fetishizes the shit out of lesbians but absolutely DESPISES real lesbians. Any lesbian who is not willing to date a biological male is treated like a criminal. Even if I very calmly and respectfully said “I want all trans people to live their lives how they want and be comfortable in their own body, but I personally am not comfortable interacting sexually with a penis” I would be crucified as a evil TERF witch.
My dignity as a lesbian will not allow me to support a community that takes every opportunity to attack and degrade me based on my sexuality.
That’s the basic gist of what made me stop supporting the trans community. And this is a very abridged version, there were actually a lot of other specific things that happened that eventually pushed me over the edge, but these are the main reasons.
Nice to hear from so many young people who came of age at the height of TRA mania.
Even if I very calmly and respectfully said “I want all trans people to live their lives how they want and be comfortable in their own body, but I personally am not comfortable interacting sexually with a penis” I would be crucified as a evil TERF witch.
No other human rights movement on earth think breaking down people’s sexual boundaries is necessary for progress. This is one of biggest red flags something isn’t right with this “movement”
If hormones and transition are so magical and miraculous why isn’t he on the men’s team? And how come trans men don’t need gender validation when playing sport but transwomen will die if they aren’t validated?
If it’s possible for a trans man to play according to his sex, why do yall act like it’s genocide to suggest transwomen do the same thing?
And why are women’s spaces a dumping ground for all things “trans”, while men and men’s spaces are unbothered and untouched as fuck?
Like I don’t care how much of a trans ally you are, you don’t find this shit inconsistent and stupid?
let me say smth controversial….i was watching a video where someone was talking abt an older person saying “homosexual” instead of gay not in an offensive way just as in that is the term that they were used to using and didn’t realize that gay in the more used term now etc and the person in the video was acting like they were saying a slur i’m like………you ppl have allowed straight ppl to completely normalize using the word queer which was used in the first place solely to be a slur to essentially call gay ppl freaks & u freely use this term & are not bothered by straight ppl using it to the point where gay ppl are pretty much only referred to by that word now endlessly despite it still actively being used as a slur btw but u are complaining abt someone using homosexual which is ultimately just the formal word for gay which like the word gay has been used as a slur but is not in its origins a slur. like i’m sorry but ppl cannot be serious. i would 1000% rather any day someone call me homosexual over queer. like yes i am homosexual but i am not a freak for it. but this phenomena does not surprise me that is for sure!
Gay and homosexual were seen as offensive because of the fact they're used to refer to/describe gay people.
Queer is a slur because it's derogatory (queer = different, weird) and thus is used to refer to gay people (who are viewed as different, weird.)
Infuriating how this is conflated.
Look at how we advertise THE SAME PRODUCT based on sex
I need to get new sweat pants, mine are wearing out, so I'm browsing different companies. Look at how Urban Planet chooses to separate the male/female sweat categories. The men are outside, in reasonable clothes, in poses one might actually make.
The woman is not wearing reasonable clothes, despite this being technically loungewear. Instead of wearing pants, she's wearing shorts so tiny that it's hard to tell if she's actually wearing bottoms. The collar on her shirt is falling so low down her side she's one deep breath away from a tit jumping out, and she's in a pose I've never seen ANYBODY just casually make ever AND it makes it harder to actually see the clothes.
Again, these choices both take you to sweat shirts and sweat pants, just one section is marketed for men and one is marketed for women. And yet, the women's display photo is 100% trying to be softcore porn, while the men's photo actually shows off the clothes.
The men advertise the clothes they are wearing, the woman is what is being advertised, she is the product.
this is insane. that's not even just styles differently-she's 100% styled to look like she's not wearing pants. with her legs spread. smiling and looking up at supposedly someone else. insane.
and also, it's doing a bad job advertising the product!! it's off the shoulder but it looks stretched to the limit, like it's tight and uncomfortable on her arms. because of her pose, you can't really see the fit of the sweatshirt. is it cropped? it almost looks like it but i can't really tell! is it tight on her stomach or loose? you cant tell!
"I'm a bi woman and my boyfriend is also bi, so we're a queer couple."
Hetero relationship.
"I'm a transman and I'm dating a transwomen, and since we're both trans, we're a queer couple."
Hetero relationship.
"I'm a transman dating a cisman and we're SO gay!"
Hetero relationship.
I'm a woman dating a transwoman and we're both lesbians!"
Hetero relationship.
"I'm a AFAB nonbinary person dating a AMAB nonbinary person and we're very queer!"
Hetero relationship.
"I'm a woman dating a man and we're very kinky, so we're queer!"
Hetero relationship.
"I'm a woman dating a man who likes painting his nails, so that means we're-"
Hetero relationship.
Female x Male = Hetero relationship. It doesn't matter how different and unconventional you think your relationship is from most hetero couples. It's primarily women I see insisting their hetero relationship is not like the others and is "queer" because it's not blatantly based on Christian tradcon values.
And yeah I get that bi people don't stop being bi when they're in a relationship with the opposite sex. But a female person dating a male person still makes the relationship itself hetero.
the right: i want a woman to cook and clean and fuck
the left: omg…..girls?????? girls are soooooo soft……and soo good at organizing??? god i love how they organize their closets it’s soo cute…i just…wow…ugh date a girl who’s cute and soft and cooks for you
The right: blue for boys, pink for girls- that’s the way God intended
The left: I dunno I just feel like…..to me, pink is for the girlies? Like if you really like pink you might be a girl? Like it’s worth exploring your girlhood and feminity if that resonates with your authentic self. And blue?? It gives off a masculine vibe. Like if pink is not your vibe and blue feels right to you, you’re probably just a dude. Go forth my guy.
the right: bitch bitch faggot faggot queer queer
the left: like…. bitch bitch faggot faggot queer queer 🫶
This is why I say I’m independent.
this is why I say I’m a radical 💜
Ugh pride is starting soon…I loved it as a baby gay but now it’s just an entire month of straight people rubbing their theft and bastardisation of our cause in our faces.
The thing that really disturbs people is the idea of a feminism that directs attention, care and compassion from women towards other women, rathern than from women to men. There are many ways to vilify such a proposition: 'man-hating' used to be the popular term of dismissal. No it appears 'exlusionary' has taken the place.
Victoria Smith (2025): Unkind. How 'be kind' entrenches sexism. Fleet, p. 37
it's so insane that so many gay and bi people just accepted the queer label and now people will ask "are you queer?" like that's normal lmao. now straight people say it like it's nothing it's CRAZYYY imagine any other group being bullied into doing this.
we need one hot gay male celebrity de jour to just passively say "I think it's kind of unchic to use that word" in a non-political context and the walls may start to crumble. like just on jimmy kimmel promoting something gen z likes saying "oh, I don't use that word. it's not very chic imo"
I've been meeting more and more 21-24 year old trans people and so many of them are just so... childish?? They still act like teenagers. And at first I was judgemental of them. I do not respect that they are grown adults that continue acting this way.
But I've also learned that a lot of them started transitioning at 14, 15, 16, etc. So fucking young. Indoctrinated and put on this horrific medical malpractice train that they just can't get off of. There's a really disturbing lack of self-reflection that baffled me until I realized that transition has basically stunted them.
This applies more for the ~everyone is valid uwu~ crowd than the transmedicalists, who usually want to just move on with their lives. But these people are stuck in this ideological bubble where they cut out anyone who disagrees with them. They reject anything that makes them feel uncomfortable, that threatens their perception of their gender, which is so fragile that it can't be held under scrutiny. And they know it. It's why the act the way they do. Allowing their views about gender and the world at large to develop would also mean leaving behind their zealotry. They cannot do this because of how invested, physically and socially, they have become in this ideology. Leaving it behind would mean loss of friends, loss of ego, maybe even a full detransition. It would mean death.
this tracks with my experience of transition, which i started at 18-almost-19. i felt stuck there maturity-wise for so long, invested in this one narrow goal to the neglect of any other life goals i could have been pursuing. i did not engage in age-appropriate growth during this time (at least not willingly).
happy to say i have since caught up to myself, a process in which detransition was only the first step.
I just realized that the term "penetrative sex" strips women who participate in it off of agency and focuses solely on male perspective of things. If such sex was framed from a woman's perspective, it'd be called something like "enfolding sex" or "encasing sex", as if the woman attaches her vagina, which is an autonomous organ that doesn't need to be filled in order to be complete, onto something unnecessary. Kinda like grabbing a rock with your hand or something. We: 1) fully acknowledge our active participation in the process of grabbing a rock; 2) fully realize that our palms are complete, autonomous organs without a rock in them – and that's why we don't say that a rock enters, or penetrates, our hands, we say that we actively grab it, or encase it.
Happy pride month to people who experience same-sex attraction! 🌈💜