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They/them/theirs| Gay podcast trash trying their best

[estrogenesis-eeveeangelion]

in case you forgot, i can guarantee you that nobody who is running an online harassment campaign is remotely serious about the actual real world issue of child sexual assault and they should not be taken seriously or listened to at all

[estrogenesis-eeveeangelion]

like, you don't actually need to know what was said or not said. once you recognize the tactic of using the emotionally inflaming nature of this issue to make people stop caring about details and distinctions like "did anything actually happen or are we discussing someone's words," it looks the same every time, because it is the same every time. these witch hunting motherfuckers are, AT BEST, LARPing as a million little kiwifarms chris hansens. you don't owe them an explanation or a careful reading of the back and forth. these people are not serious about the one issue they keep harping on, because they are not serious people, and do not need to be taken seriously.

[letterful]

i do love listmaking…

[letterful]

here be two decidedly incomprehensive lists based on highly arbitrary criteria — off the top of my head and in no particular order:

rattling like a bag of bones:

"gretel, from a sudden clearing" & "the promise" & "what the silence says" & "calvary" by marie howe,

"i watched you disappear” by anya krugovoy silver,

"the song of hen's head" & "this is a photograph of me" & "a sad child" by margaret atwood,

"bruise ghazal" & "i go back to may 1937" by sharon olds,

"harold's leap" & "deeply morbid" & "the orphan reformed" & "do take muriel out" & "not waving but drowning" by stevie smith,

"we who are your closest friends" by phillip lopate,

"the loft" by richard jones,

"eating together" & "death poem" & "party" & "you with the crack running through you" & "the numbers" by kim addonizio,

"thanks" by w. s. merwin,

"the bee meeting" & "lady lazarus" & "daddy" & "sheep in fog" & "fever 103" by sylvia plath,

"yesterday he still looked in my eyes" by marina tsvetaeva,

"we don't know how to say goodbye" & "the last toast" by anna akhmatova,

"unknown girl in the maternity ward" & "lessons in hunger" & "the truth the dead know" by anne sexton,

"anne sexton’s last letter to god" by tracey herd,

"aubade" & "the mower" by philip larkin,

"the blue bowl" by jane kenyon,

"her long illness" by donald hall,

"myth" by natasha trethewey,

"the drowned girl" by bertolt brecht,

"in bertram's garden" by donald justice,

"ovid in the third reich" by geoffrey hill,

"report from a besieged city" by zbigniew herbert,

"napoleon" by miroslav holub,

"me up at does" by e.e. cummings,

"snow line" by john berryman,

"the hollow men" by t. s. eliot,

"dedication" & "in warsaw" by czesław miłosz—

resonating like a bright bell:

"what the living do" & "my dead friends" & "magdalene, afterwards" by marie howe,

"funny" by anna kamieńska,

"woman unborn & "i'll open the window" &  “tomorrow they’ll cut me open” by anna świrszczyńska,

"the book of hours" by b. h. fairchild,

"there is a gold light in certain old paintings" by donald justice,

"when eurydice saw him..." (an excerpt) by gregory orr,

"sometimes, when the light" & "the blind leading the blind" & "there are mornings" & "monet refuses the operation" by lisel mueller,

"try to praise the mutilated world" & "transformation" by adam zagajewski,

"the end and the beginning" & "the tower of babel" & "discovery" & "thank-you note" by wisława szymborska,

"all in green went my love riding" by e. e. cummings,

"while eating a pear" & "the dead" by billy collins,

"never again would the birds' song be the same" by robert frost,

"a meeting" by wendell berry, 

"death at daybreak" by anne reeve aldrich,

"next time" by joyce sutphen,

"the god abandons antony" by c. p. cavafy,

"musee des beaux arts" by w. h. auden,

"failing and flying" by jack gilbert,

"goodtime jesus" by james tate,

"all my friends are finding new beliefs" by christian wiman,

"i’m glad your sickness" by marina tsvetaeva,

"angels" by maurya simon,

"the saints" by margaret atwood,

"dirge without music" by edna st. vincent millay,

"a refusal to mourn the death, by fire, of a child in london" & "fern hill" & "do not go gentle into that good night" & "and death shall have no dominion" by dylan thomas,

"high windows" & "an arundel tomb" by philip larkin,

"please read" by mary ruefle,

"it was not death, for i stood up" by emily dickinson,

"men made out of words" by wallace stevens,

"ash wednesday" by t. s. eliot,

"on angels" & "this world" & "if there is no god" & "encounter" by czesław miłosz.

[corinablz]

so excited about the remake i had to force myself to draw something

[gatheringbones]

Amy Marvin, the first trans poem

[bisexualshakespeare]

[ID: The First Trans Poem

Every two years a trans person who came out two years ago declares herself an old school transsexual. Every trans elder is

like so old now, in their thirties or even late twenties. Every rich trans person who just came out is a new hope for trans people, the

one to really get this right. Every trans person who got a media job invented gender fluidity a year ago. Every trans person who tracked

tenure before transing out is the leading intellectual. Every trans person speaks for every trans person, which is to say there is only one trans person. Every

decade is a new trans movement, the first trans literature, the first talk show interview, the first trans billionaire, the first transsexual polemic, the first arrival

of trans arrival. Every older transsexual is problematic. Every trans discourse is the new discourse. Every trans joke is the new joke, told over and over. /]

[crematedequally]

Does anyone know of n95 masks that don’t have any latex in the straps or bands and are safe for extremely sensitive skin? I got contact dermatitis from a new mask that was straight out of the box, and it’s not the first time I’ve had a reaction to masks and I’ve tried multiple brands. I had it on for less than half an hour before my eyes started swelling up. My face is all swollen, and I’ve got a bright red stripe right along where the mask sat and it’s been almost 6 hours. Benadryl helped with the pain but my eyes are puffy and everything feels very tender.

My GP hasn’t been able to figure out if I’m reacting to the latex by itself or if there’s something else in the n95s I’m reacting to. I need to be masking in public and I would appreciate any recommendations, cause I want to be able to go out safely without risking illness especially as it gets colder out.

[tiffanyisafeminist]

N95 Particulate Respirator [25ct Box] - NIOSH-Approved - Indiana Face Mask $29.95

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These are advertised as latex free, and as someone with a latex allergy and sensistive skin they never given me any problems!

[plaidos]

do u remember when the wider feminist position on gendered sport was that we should abolish it, and that women's accomplishments can be measured side by side (& indeed, neck and neck) with men's? what the fuck happened to that? (*whispering* i know what happened. it was the terf movement.)

[cazort]

can someone link me to some material on this, because i'm having trouble finding it. have there really been respected feminist authors and activists calling for everyone to compete against each other independently of sex/gender?

[tiffanyisafeminist]

Yes I can!

First of all:

Girls Are Equal Too: Education, Body Politics, and the Making of Teenage Feminism by Lovell

This is a recent paper, but it is citing primary accounts of teenage feminists in the 60s and 70s. (I will give a content warning for this article for a brief mention of implied sexual assault between teachers and students [pages 77-78]) A number of these girls and young women are writing pre-Title IX, the article talks about other elements of sexual discrimination in education (dress codes, sex ed etc). I will draw attention to this anecdote:

"In 1971 high school girls in Maryland persuaded their local school board to permit girls to compete directly with boys in such competitive non contact varsity sports golf, track, and tennis, rather than allocating funding to establish an interscholastic sports program for women"

and this anecdote:

"While the passage of Title IX did not end gender discrimination, the ruling provided a legal framework with which teenagers like Morris could fight for equal access. With Time magazine's breakdown of Title IX law in hand, fourteen-year-old Morris marched into her principal's office and demanded the ability to play sports, stating, 'Hi, I know my rights, okay. I really want to play soccer. I'm a really bad halfback but I have the right to play.' Although exceptional female athletes might be accepted on male teams, Morris has argued that Title IX gave girls 'the right to play badly' in order to improve their athleticism'"

Second:

Playing With the Boys by McDonagh and Pappano

The internet archive has a full copy of this book, it's a very important book talking about gender and sports, and is a very good takedown of sex-segregated sports from 2007, certainly not the oldest argument, but very much pre-TERF ideologies taking a real hold on the large culture. I'll put this quote from the intro here because I think it sums up the book pretty well.

"This book challenges how we think about organized sports, as participants, parents, and fans. Athletics are a visible part of American culture and it's tempting to accept what is presented. That is why it's critical to put sports into a legal, historical, and social context and to challenge the gut assumption that Title IX provided a fix and a level playing field for females in athletics. Yes, we can credit Title IX with getting more women involved in sports programs. However, as sports scholars Barrie Houlihan and Anita White argue, sports as a developmental tool for individuals and for society at large involves a lot more than just 'getting more people to play more sport'. As we will discuss, a serious problem in organized sports today, in spite of and even because of Title IX, is the way policies codify historic myths about female physical inferiority and foster a system which, while offering women more opportunities than ever before, still keeps them from being perceived as equal athletes to men."

McDonagh and Pappano take the position (and I think it was a pretty accepted position at the time) that it's pretty insulting and sexist to women to argue that men are just naturally better at sports than them.

Third:

Together Yet Still Not Equal by Dashper

This article from the Asia-Pacific Journal of Health, Sport and Physical Education is more recent, but is also very interesting. It's about equestrian sports at the professional/Olympic level--which is the only sport at the Olympics not to be segregated by sex. There is like literally no compelling argument that men have "biological advantages" over women in equestrian sports--yet "rankings show that men are performing disproportionately well in elite equestrian sport" This is more of a counter-argument to sex-integrated sports; I think that to say 'every feminist was for sex-integrated sports before TERF ideologies took of in 2017' is certainly an oversimplification, but a lot of the counter-arguments (and I think counter-argument is even too strong of a word here) is not 'men have biological advantages over women' but rather 'men have social advantages over women'. Men are socialized to care about sports, and are allowed to be physical and athletic and don't face the same barriers to entry that women do. Iris Marion Young's essay Throwing Like a Girl* (which is--if you are studying any sort of gendered embodiment, or physicality--the essay you need to read, and so influential it has it's own wikipedia page) came to a very similar conclusion in 1980--differences between athletic performance between men and women are social.

Fourth:

Testing Sex and Gender in Sports: Reinventing, Reimagining, and Reconstructing Histories by Heggie

This is more of a historical background for sex segregation in sports and less of a feminist argument for it--but I'm including it here because A.) it's very interesting, B.) understanding the historical context is very useful in learning more about sex segregation in sports and C.) mostly for this quote:

"What the sex test effectively does, therefore, is provide an upper limit for women's sporting performance; there is a point at which your masculine-style body is declared 'too masculine', and you are disqualifies, regardless of your personal gender identity. For men there is no equivalent upper physiological limit--no kind of genetic, or hormonal, or physiological advantage is tested for, even if these would give a 'super masculine' athlete a distinct advantage over the merely very athletic 'normal' male."

This is an article from 2010, from a scientific history journal not a feminist one. I'm mostly putting this here to illustrate the point that, yes there were feminist academics and activists who were writing in favor of sex-integrated sports way before TERFs even existed, but this was such an accepted feminist point that it went outside feminist circles. Like She's The Man, the Amanda Bynes movie that was a re-telling of Twelfth Night came out in 2006, and I don't consider Amanda Bynes a bastion of feminist theory, but the idea that men are inherently better at sports than women was so discredited that a 2006 Amanda Bynes movie talked about how stupid it was. It was very established in feminist thought and a general liberal feminist culture that men were not biologically better at sports and thinking so made you sexist.

*I personally wouldn't recommend Young's essay, I think that 1.) there's a lot of critiques to be made of Young's understanding of disability and disability feminism and 2.) it's a pretty dense read and if you're not super familiar with sociology and philosophies of the body and embodiment it can be tough to get through, but it is a very influential essay which is more to the point here

TL;DR Gendered differences in sports performance was very largely explained by social differences and not biological ones by feminist authors and activists since at least the '60s and has been accepted by the larger culture since at least the '00s. TERFs are not drawing on feminist scholarship when they argue for sex-segregated sports and are instead reviving deeply out-dated sexist standards that are inaccurate, dangerous and insulting to trans people and cis women.

These are just a few sources, but hopefully they're helpful, a lot of sources that these articles are referencing look pretty interesting as well, but I haven't read any personally so I can't vouch for them, but I'm sure that there's a lot more references to sex-segregation in sports in the works cited. :)

[theegosystem-deactivated2024012]

It's so weird talking to people who's view of "here's the way life is for everyone" is shattered as soon as they talk to someone with disabilities (physical, mental illness, any). Like you'll say you'll have a problem and instead of helping you they'll argue with you about how you're not actually facing that problem. Like,

Me: Hey, I'm really struggling to find a job and a part of it is my resume. I was depressed & psychotic during highschool so I didn't do anything to gain skills or achievements to put on my resume. I also don't have anyone to put as a reference. What can I do?

Them: You can add your skills, hobbies, clubs you're in, and different volunteer work you've done! You can also get your teacher as a reference.

Me: I already know what to put on a resume, my issue is that I don't have things that I can use. Also, I'm in my mid 20s so I don't know if I can put my highschool teacher as a reference.

Them: Well if you're a part of a church or an activity group, you could add that. Also, think of any projects you've worked on in the past.

Me: I already know you can put these things on a resume. I'm not looking for suggests of things I've already done, I'm looking for what I can do now if I haven't done anything.

Them: There's no way you didn't do anything during highschool?? What about some odd jobs you definitely did for extra money, like babysitting or mowing the lawn?

Me: I spent all of highschool either in modified classes or in bed doing nothing - not even hobbies, what about that do you not understand?

And then you talk to someone who's also disabled and they're like "Here's a bunch of jobs you can do from home that don't pay much but look good on a resume, here's some free online courses that also look good on a resume, here's how you can be making small amounts of money in the meantime, here's some things you can put besides a professional reference, and here are your rights if your future employer tries to take advantage of your disability - which you probably shouldn't tell them about unless you need accommodations."

And suddenly my will to continue trying returns!

[chickeninatophat]

c...can we maybe get some of those ideas in full? Pls?

[theegosystem-deactivated2024012]

Two other people asked as well so okay! Though this post will be rather long.

Freelance Jobs You Do From Home That Look Cool On A Future Resume

Please research any company before sign up with then. So many companies are scams and pay you way less than you deserve for your work. Go to r/freelancers and search to make sure nobody has had some horrid experiences. There's also usually reviews of a company on YouTube as well.

Transcribing - adding subtitles to videos for deaf and other hard of hearing people. You usually read a big instruction manual, do two or three tests to see how well you can follow the instruction manual, and then get an e-mail if you can work with them or not. Depending on where you sign up, you can also fill out which topics you're knowledable on and less likely to make mistakes on when transcribing.

Translating - same as transcribing, but now you're translating one language into another. I have not done this before, so I'd suggest talking to people who have.

Article Writing - there are different websites you can sign up to work for where someone sends in a request for an article about a certain topic, you can write that article, and if they like it they can purchase it from you. Some websites have a ranking system where the more good reviews your article gets, the more money you'll get paid.

Article Editing - you can also get payed to fix typos and reorganize an article (or list) if writing isn't your thing.

Top 10 Lists - There are different sites that will pay you to write 10 ten lists. They usually require a specific amount of words and have an author's guide on their site.

Graphic Designer - if you go to different generic freelance websites, you can often find people who are searching for someone to design logos for their company or banners for their websites. It helps if you have a portfolio as well.

Virtual Assistent - scheduling appointments, answering calls, and managing email accounts from your own home. I haven't done this one so again, do more research.

Small Amounts Of Money

Qmee - I've been using this app for awhile called qmee where you do surveys for money. Surveys usually pay anywhere in between 30 cents and 2 dollars, and they have a feature where if the survey asks you anything sketchy then you can report them. You can also cash out whenever, like you don't have to build up a certain amount. (If you aren't American, you may only get a couple surveys per day.) An extra 20 dollars a month isn't much but it's nice.

Fiverr - A website where you state your talents and you can take on other people's smaller projects for small amounts of money. A funny example is this YouTube skit where someone paid some people on fiverr to come up with a break-up letter. I believe you can also keep a portfolio for any projects you make during your freelance jobs on fiverr too.

Redbubble - this is where you can put different designs onto different types of clothing, notebooks, mugs, hats, etc. It helps if you have a design that's from a fandom, references a meme, or fufills a niche. You can also go to TeeSpring if you want to put multiple designs on one item, but you'd have to promote your items yourself as TeeSpring has this issue where you can't search for new stores who aren't already popular.

Test Products - once again, please research any company you're going to do this for. There are companies that will send you products for a week or two and ask for a report on how well it works, what you like/dislike, etc.

If You Don't Have Anyone To Put On Your Resume As References

Volunteer Somewhere - animal shelters, tutoring, soup kitchens, summer programs, public libraries, etc. If you're able to volunteer somewhere, you can ask the people there if you can use them as a reference.

Volunteer Online - you can also do online volunteer work if you're unable to do physical volunteer work. Here's a list of examples of online volunteer work which includes things like creating a large amount of thank-you cards, transcribing books into digital form, or answer texts or calls on a crisis line. This may be a better option due to covid.

Add Personal References - friends and family members do work (just don't list them as professional references). It's especially helpful if you've done a project for/with them as well.

Or don't add references at all - references look good on a resume, but unless you're writing a federal resume you kind of don't need them? If someone is interested in hiring you, they may ask if you have any references. You can just say "no, this is my first job" (if it is). They might ask why you haven't worked before, but you can just say that it's personal or private information. Or you can give a vague answer like dealing with family matters.

Once you have some, this is how you would format your references.

None of these are long term solutions and not everything will work out for everybody. These are just helpful suggestions I've received over the years!

[vitariesocks]

Because my comics have gone around the internet, many people have asked if I’ve “gotten better yet”. The answer is a firm NO because that’s not how post-viral illness triggered by an infection that causes organ and brain damage works. Please consider your behavior and who you are leaving behind.

Check out the People’s CDC here where they provide weekly updates on the COVID situation in the U.S.

ID in alt text and below!

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[omghotmemes]

Senpai says you’re welcome

[quintusbenedictus]

Reblogging again because I just realized that if I had this advice in high school I would’ve never made a tumblr account.

[unpopularly-opinionated]

Also works for most of those news sites like WSJ or NYT that only let you read a little bit, or block adblockers. Also some disable the scroll bar but if you go to the right side of the console after hitting F12 and look for the CSS element “overflow” and change it from “hidden” to “visible” then you can continue scrolling for free. Might have to click around on different parts of the page to find it, but it should work.

[metamorphesque]

What the Living Do, Marie Howe

[cloudbeam]

Written for her brother, John Howe, who died of complications of AIDS

[itsgonnabeanofrommedawg]

full poem:

Johnny, the kitchen sink has been clogged for days, some utensil probably fell down there. And the Drano won’t work but smells dangerous, and the crusty dishes have piled up

waiting for the plumber I still haven’t called. This is the everyday we spoke of. It’s winter again: the sky’s a deep, headstrong blue, and the sunlight pours through

the open living-room windows because the heat’s on too high in here and I can’t turn it off. For weeks now, driving, or dropping a bag of groceries in the street, the bag breaking,

I’ve been thinking: This is what the living do. And yesterday, hurrying along those wobbly bricks in the Cambridge sidewalk, spilling my coffee down my wrist and sleeve,

I thought it again, and again later, when buying a hairbrush: This is it. Parking. Slamming the car door shut in the cold. What you called that yearning.

What you finally gave up. We want the spring to come and the winter to pass. We want whoever to call or not call, a letter, a kiss—we want more and more and then more of it.

But there are moments, walking, when I catch a glimpse of myself in the window glass, say, the window of the corner video store, and I’m gripped by a cherishing so deep

for my own blowing hair, chapped face, and unbuttoned coat that I’m speechless: I am living. I remember you.

[peacockbutch]

[ ID: a screenshot of the last two stanzas of the above poem. /end ID ]

[maeamian]

Hey Americans, double check that you don't have an election tomorrow, Nov 7th 2023, I know the off years are harder to keep track of, but it'd be a shame if Moms for Liberty gets their people on your school district's school boards because of it. If you don't have an election, great!, but just give it a double check for me if you're not sure ok?

[officialspec]

walkable cities also means sittable cities send tweet

[officialspec]

some people are responding to this like its a joke and im going to assume u are the type of people to say "its only a 3 minute walk" when i tell them the nearest bench is too far away

[officialspec]

also anyone who thinks "3 minutes isnt THAT bad" you will be old one day. and you will wish the bench was closer

[transmutationisms]

quite insidious actually how often people on here just operate under the assumption that anyone who is not sufficiently ~recovered~ is simply too stupid or ill-informed to identify or advocate for their own best interests. there is no other reason you may be living in a way deemed (or even genuinely experienced as!) dysfunctional, so you obviously need 97 condescending posts per day explaining that therapy exists. health as a standard imposed externally & therefore under no obligation to align with the individual's own values, desires, or stated needs. once you start noticing this logic it's hard to invisibilise it again lmao

[transmutationisms]

also i think people who do this frequently conflate distress and dysfunction in a very specific way. i'd argue that often someone living in a way that causes them genuine distress is actually doing so precisely because it allows them to continue functioning in one way or another. the demands to recover are particularly hollow and cruel when you understand that either a fully 'recovered' person is, in their minds, a perfect useful cog in the capitalist machine, or else what they're actually demanding is that you sacrifice whatever tools are allowing you to survive in this machine in the name of wellness, a project for which they will offer you generally exactly zero material support. lol and lmao, even

[some-smol-cat-deactivated202601]

people who write IDs and also have 500 badges after their url

who is this for

thats it thats the post

[some-smol-cat-deactivated202601]

actually no i will elaborate a little. do you know what all those badges mean for a screen reader?

each one is its own separate object that has to be scrolled through.

there is no way to skip to the body of the post, so the only real option is to either keep pushing through all the badges or go down to the bottom of the post and read it backwards.

or you know just skip the post entirely that's nice too tbh

[pasteboard]

hey netizens! i'm not sure how many people are aware, but youtube's been slowly rolling out a new anti-adblock policy that can't be bypassed with the usual software like uBlock Origin and Pi-Hole out of the gate

BUT, if you're a uBlock Origin user (or use an adblocker with a similar cosmetics modifier), you can add these commands in the uBlock dashboard (under My Filters) to get rid of it!

youtube.com##+js(set, yt.config_.openPopupConfig.supportedPopups.adBlockMessageViewModel, false) youtube.com##+js(set, Object.prototype.adBlocksFound, 0) youtube.com##+js(set, ytplayer.config.args.raw_player_response.adPlacements, []) youtube.com##+js(set, Object.prototype.hasAllowedInstreamAd, true)

reblog to help keep the internet less annoying and to tell corporations that try shit like this to go fuck themselves <3

[gothhabiba]

people who are like “please stop using incomprehensible words like ‘ontological’ and ‘epistemology’ and ‘teleological’ in the social sciences”..... okay but.... counterpoint..... you could consider, god forbid, learning something

[pixelydia]

no fr. like i'm studying physics and everyone understands that a term like 'perturbative quantum chromodynamics' serves a specific purpose and that you can break it down even if you haven't encountered it before. and that's a super niche example! like, it comes up if you're thinking about the possibility of quark matter at the center of high-mass neutron stars.

but in the social sciences and humanities, if you use a word that has a precise meaning and is a VERY helpful thing to be able to refer to (e.g. if your field studies the nature of being then you might want a word for "studying the nature of being"), then people will accuse you of incomprehensibility, inaccessibility, and deliberate obfuscation. the problem must be the bad scary elitist writer, not the reader who expects to be able to understand a field they're unfamiliar with without performing a single google search.

maybe an even better example is medicine. we can accept that there's a reason to refer specifically to a pheochromocytoma rather than another type of tumor. why not extend the same benefit of the doubt to other fields?

(the answer is that some people don't have a desire to learn more because it would challenge their feeling that they know everything already. they've decided the social sciences and humanities simply can't know more than their own intuition about the world. and when they encounter difficulty in understanding the ideas of people who literally do this for a living, they decide there's a problem with their communication instead of just looking it up.)

there are genuine barriers to accessibility in academia. massive, massive barriers. this isn't one. i promise if you take two minutes to look up something new to you it will open up the whole world.

[telumendils]

too many people on dragon age tiktok made comments about how they were glad cassandra pentaghast was straight because they think it subverted some nebulous stereotype about wlw and i just.

idk. i am a nonbinary lesbian who hates playing video games with a male avatar and i think i deserved to romance cassandra too. also there is nothing particularly subversive to me about a straight female warrior in fantasy.

[anneapocalypse]

new rule if you tell me that straight women characters having short hair and swords is "breaking stereotypes" you are now required to name five of those stereotypically masculine lesbian characters in media. you can just send the list right to my inbox. looking forward to it.