iris here @irisofthemoon - Tumblr Blog

Hot take but I really do think that some of y’all need to consider how/why/when/how often you’re making fun of straight people for being straight

I do it too, I’m not going to pretend I don’t make jokes about the hets, or the down with cis bus, or whatever

But I recently befriended a cis, straight dude and I have watched him be dismissed, degraded, and unambiguously insulted for the perceived “crime” of being straight — all in queer environments where he is allegedly “completely welcome” and surrounded by “friends”

This guy is not a toxic person! But I have seen him be made to feel so small and like his comfort and safety in those spaces are conditional on his silence and acceptance of being treated like a human dunk zone, and I think that some of y’all have had so much shit from straight/cis people that the second you feel like you’ve got an inch, you want to luxuriate in the perceived catharsis of bullying someone who— actually —doesn’t deserve it

And until he very, very carefully mentioned to me in private that it makes him feel bad, I didn’t even clock that I was involved in doing that, that it had become so instinctive for me to make casual jokes like that, and that— well meaning or otherwise —I had been contributing to an environment that made someone I really really like feel like shit

So, I dunno, I think maybe some of y’all should think about that too

thlayli-rah

Coming back to say that while a lot of the responses to this post have been mainly positive, some folks have an attitude that it should be something that my friend— or any cis, straight man —should just be able to get over, because fuck ‘em, that’s why, because they’re in a queer space and they should shut up and accept it, because you suffer as a queer person and they should have to suffer too— regardless of whether or not this specific person has done anything to wrong you

I’m gonna say this point blank— you’re a tar pit if you think this way

Your suffering does not make you special, you are not granted brand new permissions to be belligerent and cruel because you have been treated poorly, straight people aren’t an oppressed class, no, but they’re people who are entitled to the same amount of basic decency that you, yourself, are entitled to

It feels good when you’ve been treated like shit to then go forward and treat other people like shit. That’s what you’re admitting. Does it make you feel good to do harm? Are you proud of that? Are you comfortable with being that kind of person? Because I dunno about the rest of you— but I realized I wasn’t, and it turns out it’s pretty fucking easy to change

therubberducker

foenixed

"Why would this character be jealous of their friend's romantic relationships? Clearly they're in love with them" I don't know if you guys have ever Had Friends but it's actually pretty common for people to feel jealous if their best friend suddenly has less time for them and is prioritising someone they just met over them. That's not inherently romantic, that's the general human desire to be valued by the people you value.

kiragecko

My Very Little Sister had to move out of 3 living situations because her friends/cousins found romantic partners and didn't need a roommate anymore. She started getting really grouchy whenever a friend mentioned romance after a while.

My cousin lost his best friend of 20+ years because the friend's girlfriend decided he shouldn't see anyone else. For years my cousin was leery about anyone else starting romantic relationships, and acted kinda jealous and resentful.

I had to make clear boundaries with my now-husband, explaining that I was NOT going to be investing all of my limited emotional energy into our relationship, he had to be willing to share. And my emotional energy is VERY limited, so he struggled! If I hadn't been so very very aromantic, and had spent as much time with him as he wanted, my other relationships would have suffered greatly. As it was, people had to get used to a changed dynamic with me - he came everywhere, because it was easier to get out of the house when he was dragging me.

People in platonic relationships have very real reasons to be jealous!

bigandtired-deactivated20250405

dragongirlsnout

i enter the shower. hours pass. i emerge from the shower, having mixed all of my soaps and scrubs and lotions and conditioners and shampoos and body washes together in the tub in precise alchemical quantities. i smell like 314 different herbs and spices. my hair will not need washing for the next 500 days. my skin has developed protective chitinous scales. i step out of the tub and immediately slip and fall on a stray puddle of mane 'n tail and sprain my pussy

alchemistdoctor

Howl Pendragon

#howls moving castle

our-queer-experience

#I don’t see anyone catching the fact that these two statements have little correlation #vaccines prevent communicable diseases #diseases caused by viruses or bacteria that we catch through the air or by touching infected surfaces or sharing fluids with another #infected individual #sometimes - if left untreated - these communicable diseases can cause chronic illnesses but most chronic illnesses are genetic or developed #during the natural course of getting old #so to use chronic illnesses as a measure for the success or vaccines is wrong #this is why science literacy is soooo so important because yes enough of us know that vaccines are important and save lives #enough of us on this post but not enough in general #but how many can say why or how they do it #that might not seem important in the grand scheme of things but if you don’t know the how or the why what are you using to say vaccines are #important? that a scientist said it? while yes 10 years ago this would have been enough there are enough quack scientist and doctors posing #as reliable resources out there that we need to be able to think critically about their statements too #and before you ever trust anything an “expert says online always check their credentials and education #ok that’s my Ted talk thank you for coming #vaccines

iggyfing

absolutely flabbergasting to see people who have so enthusiastically succumbed to despair. like okay denethor, but some of us are gonna actually face the armies of mordor in battle nonetheless.

figtreeandvine

The thing about Denethor is that he not only succumbed to despair, he wanted to ensure that Faramir succumbed with him. Similarly, a lot of people now are not only succumbing to despair, they're actively proselytizing despair, trying to convince others to join them in their hopelessness. Despair is apparently lonely and they want company in their self-immolation.

knives-in-the-dishwater

btw denethor succumbed to despair bc he was doomscrolling on the palantir. Sauron tweaked his algorithm so he only saw bad news, and he fell into the trap of thinking the world couldn't be saved.

#lotr #denethor #facts

daughter-of-sapph0

when i was a kid i was taught to be safe online. never give out my name, location, or any personally identifying information. i was told to immediately block people who ask for A/S/L. i was taught to always hide who i was, use a pseudonym, only share my email with people i absolutely trust.

and now im supposed to give my legal driver's license to every single porn website and use my email and sign up for ads and junk mail every time i want to read an article and agree to webcrawling ad tracking surveillance to do anything online anymore.

but yeah, its for kids safety. sure. i bet the panoption is much safer than the club penguin and nickelodeon dot com that i had as a kid. so glad we got rid of kid friendly spaces and in turn had to make the entire internet advertisement friendly. so glad we tore down that public park and replaced it with a strip mall and parking lot next to a police station

daysleftofsecondterm

Beautiful, you don’t HAVE to forgive them. You just can’t ridicule them after leaving for being “tainted” or “evil” or whatever the acceptable word is now. Do not punish the behaviour you want to see.

“But they should’ve known sooner” and we should’ve known sooner that Destiel was never gonna meaningfully happen outside of queerbaiting, what’s your point?

“I never want them near me” that’s fine, but you do realize to insult them, YOU have to get near THEM, right? Wouldn’t it be more conducive to what you want to just leave each other alone?

“What if one of them tries to approach me?” Then you block them online, or you keep the conversation clinical and polite irl. You do NOT take time out of your day to berate them for their old views. Your mother raised you better than that.

pavilarg0

Preserving these tags, they're very correct

llamaking

I would reblog this one million times if I could

daysleftofsecondterm

As a matter of fact you can!

#exactly this

teaboot

Can I be honest with yall I don't want to hear SHIT against cishets at pride this year

teaboot

"But it's not FOR them!!!" The biggest military power in the world belongs to a christofascist nation overseen by a felon found guilty of 34 federal crimes and has greenlit a gestapo with more direct funding than the entire military of Canada for the purpose of ethnic cleansing. Let Hetero Jessica throw some biodegradable glitter at a municipal parade

teaboot

At this point if anyone is trying to exclude anyone benignly pro-queer from a pro-queer space I'm just going to assume you're a fed or something idk like something something destabilize the movement from within or whatever

what-even-is-thiss

I think a lot of writers might benefit from giving themselves permission to get weird with format.

Use second person, drop classic rising action and climax format, write backwards, just sit in a moment, tell all you want and refuse to show, make an entire book that’s just one run on sentence, reject tropes, use all tropes, cliche yourself to death, produce something that’s completely gibberish. Break all the rules of marketability. Become ungovernable.

what-even-is-thiss

Write a story that just takes place inside one pathetic little person’s head. Do it. It’s enrichment in your enclosure.

what-even-is-thiss

Do the writer’s equivalent of playing with finger paints. Do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it

what-even-is-thiss

It’s the middle of the night and I should be sleeping but listen. Listen. Just get weird with it. Open your soul up a little bit. Like actually don’t worry about it being palatable. I’m serious. Get weirder. Get weirder right now. I’m demanding that you get weirder right now. It’s not your responsibility to make your reader feel good. It’s your job to make art, goddamnit. Make art. Make weird art. Open up your third eye and eat an entire cheesecake.

#the beauty of language is that the rules were meant to be broken #rules are just emergent patterns we’ve accepted as the standard #fuck the patterns and make your own #it might make your reader uncomfortable but sometimes that’s the point #on writing

whitepeopletwitter

The bean jar

barreboy

[My Chemical Romance voice]: When I was…. a young boy… my Father… had what he called the bean jar…

iridescentoracle

have i mentioned recently @allieinarden is the best

#I’m glad I’m not the only one who heard mcr in the background #now that I write that ofc I wasn’t the only one this is tumblr #still nice to know though

wingsseni

irina and ilyusha 🤍

#heated rivalry #ilya rozanov #irina rozanova #oh my heart

coffebits

Thinking about uncle Obi 😔

#star wars #obi wan kenobi #leia organa #luke skywalker #I just know he would’ve spoiled those kids endlessly as a specific kind of payback to Anakin

hashtag-padme-matters

Goodbye (Sad Beeps) by scadarts

originalleftist

And then R2 spent the next 20+ years fucking up Vader's shit.

Who carried the Death Star plans from Padme's daughter to Padme's son?

Who flew copilot on the mission to blow up said Death Star?

This guy.

Hello. My name is R2D2. You killed Padme. Prepare to die.

#star wars #R2D2 #padme amidala #anakin skywalker #his vengeance is strong

helenmask

She's done

#absolutely stunning #everywhere I look I find a new detail #it’s like an Easter egg hunt #lotr #Arwen

evilwriter37

Saying “this niche, properly tagged, warned, and rated piece of fiction could theoretically hurt someone” is not a good argument. This properly labeled cookie with the allergen information at the bottom that contains gluten could theoretically harm me very badly, but only if I consume it. Tags are like nutrition labels, and warnings are like allergy information. If you know you have an allergy to something, the logic is to stay away from it. It is the same with fiction. I’m not running through stores yelling at people to take all the products with gluten off the shelves just because it could hurt me. Instead I ignore it and go to the gluten free section and find cookies that are right for me. And if running through a grocery store yelling sounds ridiculous, that’s because it is. Stop doing the same with fiction.

kokichis-dead-dove-club

this is the best way i’ve seen this put!!

lynati

And just like with food, what might be harmful for one person to consume could be quite *beneficial* for others. One man’s trigger is another man’s catharsis.

randomslasher

AND if you lack the maturity/self control/awareness to stop yourself from eating things that could potentially harm you, you either 1) are too young to be making your own food choices and should be supervised by a parent/other adult who is supposed to be responsible for you (and the store clerk who put the food on the shelf is NOT) or 2) need to take accountability for your own actions, because if you deliberately consumed something you knew could hurt you as a fully autonomous adult, then you really have no one to blame but yourself.

nikoford

I’d like to add that within AO3, “Choose Not To Use Archive Warnings” is, in this food analogy, like the food labels that read “This product was manufactured in a facility where [potential food allergens] are used in the production of some products”. It’s not telling you they’re in there, but even more importantly, it’s not telling you they’re not. This is not the same as “No Archive Warnings Apply” which would be the certified [food allergen] free food. One guarantees a certain experience, the other has given you no promises as to what may or may not be included and is very much a consume-at-your-own-risk product.

sevdrag

perfection

#exactly

lilithsaintcrow

"This week I discovered the same pattern, executed by Google. Google Chrome is reaching into users' machines and writing a 4 GB on-device AI model file to disk without asking."