ToBeHonest

27 year old dude(???), here because everywhere else kind of sucks and this place sucks slightly less, talk to me sometime or don’t, i’m tired.

[lakeyyyyu]

Responding this screenshot, yknow, cause, yknow.

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

can we bring back the term "fair-weather friend" bc I feel like if fair-weather friends got called that more this whole argument about whether or not you should be there for your friends when it's inconvenient/at what point of personal inconvenience it's ok to bail on your friends would kinda fall apart bc like. we literally have a word for "friend who's only there when you don't need something from them" because the baseline expectation is that a friend should be there even when it sucks. like we used to make fun of people for bailing on their friends.

[demilypyro]

Digital circus' biggest problem is that it was written to be a niche show aimed at weird analytical queers with actual media literacy and it accidentally blew tf up and hit the mainstream and a bunch of people who have never had a second thought about anything got into it

[storm-of-feathers]

yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.

[storm-of-feathers]

I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.

[intlbipolar]

[drtanner]

This post is almost 11 years old now, so I feel like it’s time for an update:

[compiler-specific]

No, we don't need to get "regular porn" back on this website. I mean, sure it should be permitted, but esoteric bizarrely sensual videos of industrial processes & oozing goops which challenge the very notion of "pornography" are actually far superior to the derivative drivel from profit-oriented studios like Brazzers and Bang Bros

no need for tags this'll find its audience

[feather-ball]

Unironically I've come to love tumblrs surreal exploration of the erotic and explicit in the face of a draconian ban on adult content.

The Machine That Will Eat Your Hand crushing fifteen cans of paint captures more of a primal sexual feeling than I could ever get from standard porn

[charliechapstix]

I get where you coming but we actually do need "regular porn" back on this website.

The framing here is of a binary between industrial, transgressive, nudity-free erotica and profit-oriented studio pornography; when most of the porn being made today sits entirely between those two axes. Sex workers who are making the shit studios would never do, the ones who are doing it for rent, and yeah even ones who are making lame boring shit. That's "regular porn". Those are the people who fucking lost to tumblr porn ban. Brazzers didn't lose a dime.

I think unless we are able to express our bodies without shame or censorship, you're not actually challenging anything. Videos of machine eating paint cans isn't transgressive, it's allowed. Tumblr and it's shareholders are perfectly happy for you to get off to goop because that's not what stops their advertisers from pulling out.

I don't think adding "we need regular porn" to posts is funny. it's annoying and uncreative. But more importantly I think it's completely wrong in the idea that the bizarre and sensual only develops in (or as a consequence of) an absence of other outlets. In fact I'd argue its worse. We were almost on the cusp of recognising that pornography isn't defined by big studios, I remember it! and then tumblr annihilated anything but them from their ecosystem. And look at the culture here since then, its dry, puritanical, and utterly hostile. We've been set back almost 10 years of gross, esoteric weird fucking porn. Or at the very least, it wasn't and isn't happening here.

You're can't challenge the notion of pornography without sex workers. We need regular porn back.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

honestly I'm very grateful that I got involved in queer community organizing basically as soon as I turned 18, because that's how I was exposed to other queer people saying things like "I just wouldn't trust a bisexual" and "I don't believe in that privilege stuff" and "I don't like when people act like you have to be a feminist if you're gay," all of which taught me at a very young age the crucial truth that queer people can be very stupid and very wrong

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I think there's a pervasive tendency among very young baby queers to get kind of dazzled by being among other gay people for the first time and that combined with the heady drug of the first taste of independence can really make you start thinking of The Queer Community(TM) like it's one big enlightened rainbow utopia but unfortunately we have dipshits and malevolent freaks like every other demographic. Peter Thiel is in here.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

my condolences to the people learning that Peter Thiel is gay from this post

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

"hey i invented a machine to replace your workers"

"is it cheaper than the workers?"

"it is right now"

"ok everyone's super, super fired. now what"

"well now we're raising the price"

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

possible ways this could go wrong: 0

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

"they'll never see it coming" & they fuckin DONT

[uss-emberprise]

[bugwolfsstuff]

I didn't realize that this was about Project Hail Mary at first I just accepted that this was Ryan Gosling's fault and we have to kill him

[sophie-frm-mars]

The US is detransitioning prisoners and just announced that ICE can detain trans people on suspicion of visa fraud. The UK just banned all care for trans kids and is now conducting an "evidence review" into HRT for trans adults and now the biggest DIY HRT web resource just went down.

Trans people need to learn solidarity yesterday, we need to be ready to organise together and set aside anything that we need to in order to get our shit sorted out. Cis people need to take it seriously that the fascists are trying to completely extinguish transess from existence

[sophie-frm-mars]

One immediate step you can take if you're tech literate is try to personally back up as much DIY information from the internet as possible. We need to confront the fact that the internet is American dominated and primarily American-owned and in a larger sense owned and operated by capital primarily. For the informational resources of the internet to benefit human beings we have to deliberately make choices to structure it that way, and in the age of Palantir that largely means thinking about parallel informational infrastructure, setting up another internet or at least other communication systems.

If we want to preserve life saving information, information that aligns with reality over fascism information that is useful, beautiful and true to human beings and ugly and inconvenient to capital, first we have to make backups

[unpeeled-human]

idk if anyone else has seen the surge of memes making fun of cave divers recently. there was a comment on one that was like "cave divers with 4 kids, 2 degrees, a loving wife and a huge house when they learn that Satan's Sphincter has a 0% survival rate" it had me crying laughing

[library-bat-girl-deactivated202]

You'd think "oh, well they're rich dipshits with no training who pulled a Stockton Rush, IE: did something everyone told them not to and then died" but nope, 90% of cave diving stories are like "Johnny Wetsuit had 5000 hours diving experience, a doctorate in Cave Diveology from the most prestigious university in the world, was trained to swim by literal navy seals, was part dolphin and had the power of echo-location, God himself contacted him to let him know the conditions in Drowning Idiot Cave were going to be perfectly safe for cave diving, so he went Cave Diving, made one tiny mistake, and then he got stuck and drowned to death."

[liiionhearted]

ok but there’s a reason cave diving signs go so hard

[beardedmrbean]

My brother used to do SCUBA stuff and apparently there's spots in places like Lake Tahoe where there's just bodies that haven't been recovered because the people that could go and get them know better than to go diving in the parts of the lake where the bodies are.

[mama-germany]

I feel like the ‘Satan’s Asshole Cave’ meme is a bit of a misnomer though because half of these places are named. Nutty Putty. Darby Canyon. Wookey Hole.

It’s more like; Loopty Doopty Cavern, where 18 out of 25 known explorers had to have their bodies dragged out over excruciating 28 hour long recovery missions

[flipocrite]

[corpsegirlimmortal]

I'm going to be about $100 short on rent on the first if anyone can please help me out and donate. My paypal is petgirl69420. I just had my 25th consecutive terrible birthday and really need the support. Things are so bad for me.

[corpsegirlimmortal]

I was mistaken. I am going to be $200 short. I have not received any donations and greatly need assistance. I am willing to do short writing commissions in exchange for donations. Please help me out. Even $10 could help immensely

[svadilfari]

recently ive been thinking more and more about my experiences pre figuring out im trans and ive come to the conclusion that the trans community as a whole places way too much emphasis on Being instead of Doing

[svadilfari]

like. when i was trying to figure myself out, spending cumulative hours staring at the mirror wondering who i truly was deep down inside did not actually help me figure anything out. i had to actually go out into the world and do things. i had to find out what i liked and how i liked the world to percieve me. and i think that this line of reasoning can be applied to a lot of things

[svadilfari]

even though i no longer consider myself strictly asexual, i still consider myself part of the ace community because the attitude of celebrating the shifting of identity when confronted with new experiences and life circumstances felt genuinely revolutionary to me, in a time where mainstream online queer culture heavily emphasised creating specific flags for increasingly specific identites, splitting hairs over similar sounding labels, and attempting to slot the entire queer experience into neat boxes with no overlap. like idk i think at a certain point the focus on Being hinders more than it helps. like sometimes it really is about the material experience of your life. and it does make me feel a bit silly that it took so long for me to figure that out. but i guess having a clear concise identity label does have a certain comfort to it

[despazito]

I don't have time for tumblr discourse they're calling the very hungry caterpillar degenerate art over on twitter

[despazito]

good art is when something looks like real life, the more real it looks the more better the art. abstracted figures give my trad children nightmares, one time they were exposed to cubism and couldn't go outside for a week

[amygdalae]

still fucks me up what a bad rap coyotes get in peoples eyes. like ive talked to people who  see em as like. gross pests who should be culled. theyre literally just as cool as wolves just a lil smaller and less confident. i love them with all my heart to balance out all the coyote haters out there, coyotes rule theyre doing great

[amygdalae]

imagine having hatred in your heart for this beast

[amygdalae]

this post was so fucking funny I literally was just like “I like coyotes I think they’re cool” and so many people fucking hated it. Shut up I’m trying. To enjoy animal

[radwolf76]

They do so much neat stuff, like go to Quiznos

And ride public transport

[closet-keys]

before I was diagnosed with “gender dysphoria” and “transsexualism” I got a hysterectomy. this was not easy— medical misogyny exists and I had to assert repeatedly that i didn’t want children and I was married with a spouse who didn’t want children and that I had tried a “less invasive” solution first. all this sucked. it was paternalistic and condescending and led to me suffering for years for zero reason.

however. if I hadn’t gotten the hysterectomy back then and was trying to get one now, it would be harder. after becoming recognized as trans in medial systems, legally I would need two separate psychiatric professionals to write letters affirming I’d been under their observation, that I was mentally stable enough to know I wanted the surgery, and that they also believed it was necessary. and I would need to find a surgeon willing to operate on trans people.

like this is the difference. the literal procedures involved in medical transition are not exclusive to trans people. the difference is that these procedures are gatekept from us.

that’s why all the laws banning trans healthcare (in the US, I haven’t read legislation elsewhere) are framing it as only banned when someone has a “gender dysphoria” diagnosis. the point isn’t to stop performing the actual procedures, the point is to deny trans people healthcare because we are trans.

saying “trans people don’t need surgery” is like saying “cis people don’t need surgery.” like obviously not every cis person needs every surgery. but cis people have the right to surgery. and trans people deserve the same right.

[genderkoolaid]

so are we just supposed to ignore kendrick lamar having lyrics about killing trans women? “toupee drop and a dude just popped out t of that tank top and bra / and when i say du du du du, bitch that be k-dot” ? he’s talking about shooting and killing a woman when he finds out she’s trans aka trans panic. he’s a vile transphobe, why are you platformong him?

think you've got the wrong lyrics there

Toupée drop and her two tits pop Out of that tank top and bra And when I say "Doo-doo-doo-doo," bitch, that be K. Dot

and notably in context he is. not talking about murdering the woman he's rapping about here? from the genius annotations

A Toupée is an artificial hair piece, for all practical purposes, a wig. Toupée, like touche and en garde, is a french word. Toupee is being used here in the sense of a convertible…like drop the top…when Kendrick is driving and drops the top on his convertible, his girl can’t help but get a little loose and let the girls out. This ["doo-doo-doo-doo"] is Kendrick’s signature ad-lib likely developed from his song “Cartoon & Cereal.” This ad-lib is meant to resemble gunshots. This is something Kendrick came used to due to his upbringing in Compton, a city known notoriously for its high crime rate. K-Dot was Kendrick’s original rap name, and has now become an alter-ego. While Kendrick himself is laid back and calm, K-Dot is the more aggressive Compton side.

but thanks for sending me three separate asks about how kendrick lamar loves killing trans women. nothing about this feels racist at all

[this-is-trans-joy]

Kendrick noteably has a song about his uncle (a trans man) and his cousin (a trans woman) that is probably up there as one of his most heartfelt songs of all time, but I remember on an old blog where I once posted one thing about Kendrick and someone immediately jumped into my inbox berating me for talking about an antisemitic artist (and similarly to the above anon, they had completely confused their information).

I know Kendrick isn’t perfect, but I used to talk about a lot of artists on my old blog and coincidentally it was only the Black artists that had multiple people explaining to me exactly why I shouldn’t listen to them, with baseless and incorrect information that they hadn’t bothered to look up properly. I don’t just think this anon is being racist, I know they are because the second you mention a rap artist, it seems like every white person on tumblr has to crawl out of the woodwork and try to hide their overall disdain for Black artists with random excuses as to why those artists are the most dangerous and violent people alive.

You’re not slick. You could’ve spent five seconds searching up “Kendrick Lamar and trans women” into Google and you’d immediately be linked to Auntie Diaries, but you decided to choose a misheard lyric in a song that didn’t mention trans women once and berate someone for sharing a single Black artist. I’ve seen these games before, anon!!

And not just any Black artist, either, but one who is like… actively trans supportive! I’ve said it before, but Kendrick Lamar has done more for me as a trans man than pretty much every white popstar that tumblr loves to put on a pedestal for simply saying “protect the dolls” once in an interview. Kendrick’s not the perfect ally, but he sure as hell is a genuine one.

Anyway, go listen to Mr Morales & The Big Steppers.