Queer, Pro-Choice, and Bitter As Hell

They/them. Not a woman. A blog run by "pro-choice murder brigade scumbags" who are part of “the classic left”.

[normalmammal]

I’m so pro abortion I feel insane hearing any other take on it

[normalmammal]

Even lefties I know will eventually concede to some situation where they think it’s right to force someone to carry a child against their will as if that’s not one of the most inhumane and cruel situations to put someone in regardless of any other factors

[nijuukoo]

To my Canadian followers, here is a petition on the House of Commons website aiming to revoke permissions that would allow ICE offices to operate on Canadian soil, and to cancel funding and subsidies to Canadian companies who are arming ICE agencies with services, goods, and surveillance technologies that would further enable the lawlessness and abuses that ICE has committed. When you sign, you must click on the confirmation email link that will be sent to the email you sign with in order to verify your signature, otherwise it will not be counted.

For my non-Canadian followers, please share this petition and hopefully this will further the reach to other Canadian users on this platform. It is abominable that any company in this country help or in any way facilitate the unconstitutional and dehumanising acts that ICE has done.

In my city of Vancouver, we have been protesting and boycotting Hootsuite, a social media platform that has a $2M USD contract with DHS providing them with social media services from 2024 to 2029. Hootsuite claims they don't use tracking or surveillance with their tools, but the mere fact that they have chosen to work with the violent group in whatever social media capacity, despite previously *turning down* a contract with them back in 2020, is egregious.

Jim Pattison Group is a enormous conglomerate also based in Vancouver, owned and run by one man, Jim Pattison. Pattison previously considered selling an industrial building in Virginia to ICE for them to use as another "holding and processing facility," or more accurately, a goddamn concentration camp, but because of backlash he reversed that decision. Thank fucking god for that, but that does not mean he won't consider it again in the future.

In Ontario, ICE ordered 20 armoured vehicles from a Brampton firm called Roshel to the tune of $7.3M USD. Canada should not be arming a violent group that has shown itself to be nothing more than a racist group of masked kidnappers and power-tripping thugs that has violated the rights of US citizens and immigrants and violated numerous court orders.

I'm disgusted that there are Canadian companies that are willingly partnering with DHS and ICE despite the carnage that has been documented over the last year. It is exactly why I've signed this petition and am sharing it with you. Do not let any Canadian companies think they can rest easy by choosing to work with a violent group that is terrorising, abusing, and murdering US citizens of all walks of life, all at the orders of a fascist government run by abusers and tyrants.

[byjove]

giving birth sucks tbh. not only do you and the baby you’re birthing almost die, usually you shit yourself and often you tear your taint. then you have to push an organ out of your body (placenta) and if even a little of that remains in your body, you can hemorrhage to death or develop an infection that essentially rots your body from the inside out. even if you had a relatively “easy birth”, you bleed for weeks on end. even after that stops, your body and brain is changed for the rest of your life, the pregnancy leeched minerals from your bones, that can cause osteoporosis later. minor urinary incontinence is not uncommon, brain scans of people who gave birth show permanent changes in their brain, you’re never quite the same.

I say all of this not to say giving birth is disgusting but it is a harrowing and visceral experience. society downplays how fucking awful it is and makes it out to be a ~magical~ experience but it isn’t a magical transformative experience for everyone. it can be an extremely traumatic experience for someone who wanted to carry a pregnancy to term, much more so for someone who did not want to be pregnant in the first place or someone who knows their baby won’t survive the birth. anyway, abortion is a right. pregnancy and birth aren’t just inconvenient, it’s fucking awful.

[churropussy]

How is it that in this entire post you didn’t say the word “woman” once? Only one sex gives birth. Only women have these experiences, only women are at risk for everything mentioned here, women are the only people this applies to. Erasing the word enables the problem.

[byjove]

I’m an evil trans man with a big fat pussy and it’s my life’s purpose to erase women by using inclusive language. Everyone I make a post a random woman disappears off the planet. Clean vanishes. They’re renaming all maternity wards labor & delivery wards because of me. The word breastfeeding no longer exists in the dictionary. It’s all chestfeeding now. Many world powers are trying to stop me. They can’t. They’re too slow. I’m always two steps ahead.

[sprinkledsalt]

As people mourn Renee Good, ICE terrorizes Minneapolis, and Trump threatens war with NATO, I saw a post on here by a self-described socialist already justifying why they won’t vote for Democrats in 2028. If you ever wonder why I repeatedly stress that the modern American left is nothing but an anti-voting fandom and everything they do comes back to justifying why they won’t do the bare minimum of civic duty of voting for liberals against the far-right, this is why. It doesn’t matter how many people Republicans kill, it doesn’t matter that we’re still deep in Trump 2.0, their priority is drafting posts about why their uwu morally pure little ass won’t vote. They stand for nothing but, well, doing nothing and presenting their perpetual apathy and selfishness as radikewl

And, this is why I say they’re future Republicans or functionally already Republicans. The only people who are responding to a Republican administration absolutely wreaking havoc at home and abroad with, “BUT DEMS SUCK AND I’LL NEVER VOTE FOR THEM” are Republicans! You’re still acting like a Republican even if you’re gay and read The Communist Manifesto, I don’t give a fuck

[bemusedlybespectacled]

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: if your position is “I’m willing to do anything to support my cause, even if it’s killing people or being killed, because it’s for a noble cause” but refuse to vote, you aren’t actually willing to do anything to support your cause. you’re the conservative guy who fantasizes about being the victim of a crime so that he has an excuse to murder someone without consequences.

[grison-in-space]

frankly, as a Minnesotan, I reserve the right to reach out and shake anyone who expresses those views to me until their teeth rattle. You vote as a matter of harm reduction or you sign on for the harm you cause with the worse option, and I am fresh out of patience for people being cavalier with other people's harm.

[problemnyatic]

the most valueable skill a white leftist can ever learn is how to take an L with grace.

[problemnyatic]

You gotta be able to take an L if your moral and ethical belief systems are to be capable of guiding you. Otherwise you just have an idealized self where you get really mad and scared when anyone points out it isn't actually you. How the fuck are you gonna walk the walk if you can't handle being told when you are not, in fact, actually walking it

[problemnyatic]

you cannot just socially transition into being a good person you are going to have to settle for being a messy human being who has to try and fail and keep trying to get better like everyone else. yeah even when it's embarassing and sucks for you a lot.

[livseses]

Ya gotta learn to earnestly and honestly say "Oh shit, my bad."

[tartrazeen]

And to then end the sentence there, not launch into a paragraph of explanation or panicked super-apology.

[talisidekick]

If you want to stand up for transgender Canadians, then there's a petition to ask the federal government to repeal the acts signed into law that restrict transgender medical care for transgender youth:

You need only be a resident of Canada, not a citizen to sign. Please help us give transgender youth a fighting chance. Their medical care decisions should be between the handling physician and family only. This isn't a matter for politicians to decide.

[quasi-normalcy]

hey, so I would he grateful if people living in Canada could sign this and if non-Canadians could signal boost, please.

[gehayi]

The petition will be closed for signatures on February 16, 2026.

[seravph]

being so fr when I say that transmisogyny has put feminism back like 50 years

[seravph]

what i thought we had distanced ourselves from was the reduction of women to vaginas and wombs and the ability to bear children. i thought we had progressed past ‘dresses are for women and pants are for men.’ i thought we progressed past the idea that someone is less of a woman if she does not adhere strictly to beauty standards. i thought we progressed past the idea that naturally being comfortable adhering to highly feminine standards is vulgar. but i (sarcastically) guess no one could have predicted that trans-exclusive feminism would be the downfall of all the progress we’ve made

[autoenucleate]

“We’re in danger of losing what the entire second wave of feminism, what the entire second wave of women’s liberation was built on, and that was ‘Biology is not destiny’. ‘One is not born a woman,’ Simone de Beauvoir said, ‘one becomes one’. Now there’s some place where transsexual women and other women intersect. Biological determinism has been used for centuries as a weapon against women, in order to justify a second-class and oppressed status. How on Earth, then, are you going to pick up the weapon of biological determinism and use it to liberate yourself? It’s a reactionary tool.”

— Quote by Leslie Feinberg, from TransSisters: The Journal of Transsexual Feminism, issue 7, volume 1. 1995.

[roomwithavoid]

the more educated you get on fat issues the more you realize that almost everything that supposedly justifies fatphobia is actually complete bullshit. most of the health conditions that are treated as almost divine punishment for being fat (like heart issues and diabetes) are being revealed to actually *cause weight gain* instead of being caused *by* it. this goes for social 'consequences' of being fat, too. is that "neckbeard" redditor actually fat because he spends all his time online, or is it that he spends all of his time online because he's not treated like a person if you can see that he's fat, so the internet is his best option? everything is less accessible to fat people. seats on busses, at restaurants, and even at things like amusement parks, are frequently too small to comfortably sit in for a fat person. people treat you worse if you're fat, or even try to avoid you entirely. you get judged for doing leisure activities, or even for exercising at a public gym, (which proves the claims of trying to motivate you to get fit are bullshit btw) getting filmed and laughed at, posted online for your body to be a punchline. if you want to be progressive or body positive you *need* to be examining your beliefs. oppressed people are routinely forced into positions that, from the outside, may justify the narrative about these people. black folk are pushed into poverty, so that crime is often their only means of survival, enforcing the idea that black folk are criminals. queer folk are made unsafe in public so that we use codes to identify each other, enforcing the idea that queer folk are trying to secretly seduce people to be gay. and yes, fat folk are forced indoors and online so that they can enforce the narrative that we are lazy shut-ins.

[depsidase]

[runcibility]

[waving] Hi, hello, it's me, the old gen-x'er on your dash! How's it going kids? [bad, it's going bad, I know, sorry for asking]. Let me tell you a personal story of how I watched exactly this play out in my social circles.

Anecdotally, my fellow cohort of gen-x'ers were convinced this was going to be the solution, the ticket, the fucking way. Inevitably, all we had to do was outlive these old mayonnaise white devils, because that's where the racism was societally stored - like a big racism appendix that would get removed someday.

We thought we knew what was up because we were cool white kids who listened to Public Enemy. And because we thought we were largely inoculated against racism, it was just a long cool slide into the Clinton years and we'd be set.

So we didn't question shit like South Park. We didn't question shitheads like 'ironic' (at the time) racists like Weev in our IRC channel. We had zero fucking awareness of how racism shifted, because the only examples of racism we were ever taught either wore a white robe & burned crosses, or sig-heil'd and lived in misery. We shamefully thought racism = southern*, and since we were alt-goth kids living on the west coast, we were fucking sorted out and safe.

It wasn't on our radar. We weren't ready. We hadn't listened to anyone, because we thought we'd learned enough to not be a problem, and wasn't that enough?

We didn't clock or understand the way racist language shifted into a new economic handwringing. We fell into stupid rhetorical traps that snuck racism into concerns about unhoused people and substance abuse. We refused to recognize and realize our own inherent racist attitudes because of the sunk cost fallacy of wanting to believe we really didn't have to do anything other than be cool and wait it out.

I watched some people absolutely lose their shit when called out on this and flounce directly into the arms of right wing philosophy (always some variation on "left wing politics has gone too far!" when it's pointed out how they're upholding inequality with a cherished attitude or anecdote they've leaned on for years to prop up the mythology of their self-worth).

No one was ready to realize they weren't good just by being alternative. And some of them cracked apart.

Racism has a full time advertising budget ready to repackage and rebadge it minute to minute, and you always have to do the work. It never ever fucking stops. And making sure you're always doing the work has the very valuable side-benefit of keeping you in touch with yourself and what you're about.

You gotta do the work. It never stops.

*-this fucking haunts me so much.

[anais-ninja-bitch]

oh, this gets a reblog

[funoftheday]

You don’t say.

[a-spoon-is-born]

[timemachineyeah]

For the record, she actually abandoned the movement BEFORE they all got whooping cough, but abandoned it too late. There’d been a breakout of measles in her area that caused her to reassess, and she and her doctor had already drafted and started a catch-up vaccination schedule, but her kids caught whooping cough just before it could be started. Then she wrote a blog post for The Scientific Parent explaining how she and her husband had come to wrong decisions in the first place, how they changed their mind, the consequences they suffered as a result, and asking other parents to please vaccinate their kids. And now she’s an activist for destroying the misinformation of anti-vaxxers, and reaching out to anti-vaxxers because she’s understands their fears but knows their kids deserve better. 

She was trying to the best for her kids and just didn’t know how to interpret the validity of information or its sources, an actual skill that can be actually difficult and that is under-taught and a necessary first step to being able to trust vaccination research, so chose no action over taking an action she wasn’t sure of. She kept looking into it with family and friends and even eventually came to the right conclusion before her kids became sick, but it was still too late.

Honestly it was pretty brave of her to publicly admit she was wrong. She could have just quietly vaccinated her kids and not become a national news story, but instead she spoke out, even saying “I’m writing this from quarantine, the irony of which isn’t lost on me.” and also “I am not looking forward to any gloating or shame as this ‘defection’ from the antivaxx camp goes public, but, this isn’t a popularity contest.  Right now my family is living the consequences of misinformation and fear.  I understand that families in our community may be mad at us for putting their kids at risk.”

She understood the consequences and still put herself and her story out there. 

[hatey-mchaterson]

You know what, it does take a big person to admit they were wrong so publicly and work to undo the harm. I believe I made fun of her in the past, but timemachineyeah changed my mind.

[snarklordofthesith]

“I never thought leopards would eat MY face, until I realized they totally would, and they will eat your face, too!” warns defector from the leopards-eating-faces party

[aqueerkettleofish]

don’t hide this in the tags….

#really important actually#like. it’s so important that we allow people to STOP voting for leopards eating faces#because if you attack anyone leaving the leopards eating faces party when they realize it’s bad#the only support system they’ll have is the people who want them to come back to it#you have to make it possible for people escape instead of considering them forever tainted and impure and inherently evil

[elfwreck]

The #1 trait of anti-vaxxers is not “they’re stupid” or “they fell for propaganda” but “they don’t know who’s safe to trust.”

The movement is pushed by women, especially suburban moms, because they know damn well you cannot trust doctors. You cannot trust the medical industry, the billion-dollar corporate zone of “you should lose some weight and maybe the pain will stop.” Cannot trust the ones who keep changing diet advice - is it no sugar? No carbs? No fats? Is it dangerous to let kids eat things in wild colors? Food pyramid: good or bad? They cannot trust the BMI chart that says they should lose 75 lbs to be “healthy.” (Whether or not they “should” lose 75 lbs, they know damn well that “healthy” does not describe any part of the journey to getting there.) Cannot trust the ones who keep giving them incomplete and sometimes incorrect information about contraception. The ones who said “that’s false labor; you have two weeks more” 12 hours before they gave birth. And so on.

So they have their kids, and they want so much for their kids to be safe, and the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

So they ask: What about if there’s complications? An allergic reaction? Side effects?

And the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

This is… not reassuring.

And they ask, My sister-in-law’s cousin had a really bad reaction to the MMR shot and I want to know how I can tell it’s safe for my kids.

And the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

Throw in the right-wing/libertarian faction yelling YOU CAN’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO and the insurance companies saying “hey um you need a specific type of coverage for that; we probably cover those vaccinations but you’ll need this special paperwork to be sure” - and then you have the actual anti-vax propagandists yelling some combination of cherry-picked statistics and outright lies, and you get a whole lot of moms willing to say BUGGRE ALL THIS FOR A LARKE.

There is no amount of facts that can fix this. They’re swamped with facts from 300 directions. What they need to fix this is empathy and the kind of connections that lead to trust.

They need to trust that, even as the medical industry dismisses a whole lot of womens’ concerns, in this particular area, they’re right.

[embervoices]

Add in the consequences of having a significant portion of your social support network tied up in a particular worldview, leaving it, much less openly condemning it, is really hard and means losing your community support. In a world where the system can’t be trusted to pick up that slack, Moms can’t afford to risk the change - until the cost of staying clearly outweighs the coat of pushing back, not just in general, but for their kids.

Kindness doesn’t just matter because it’s more ethical - it'salso a more effective strategy.

[genderkoolaid]

Don’t normally do this but

Kindness doesn’t just matter because it’s more ethical - it'salso a more effective strategy.

Get this into your fucking heads. Kindness and compassion and one might even say “love,” are strategies, not just vague fluffy inoffensive emotions. Cruelty will never save us.

[byjove]

The most common case of death for a pregnant person is homicide. This is a massive problem and comes up a lot in discussions around domestic violence and pregnancy as a tool of abuse.

The second most common cause of death in pregnant people? Mental health related demises such as suicide and overdose. Pregnancy wrecks mental health. It absolutely destroys it, especially if you don’t want to be pregnant. Long before postpartum psychosis and postpartum depression, pregnant people harm themselves at a rate that exceeds deaths in pregnancy related to physical complications. You have to discontinue many psychiatric drugs in pregnancy because they are not safe for the fetus. Pregnant people lack mental health support and are often shamed for struggling with their mental health or doing activities that could harm their pregnancy like continuing to use drugs and alcohol.

I am certain the anti-abortion crowd would jump to blame pregnant victims of suicide for harming their ‘unborn baby’ but pregnancy is not just a state of being a vessel. Pregnant people are people and their personhood and needs are often ignored and their body is treated like it is not their own. Abortion restrictions will result in more deaths in pregnancy and not more live babies born and the blood is on your hands if you refuse to acknowledge that.

[leo-fie]

Do we know if psychiatric drugs are bad for fetussds, or is that one of those things that just doesn't get studied because women be complicated?

[byjove]

Most of them are straight up listed as ‘untested in pregnancy’. They don’t know if the drug could impact a fetus so they’re going to force pregnant people off them instead of finding out. While they continue to put out studies on the impact of the father’s mental health on child development. I am not kidding. I complained about this and they said “ooooh, research is not the enemy!” no one cares about pregnant people but dad’s mental health has millions of dollars in funding even though we all could have guessed it would also negatively effect the child.

[gothicroses]

damn terfs aren't even hiding their racism anymore

[astarionconsort]

Radfem: "We are not white supremacist! Why did y'all keep calling us racist!" Also radfem

[sonicguillotine-deactivated2025]

Remembering how controversial it was to state that terfs were white supremacists a decade ago. Between the Australian my little Pony blogger Celestia openly coverting to white nationalism and this, feels like we were too soft in those condemnations in the past.

[tazmanian-cigarette]

It literally took multiple double takes to be sure this was a genuinely expressed opinion. And their fucking account is still live, too. Jesus.

[itsmythang]

I highly doubt Kamala would’ve snatched y’alls SNAP and EBT benefits, unleashed ICE into cities like it’s The Purge, and shut down the government so long people are quitting, not getting paid & flights are cancelling. Y’all said Trump was better tho...

[beesandwasps]

She literally said she was going to be harsher on immigrants than Trump would be.

[the-truth-within-the-lie]

Not like it’ll make a bit of fucking difference but no she didn’t.

WASHINGTON (AP) — Immigration is one of the key issues in the November election, with many voters concerned over the numbers of migrants who

“The vice president has endorsed comprehensive immigration reform, seeking pathways to citizenship for immigrants in the U.S. without legal status, with a faster track for people living in the country illegally who arrived as children.

Harris also has lashed out at Trump’s zero-tolerance policies that separated families at the border to try to deter immigration.”

I’m so sick of this.

[beesandwasps]

She did, actually. It was in a speech near the end of the campaign, when she was moving rightward because that’s what centrists always, always do. Your party, and your candidate, were and are trash.

[the-truth-within-the-lie]

Is the “moving rightward” in the room with us now? Or is it located somewhere around that WalMart you’re definitely gonna firebomb?

All that shit you’re reblogging about how community is necessary because your neighbors are being taken away - I’d lay $100 on the table right now that you aren’t doing shit and you’re making fun of the “shitlib wine moms” who actually fucking are. Wanna know how I know?

You’re all talk and when the chips are down all you’re capable of is calling people names on the internet.

Grow the fuck up and help us clean up the fucking mess you made. Then maybe bother to read the fucking news once in a while and not just learn about this stuff from other terminally online kids who are too scared to leave the house.

[afurioushawk]

Yep. At our food pantry, apart from a handful of high schoolers getting volunteer credits, pretty much 95% of volunteers are over the age of 40. Good luck finding anyone in their 20s there. These poasters don't give a shit about their communities.

You can see it in the protests, too. Filled to the brim with resistlib wine moms, who are also the ones out there harassing their Republican reps. 20-somethings sit on their asses and make a TikTok about how "Holocaust Harris" is the antichrist.

[the-truth-within-the-lie]

Yup. You’ll never meet them volunteering or fighting the real battles. Ever.

They aren’t running or showing up to help Indivisible, 50501 or No Kings. They aren’t volunteering at Food Not Bombs or their local mutual aid. They aren’t the ones blowing whistles and horns and tracking ICE agents through back streets. Where the fuck are they? At home telling us that we are genocidal maniacs. I’m so fucking tired of it.

They’re less than useless, they’re a drag on the hard work the rest of us are trying to do.

[imkeepinit]

Judith Butler, philosopher: ‘If you sacrifice a minority like trans people, you are operating within a fascist logic’

[identitty-dickruption]

nobody ever believes me when I list off all of the ways that humans are significantly less sexually dimorphic than people seem to believe and it drives me batshit insane. “you’re denying the biological reality of sex” well you’re sticking your fingers in your ears and saying lalalala every time anyone presents you with data that confirms that women and men aren’t really that different. and refusing to come to terms with the two-way relationship between the “biological” and “social” worlds. I think one of us is ignoring the biological sciences here and it isn’t me

[dykepuffs]

I strongly remember being a small child and saying to a teacher that it was weird that lions had manes and deer had antlers but the only ways that humans had to tell apart "male" and "female" was just how they dressed and they got absolutely furious, going "But men are taller than women" (but Mr Black is shorter than Miss Smith, and my Dad is shorter than my Mam, and...) etc etc etc ... this continued until I was in detention. But, I am sure this is a relic of me remembering the process of being taught how to gender people, and that Gendering was mandatory...

[virgoanmaenad]

The majority of people seeking abortions (51%) reported using birth control that failed. That is affirmative non-consent to pregnancy. And consent to sex is not consent to pregnancy.

Consent to one activity with one person for a few minutes is not a binding contract to lease your body to an unwelcome third party for most of a year.

A child should never be "a consequence". All children should be wanted. "Taking accountability" doesn't have to mean "giving birth".

An abortion is way more responsible than birthing a child you're not ready for.

[animentality]

[somesortapunk]

Without due process, everyone is guilty the moment they are arrested. Because due process is how you prove your innocence.

Without due process for rapists, all it takes is the government saying you're a rapist and suddenly you can be guilty of whatever they want. It won't matter, because you don't get your day in court anymore. You don't get to argue for your defense, or know what evidence they have against you, or have a lawyer to help you understand the legalese and what options you have, or ANYTHING.

We don't even need to say that women lie about rape to any significant degree (because statistics show they so rarely do), because the government could just make up a woman and claim she made a report. You wouldn't know, because you don't get due process and therefore do not get to confront your accuser.

No due process for anyone means no due process for EVERYONE.

[thelawfulchaotic]

Hi. I defend Those People and I am not Following Orders. I chose this job with my eyes open and stuck with it past the point that I gained enough experience that I was trying serious violent felonies. Got my first murder case earlier this year.

I don’t choose my clients, but I Chose to not choose my clients. That’s the point. The point is it’s everyone who needs the help, no matter what they’ve done, no matter what they’re accused of doing.

If I chose my clients, that means deciding who is worthy and who is not, and I am simply not interested in making that choice. I refuse to place one life above another. That’s what cops and fascists and racists and oppressors do.

Don’t tell me I’m just following orders. Anyone who says that doesn’t understand the first thing about why I choose what I do. I will not stand for the carceral system as it is.