"Quiet" Borderline Things

The mods dislike the term "quiet" borderline, and the concept of personality disorders in general, but that's the terminology folks recognize, so. This is a blog about how BPD behaviors can manifest when one is more inclined to lash out at oneself than at others. ~

[naturalnaina]

[forgottenyear]

not sure what i am feeling but it is probably none of my business anyway

[theambitiouswoman]

Post of the year

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Being kind isn't actually about how much shit you can quietly take. You can be kind and still shut down people who attempt to use and manipulate you. Kindness is about treating others well whenever you can, not about how much you're willing to suffer for others. So don't confuse being kind with being a victim and a pushover. No one with your best interests at heart will claim that it's the same thing.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Just because your feelings are valid, this doesn't mean that every possible reaction to them is. Yes, it's okay to be angry - but it's not okay to take it out on someone by breaking their stuff. Yes, it's okay to be jealous - but it's not okay to sabotage relationships. Yes, it's okay to want attention - but it's not okay to lie to get it. And so on. Your feelings are always valid, but you still have a responsibility for how you choose to express them.

[kotaamorris]

[furiousgoldfish]

abuser: abuses victim(s) for multiple years causing traumatic stress disorders

society: …

victim: says one word against abuser

society: Do You Not Know About.. Forgiveness??? How Could You Not Feel Sorry For This Poor Abuser For Having To Face The Aftermath Of Their Own Actions??? They’re Just A Human Being Who Made A Mistake!!! You Should Let It Go And Practice Some Goddamn Forgiveness Or You Are A Whiny Victim Who Doesn’t Want To Heal!!!!

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Being kind isn't actually about how much shit you can quietly take. You can be kind and still shut down people who attempt to use and manipulate you. Kindness is about treating others well whenever you can, not about how much you're willing to suffer for others. So don't confuse being kind with being a victim and a pushover. No one with your best interests at heart will claim that it's the same thing.

[angelaeleni]

Motivation may be what initially inspires us to begin. But, it’s discipline that carries us through. Allow yourself to form habits that are conducive to your self-healing and expansion. The initial discomfort is incredibly worthwhile.

[bestyouuniveristy]

The way you speak to yourself MATTERS.

[thxtfuckup]

[greelin]

you ever look back @ yr relationship/interactions w/ someone and realize the exact extent of how insidious certain aspects and occurrences were that at the time went under the radar and had no special meaning or anything but now that you have perspective and know what happened later on down the road everything is very.. There. apparent. staring you right in the face. bc.. yeesh. bad feeling. nauseating, even

[theambitiouswoman]

Post of the year

[crowrelli]

I have this tiktok saved n thought.. Others might like it too..

[noahparaduck]

is there an alternative where you don't have to use alarms though?

[crowrelli]

ive seen people use counting down from a certain number or for a duration of a song on their playlists too!! 

[mindflamer]

[video description: a white person with short light brown hair and some stubble. they are wearing a black shirt and a fiery looking mask around their neck. as they speak, some captions appear on screen reiterating the points they are making.

“ADHD tip! i use this one more than any other one by far. (except, for white board of course)” [smiles and there is a heart emoji on the screen]

“if there’s something you have to do but you’ve avoided starting doing it, think of the smallest amount of time that you know you can force yourself to do, and set a timer for that amount, and do it for that amount of time. and then once the timer’s up, you can stop.”

“now you might be thinking, [higher-pitched voice] hey eric i have ADHD i’m supposed to be wanting to complete stuff and stuff, why would i want to quit in the middle of a task?! well i would say not starting a task at all is a much bigger problem than not completing it. and, once you’ve started it it’s much easier to keep going.”

“for example, i needed to clean my kitchen yesterday, and i could not get myself to start doing it. but i thought, i can definitely clean my kitchen for three minutes. so i started a timer for three minutes and started doing the stuff. and when the timer was up, i thought well, i... i can do another three minutes. and so i did. and then when that was up, i was like, goin’. and if you stop after the initial timer goes off, you succeeded in your goal of doing the thing for that amount of time!”

[yelling] “use those timers!!!”

[username @heygude appears on screen.]

/end video description]

[crtter]

Sometimes I hyperfocus so hard on something, I forget I’m a person until someone interacts with me. I feel like some wild animal seeing a human being for the first time. I’m like “oh yeah I’m supposed to speak and stuff”

[crtter]

Me: *doing something for hours on end without stopping*

Someone: Hey, are you there? I was just wondering if you’d like to-

Me:

[gallusrostromegalus]

ADHD.fuck

[attainablerecovery]

“People who rush to forgive are often people who learned early in life that their feelings come second to someone else’s comfort.”

- Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon

[artandmartini]

Whoops depersonalized

Feeling disconnected from my body sometimes