TIRED ASF

"Fatigued" is likely more accurate. I don't have the energy for this shit anymore. too tired to live, too lazy to die

[kooldewd123]

i know this has been remarked upon before but it really is hilarious how the whole "ditto keeps the same face when it transforms" thing was originally presented as a failing of one specific ditto in the anime, only for pokemon to immediately realize that being able to slap a ditto face onto literally anything was actually an incredibly strong marketing tool and backpedaling on it so hard that nearly thirty years later we're getting an entire game marketed nearly entirely off the inherent appeal of the ditto face.

[vomitdodger]

Report: Meta hired a Kenyan firm to review video from people's A.I. glasses ... and I mean ALL the video

Welp.

Report: Meta hired a Kenyan firm to review video from people's A.I. glasses ... and I mean ALL the video

Nairobi-based contractors have seen footage capturing bathroom visits, naked people, and intimate moments, according to an investigation from two Swedish newspapers.

Unreal. And yet again…Meta aka Fakebook…there is zero chance they didn’t know this would happen.

[sawbuckplus]

Facebook’s business model is spyware.

[echoedcall]

The Meta employee "analyzing" the 40th penis this week:

[sacred-portal]

[cargopantsman]

[nojamnojelly]

[echoedcall]

Is it even just animals though?

Hair is just fur relegated to specific parts of our body, and humans are social creatures so would we not get a similar feeling from doing this with other humans.

Idk, someone go pet their spouse and get back to us.

[medicinemane]

Also I gotta be real with you, when you realize adblocking boils down to "no than you, I don't want that web traffic", it gets real hard to feel like it's stealing or doing anything shady

It's literally just network management (and it saves my data usage)

[melonisopod]

It's not wanting ads shoved in my face in the middle of reading a paragraph of text.

Back in my day if you got a popup ad interrupting your web browsing it meant you had a virus. Now they want to guilt-trip you for not seeing a full-page-consuming advert for cigarettes on TV Tropes.

[echoedcall]

I have no issue watching ads, it just needs to be on my time and I need to be in full control. (Such as the ability to exit it at any point).

When they start getting forced down your throat it becomes a problem.

It's like being offered peas for dinner. Once or twice, great! The 4th time, meh okay. The 80th time that day and ill be upset. Still, I will happily eat peas on the odd occasion, in the same way I watch some ads.

[hawkeyedflame]

I decided last week that I am done chasing people who don't meet me halfway and that whichever relationships die because of me not texting first/driving the meetups, so be it. None of these friends are flaky or bad people, they're all very busy with partners and jobs and kids and stuff, but that's not really an excuse. If someone is a priority in your life, you put in the effort so that they know. I can't keep being the only one checking in. I didn't say anything to any of the people who were top of mind when I made this decision, but one of them surprised me today by asking me if we can get coffee every week from now on. I guess you just have to let go to find out who is going to catch you.

[yourtoradorasextendedwarranty]

Amen!

[echoedcall]

I've thought about this, for different reasons, but I feel guilty about actually doing it.

What if they are thinking the same thing, and its why they are not reaching out? What if im the problem?

I actually had a long time friend effectively tell me to stop reaching out to her, because i only did it on my own time, when i wanted something, or needed social connection. (I could say I was busy, but to be fair, she had a point). I was never there when she needed me, just when I needed her.

[nova-alien-rants]

people stop being antisemitic for one fucking second challenge (impossible)

[nova-alien-jewposting]

very interesting how this is a post only related to judaism in specific and people still feel the need to bring up palestine.

if any statement about jews is followed by if, and, or but, then you don't actually support jews.

[boiled-wit-blog]

Maybe we should start treating muzzies like that. Make them justify why they're being muzzies.

[generallemarc]

"Hmm, this comic about why bigotry is bad makes me think we should be bigoted."

I think your brain short-circuited.

[beardedmrbean]

[bruzum]

[bruzum]

[10thgrave]

[dragon-in-a-fez]

keep thinking about how I wrote in my dissertation about how every time a new form of public/social space emerges it's immediately popular with kids and teenagers who see it as a chance at freedom and then adults colonise it and kick them out. this happened with malls in the 80s and diners in the 50s and pool halls in the 20s. my dad was doing research on this trend in like 1975. and I was like "yeah so this is going to happen to the internet" and then five years later every government suddenly decided to ban kids from everywhere online. I hate being right especially when I don't even get paid for it

[fairykingofae]

Is this why people always complain about their kids always being on their phones and not having "real friends"? Because they kicked them out of places that they went specifically to be around other kids and socialize??? Do they not see the problem?????????

[echoedcall]

If were talking about specifically America, it's not even that kids were banned from spaces, it's that they have no reliable way to get anywhere without an adult.

I was a teen in the 2010s. If i wanted to go somewhere I had to ask my mom to drive me. Which is why all my friends would just hang out online, because then we weren't confined by some arbitrary schedule (outside of the school day) or how much free time an adult has.

If kids are able to make it to places, alone, and are trusted outside, alone, then they will go and hangout with their friends, but as we increasing put more and more distance between our homes and well, anything, we leave our children with the only real space to find/be with their friends being the online space.

It's why you don't notice this as much with teens, especially once someone in the friends group can drive and gets access to a car. Suddenly, they are EVERYWHERE. (at which point the teens start getting banned)

Kids are being banned from places (or told to come with an adult), but if they can't even get there it might as well be a ban.

[h4ganah]

Antizionism is strongly correlated with antisemitism??? But you all SWORE you didn't hate jews. I'm so devastatingly fucking shocked. Someone please fetch my fainting couch.

[shofarsogood]

Whomp there it is.

[assiraphales]

anyways (I say this as someone who is deeply critical of the united states government, military, unchecked capitalism, police, etc) I am SICK of people treating america as if it has no cultural value or positives so….. I love u 85 million acres (bigger than italy) of national parks. I love u harlem renaissance. I love u groundhogs day. I love u sweet tea and fried chicken and jambalaya. I love u apple cider donuts and maizes on crisp autumn days. I love u 95k miles of coastlines and new england fisherman and hand knitted sweaters. I love u halloween where millions of people dress up and give candy to strangers and carve jack o’lanterns. I love u small talk and small towns and potlucks and bringing over casseroles to your struggling neighbors. I love u cowboys and ranch hands and arizonian cactus. I love u appalachian trail and dirtbikes and divebars. I love u sparklers and fireflies. I love u mark twain and toni morrison and emily dickinson and henry david thoreau. I love u rock n roll i love u bluegrass and hippies i love u jimi hendrix and nirvana and CCR and janis joplin. I love u victorian houses and jonny appleseed and john henry and mothman and bigfoot. I love u foggy days in the pacific northwest and neon signs and roadside attractions. I love u baseball and 1950s diners and soft serve. I love u native american art and pop art and poptarts. I love u blue jeans and barbecues and jazz musicians 

[assiraphales]

I would genuinely love to hear what a resident of china or russia loves about their home bc I’m not a fucking bigot and I know a government doesn’t define a culture but thanks for ur exposing yourself babe xoxo

[echoedcall]

Love for a nation is different than love for the government.

I love the US, but I hate the government.

I love the state I live in, but I think my governor is a moron.

I love the people who live here (even with their flaws).

I would expect a Chinese or Russian citizen to be able to say the same thing, because rarely does "love of a country" come from love of the government; it's typically love of the culture, natural beauty, etc.

[yandere-angela]

i think it's important to acknowledge that the reason why mastercard/visa has such a stranglehold on american society is because cash is not the main form of payment in the usa. the predominance of card has effectively privatized currency

in japan, one of the reasons why dlsite and other similar websites are able to just remove visa as a payment option instead of changing any of their merchandise (aside from the fact that visa doesn't have a monopoly here) is because cash payments for online transactions remain an option. even if you don't have a jcb credit card or paypay or whatever, you can still pay for your online purchases using cash by taking your barcode to a convenience store, and you can do this for essentially every online vendor, meaning credit card companies can't just impose their moral judgments on your purchases with much repercussion

[goth-princess-gwennie]

How does that barcode system work? I've never heard of something like that.

[yandere-angela]

1. you add whatever porn games or movies or books you want to your cart and go to checkout

2. you select cash payment at conbini as your payment method

3. youre emailed a barcode that you take to the conbini

4. you show it to the cashier, they scan it, and you pay what you owe. note that the cashier does not see what youre buying

and the transaction is complete

[yandere-angela]

from the notes im learning that brazil also something similar. based tbh

[chamiryokuroi]

Mexico too, there are multiple convenience stores you can pay at, sometimes you can also pay directly at the bank if it is offered even if you’re not a client of said bank.

[femalegothic]

are the women unfamiliar with rejection on the planet with us right now? where are the women who have never felt unwanted or ugly?

[woman-respecter]

like that one post said, anyone who has ever tried to posit the existence of male only issues really doesn’t see women as human beings with feelings

[chadradfem]

Bruh every day I feel unwanted and ugly, men aren’t special

[femsolid]

For a start, studies have shown that men have a higher self esteem than women worldwide.

Secondly, men don't know what terror is. "Terror" is not what you feel when you're nervous about a woman not being interested in sleeping with you. Terror is what you feel when you're a child bride on your first night with your paedophilic husband. Terror is when your father, uncle and brothers discuss murdering you because you've "dishonored" the family. Terror is when your boyfriend puts his hand around your neck because you threatened to leave him. Terror is when a man follows you home after you refused to answer his "hello what's your name can I have your number do you live nearby?" Ironically, terror is what women often feel when they reject men.

So here we have another case of men trying to discuss human psychology but being too self involved and misogynistic to make any sense.

[femsolid]

Going back to this, I didn't pick up on the misogynistic argument: "many women don't get this (...) it stems from overthinking..."

Men think more than women. That's the starting point of their argument.

[evenlesssentimentaltranslator]

When you’re accustomed to buying a domestic, sexual, and reproductive servant, free relationships feel like oppression.

[echoedcall]

Why do you talk as if men/masculinity is a conscious, continuous entity throughout time.

"when you're accustomed to.."

You think the men alive, today, ever experienced what you're talking about? Younger men in particular.

Even if you claim what you're talking about was going on in the 90s, there are adult men, today, who are younger than that. They would not be "accustomed" to it because they never personally experienced it. They are, in fact, new people, and they are "accustomed" to the world as they grew up in, and i, for one, dont remember being able to buy women.

Sex based oppression is enabled by refusing to treat women as individuals. Reversing that is not a solution because it leaves the door open to the former.

[damnfandomproblems]

Fandom Problem #13,802:

antis are just right-wingers with the serial numbers filed off. We're seeing the same talking points coming up in the us government right now, except rather than being by people cosplaying as leftists it's by people actively trying to criminalize being trans

deadass if it came out in 20 years that some acronym agency or some rich clown with a lex luthor-style online troll farm started modern anti-shipping as a psi-op in the 2010's i'd believe it in a second, but decent chance they'll have assisted everyone into an early grave before then. (Yes your constant insistence that someone shipping fictional characters will cause real life harm, has itself contributed to starving out creatives and caused real life harm against people who have done nothing wrong. But you'll cheer on your way into the gas chambers with the rest of us, won't you?

[nonenosome2]

"Left-wingers are totally pure and good and would never ever be pro-censorship. They are all actually riggt-wingers in disguise."

Yeah... This is why y'all can't call out the racists on the left either since "they aren't actually leftists".

[spirit-of-a-kiger]

this

[echoedcall]

I hate when people take something people do, proclaim it as bad and that the justifications that people are doing it are "to be evil", and that therefore it's some opposing faction doing it.

Like just look at the rhetoric of some antis and its blatantly obvious they aren't conservative.

They will sit and talk about how "problematic", "racist", or "mysygonistic" a ship is. Do those sound like conservative talking points? The people the left likes to paint as racist and sexist?

"Antis are conservative" is first-order thinking. It's looking at something bad, attributing it to pure malice, and applying that to an opposing faction, ergo "this is bad therefore right wingers did it". People need to look deeper than 1 step.

When your "conservative" is spouting leftist talking points at every opportunity, maybe they aren't actually a conservative. Maybe you just think "conservative = evil" so you attribute every negative thing to them regardless of the underlying root justification of the person.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

I just encountered someone whose bio said "men and terfs dni" and like. okay. alright. listen. okay

[dragon-in-a-fez]

been rotating this in my head for a few hours trying to figure out exactly how to phrase the problem here and I think it's: there is no non-terfy way to believe "all men individually are bad in a way that non-men are not", regardless of what your definition of "man" is. your thought process might be slightly different from JKR's but your functional beliefs about the world are the same.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

side note I wish I'd realised this before I got married

[dragon-in-a-fez]

I'm gonna say more about this I think. my ex fucked me up in a lot of ways but one of the most insidious was reframing every conflict, no matter what it was about, through a lens of "you're a Man and I'm a Marginalised Gender™, and therefore you are reinforcing misogyny if you don't place my needs above yours."

it really doesn't matter that they're nonbinary; at the end of the day that's exactly the same moral system as "you shouldn't be allowed to use public toilets because it makes me, a person with marginalised and thus morally superior genitals, feel icky."

the moment you start processing your individual relationships/interactions through moral judgments about groups and systems, you've abandoned emotional honesty for dehumanising mental shortcuts. that's fascist-adjacent and a recipe for psychological abuse no matter what the specifics of those shortcuts are.

[echoedcall]

Hmmm.

Many forget that "terf" is an acronym, and thus lump many *bad feminist positions* under "terf" rather than the more accurate "rad fem".

Most radfems are exceptionally anti-male. Most terfs are terfs through the "men are universally evil, thus trans women are predatory men and trans men are gender traitors" (which, by the way, is very much a Marxist class theory/class struggle theory mapped onto gender with men as the bourgeoisie and women as the proletariat). Other reach terfism through the "transness is degenerate mental illness" pipeline.

Regardless, you can be anti-male and not a terf, but they tend to go hand in hand because, well, either they exclude transmen from the man hate (which just means they see transmen as distinct from "men") or they exclude transwomen from the male hate (which to be fair, gets less pushback).

Most swerfs are anti-men, but they dont talk about trans people in the same way terfs do, because the "anti-man" stuff is more "radfem" than "trans exclusive".

Which is why LGBT groups tend to have the unique problems they do because the more left leaning/progressive they are, the more likely they are to give shelter to radfems, which just breeds terfs.

Eventually, an anti-man radfem will ask *the trans question* and then poof, (likely) another terf.

[soundlessdragon]

My kids are still quite young (under school age), and I've been careful to try to make sure they only have kind role models. This has resulted in typical mean language being absent from their vocabulary, such as "you're stupid/ugly/I hate you", but they've started inventing their own ways to be mean lol, such as "you're not my brother anymore, you're a stranger to me now", and hearing that out of a toddler's mouth is so cutting lol

[soundlessdragon]

My favorite tags so far

[gator-crusador]

This is a great case-in-point about why designating certain words forbidden is an ineffective strategy. Words don’t dictate thoughts and feelings; they express them. The thoughts and feelings remain, even if the mode of expression is taken away, and a new mode of expression for the thought will be found.

[echoedcall]

^^^^

I have been saying this for a while, but there is functionally little difference between someone saying a slur and saying something with the same vitriol, intensity, and intent that one would normally exclaim a slur with.

The words do not matter, but the intent behind them, which is why anything, with the right intent, can be turned into an insult.

[powerbottomblake]

i think when we used to point out that a story didn't need a sex scene what we meant was "this story reduces its women to mere sex objects and gives them no interiority so the sex scenes are gratuitous and geared towards the male gaze" it wasn't the sex that bothered us per se it was the objectification of female characters while givig them little to no consequence to the overall story but nowadays people mean "sex is icky and gross and has no merit to ever be portrayed in our arts which should be good and pure and never ever make ME feel discomfort" and it's like. i bet a bowl of unfrosted flakes looks real good to you rn

[nonenosome2]

"When we said something was bad because we didn't like them, our reasons and goals were noble. This is totally unlike the people nowadays who say something is bad and also think their reasons and goals are noble."

[witch-hattery]

First off, characters are objects. So write that down.

Some might try to argue they aren't tangible, and don't count as objects per se, but they certainly don't count as people.

Second, fiction written for women has men that are just as one-dimensional and designed to serve as objects in a female fantasy, so it's not something just men do.

So for all the "male gaze," "where are her organs," and "repair her armor," people out there:

It's not for you, move along.

That's between the creator and the consumer, if you aren't either, then you don't have a place there, shut up.

[echoedcall]

I only hate sex scenes when they are not plot relevant. If it can be skipped and nothing is missed then it effectively filler, that said:

Romance Story - sex scence showing their attraction toward one another, great

Other - Sex scene showing how the dynamic of two characters is changing (typically from friends/work partners to more like lovers), great

Characterization - Scene exist to show behaviors/personality of a character (this guy likes sex, they're a player, etc), great

Sex scene that exist as world building, great

Random sex between two, nameless characters that will never be seen again, skip! Especially the *two animals randomly start fucking* thing every adult comedy thinks is so funny.