[asoiaf-art]

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[kiefbowl]

also, one of the exhausting things about discussing domestic violence is that of course so many people can concede lip service that it's "bad" etc. but what's revealing about how little they care, or that they don't prioritize it, or that they really do hold beliefs that women are meant to be abused is that they often are not ready to discuss what is the most common pattern of abuse, and that is escalation. the end point of that escalation is murder. it's like...I'm not going to be cowed into thinking this is an intellectual question, or that I'm just interested in some sort of ideological project. I can look people in the eye and ask them "do you care when women are murdered?" and I don't feel conflicted about it. women are murdered. Women are murdered! when men get away with one punch, they start getting away with two. on and on. I think it's an emergency when women are punched. I don't care what anyone's beliefs are at that point. men are allowed to be our judge, jury, and executioner? at their own whims? why am I supposed to sit comfortably with that.

[jaime-lannisters]

Though his fifteenth nameday was still half a year away, Prince Jacaerys proved himself a man, and a worthy heir to the Iron Throne.

HOUSE OF THE DRAGON

Season 3 Episode 1 - Salt and Sea, Fire and Blood

[letters-from-x-deactivated20260]

A radical feminist’s reading list-

Classic

The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan

Sexual Politics by Kate Millett

On Lies, Secrets, and Silence: Selected Prose, 1966-1978 by Adrienne Rich

The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf

Fiction

The Power by Naomi Alderman

Salt Slow by Julia Armfield

The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood

Native Tongue by Suzette Haden Elgin

The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler

Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado

The Gate to Woman’s Country by Sheri S. Tepper

History

Women’s Work: The First 20,000 Years by Elizabeth Wayland Barber

Caliban and the Witch: Women, the Body, and Primitive Accumulation by Silvia Federici

The Living Goddesses by Marija Gimbutas

The Creation of Patriarchy by Gerda Lerner

Who Cooked the Last Supper? The Women’s History of the World by Rosalind Miles

Women of Ideas: And What Men Have Done to Them by Dale Spender

Headstrong: 52 Women Who Changed Science-and the World by Rachel Swaby

Intersectional

Women, Race & Class by Angela Y. Davis

Ain’t I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism by bell hooks

It’s Not About the Burqa by Mariam Khan (editor)

Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde

This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color by Cherríe Moraga (editor) and Gloria Anzaldúa (editor)

Lesbian

Unpacking Queer Politics: A Lesbian Feminist Perspective by Sheila Jeffreys

The Disappearing L: Erasure of Lesbian Spaces and Culture by Bonnie J. Morris

Homophobia: A Weapon of Sexism by Suzanne Pharr

Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence by Adrienne Rich

Liberal vs. radical

Female Erasure: What You Need to Know about Gender Politics’ War on Women, the Female Sex and Human Rights by Ruth Barrett (editor)

End of Equality by Beatrix Campbell

Feminisms: A Global History by Lucy Delap

Daring to be Bad: Radical Feminism in America, 1967-1975 by Alice Echols

Gender Hurts: A Feminist Analysis of the Politics of Transgenderism by Sheila Jeffreys

Freedom Fallacy: The Limits of Liberal Feminism by Miranda Kiraly (editor) and Meagan Tyler (editor)

The Sexual Liberals and the Attack on Feminism by Dorchen Leidholdt (editor) and Janice G. Raymond (editor)

The Transsexual Empire: The Making of the She-Male by Janice G. Raymond

We Were Feminists Once: From Riot Grrrl to CoverGirl, the Buying and Selling of a Political Movement by Andi Zeisler

Pornography, prostitution, surrogacy & rape

Against Our Will: Men, Women and Rape by Susan Brownmiller

Slavery Inc.: The Untold Story of International Sex Trafficking by Lydia Cacho

Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines

Being and Being Bought: Prostitution, Surrogacy and the Split Self by Kajsa Ekis Ekman

The Industrial Vagina: The Political Economy of the Global Sex Trade by Sheila Jeffreys

Only Words by Catharine A. Mackinnon

Know My Name by Chanel Miller

Not a Choice, Not a Job: Exposing the Myths about Prostitution and the Global Sex Trade by Janice G. Raymond

Women as Wombs: Reproductive Technologies and the Battle Over Women’s Freedom by Janice G. Raymond

Psychology & trauma

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis Herman

Toward a New Psychology of Women by Jean Baker Miller

Theory

Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Gyn/Ecology: The Metaethics of Radical Feminism by Mary Daly

Last Days at Hot Slit: The Radical Feminism of Andrea Dworkin by Andrea Dworkin, Johanna Fateman (editor) and Amy Scholder (editor

The Dialectic of Sex: The Case for a Feminist Revolution by Shulamith Firestone

Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics by bell hooks

Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by bell hooks

Against Sadomasochism: A Radical Feminist Analysis by Robin Ruth Linden (editor), Darlene R. Pagano (editor), Diana E. H. Russell (editor) and Susan Leigh Star (editor)

Toward a Feminist Theory of the State by Catharine A. Mackinnon

The Sexual Contract by Carole Pateman

Other

Without Apology: The Abortion Struggle Now by Jenny Brown

Close to Home: A Materialist Analysis of Women’s Oppression by Christine Delphy

Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leave Women Dismissed, Misdiagnosed, and Sick by Maya Dusenbery

Beauty and Misogyny: Harmful Cultural Practices in the West by Sheila Jeffreys

Are Women Human? And Other International Dialogues by Catharine A. Mackinnon

Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez

A Passion for Friends: Toward a Philosophy of Female Affection by Janice G. Raymond

How to Suppress Women’s Writing by Joanna Russ

Man Made Language by Dale Spender

Counting for Nothing: What Men Value and What Women are Worth by Marilyn Waring

[gameofthronesdaily]

Baelor of House Targaryen, Prince of Dragonstone, Hand of the King, Protector of the Realm, and heir apparent to the Iron Throne of the Seven Kingdoms of Westeros, went to the fire in the yard of Ashford Castle on the north bank of River Cockleswent. Other great houses might choose to bury their dead in the dark earth or sink them in the cold green sea, but the Targaryens were the blood of the dragon, and their ends were writ in flame.

A KNIGHT OF THE SEVEN KINGDOMS — 1.05: In the Name of the Mother

[anomalys-bane]

Something about the word consent in feminist and liberal lingo has always bothered me. 'Enthusiastic consent' 'Consent is key' 'consent is sexyy' 'Don't post nudes of women on the internet without her consent' 'never put your hands on a woman without her consent', or conversations around the importance of consent in surrogacy, sex work, bdsm, everything. Then it kind of clicked, because consenting to things in these scenarios is a relatively passive action. It is soo one sided. Consent implies that there is one who proposes and one who accepts. Consent is defined as something that 'occurs when one person voluntarily agrees to the proposal or desires of another.'

She can consent, even enthusiastically, say yes or no, like a binary code, but she did not design, propose, initiate or orchestrate it, nor can she fully control the outcome in the society she lives in. And this is true on a mass scale. When have you ever heard of sex being described as men consenting to a woman's sexual advances? Or discussions that you shouldn't upload men's explicit pictures without their consent?

Male consent is not considered an important factor because their desires are assumed inevitable, like a force of nature, a neutral, unquestioned starting point, and women can only exist relative to that, to either accept or deny. They can't have active desires of their own. Men are considered actors fundamentally and women are the ones acted upon.

Of course consent is important and essential, but would consent in these scenarios be all that much better than non consent given the coercive society we live in? Consent is a poor ethical framework if taken alone. Consent itself in these scenarios can never be ethical because the premise itself is unequal, as are social interpretations and outcomes, and no amount of agreement will change that.

[musingsunderstarlight]

And once again you’ve read my mind and put it to words perfectly.

This is exactly what I mean when I say “consent” is just the modern equivalent of “submit.”

[majchic]

[virtualcremefem]

and "women should starve actually"

[hestiasroom]

It’s very intentional that all of the conversations around male loneliness and the vilification of toxic masculinity leave out the fact that women are reacting to the violent misogyny that came just before this cultural moment. This didn’t come out of nowhere, and the men are not hapless victims. Talk about why this sentiment was sooooo relatable to so many women. Talk about the rape. Talk about the rampant porn consumption. Then you’ll have the full story. But they never will because the goal is to make women look crazy for having enough self-respect to reject male violence.

[magnetictapedatastorage]

and the moment never truly ended, it just became more fragmented into forums and chatrooms, then discords and podcasts, the online equivalent of male locker rooms, after a brief stint in front of everybody in the form of cable TV.

they never stopped being misogynist freaks, its the format of media that changed. you no longer (usually) see a rack of 50 magazines with 45 of them aimed at men and 38 of those containing pinups in every single full-page ad, instead you see an individual tailored feed (or dashboard) that makes it less and less clear what anyone else is seeing.

[fillejondrette]

I saw a your comment on there being better women’s history books than The Last Supper and was wondering if you have any good recommendations? 👍👍

yes :) these are all books i've read so obviously not fairly representative in terms of time period geography or topic

< ANCIENT HISTORY >

Women's Work: The First 20,000 Years,: Women, Cloth, and Society in Early Times, by Elizabeth Wayland Barber

The Murder of Regilla: A Case of Domestic Violence in Antiquity, by Sarah Pomeroy

< MEDIEVAL AND EARLY MODERN EUROPE >

Common Women: Prostitution and Sexuality in Medieval England, by Ruth Mazo Karras

Girl Culture in the Middle Ages and Renaissance: Performance and Pedagogy, by Deanne Williams

The Prospect Before Her: A History of Women in Western Europe, 1500-1800, by Olwen Hufton

Dangerous Talk and Strange Behavior: Women and Popular Resistance to the Reforms of Henry VIII, by Sharon Jansen

New-Born Child Murder: Women, Illegitimacy and the Courts in Eighteenth-Century England, by Mark Jackson

Common Bodies: Women, Touch, and Power in Seventeenth-Century England, by Laura Gowing

Menstruation and the Female Body in Early Modern England, by Sara Read

< WITCH PERSECUTION >

Witchcraft: A History in Thirteen Trials, by Marion Gibson

Witch Craze: Terror and Fantasy in Baroque Germany, by Lyndal Roper

The Last Witches of England: A Tragedy of Sorcery and Superstition, by John Callow

The Ruin of All Witches: Life and Death in the New World, by Mark Gaskill

< US HISTORY >

They Were Her Property: White Women as Slave Owners in the American South, by Stephanie Jones-Rogers

Subversive Habits: Black Catholic Nuns in the Long African American Freedom Struggle, by Shannen Dee Williams

[branzinos]

🍎ABBOTT ELEMENTARY ↪ S04E19: Music Class 🩷💜💙

[ratqueen40]

Get that abortion and finish school. Dump that worthless man and get that abortion and live your life. Get that abortion and keep that promise to yourself to only having one kid and being done. Get that abortion, you don’t have to keep a pregnancy that was unplanned and unwanted. It doesn’t mean you’re taking responsibility when you accept pregnancy, getting an abortion is often the best choice. How could I be a mother and not support the bodily autonomy of all other girls and women? Women who are anti abortion or “pro life” are lost and confused, I don’t hate you, but I don’t understand why you hate abortion and how that affects you.

I don’t know who needs to read this, but get that fucking abortion, pregnancy and birth is not for every woman. Not all of us need to be having kids and that’s ok, so don’t ever feel bad about anyone trying to make you feel guilty for not having kids. You will regret being a mother more than choosing to become childfree. Read that again.

[roschka]

shirt that says "Ive been a fan of Taylor Swift for almost her entire career but I dont really like the self-sexualizing direction shes going in and I feel like it is harmful to women as a whole as well as not particularly original considering every female pop star is going with the 'im so sexy hehe' shtick and Taylor worked so hard to be known for her artistry and her lyricism rather than her looks and her relationship history and I feel like while shes allowed to grow and change as an artist she is contradicting herself with all these silly burlesque outfits and i find all this hard to support"

[tiredyke]

the time to be a mean dyke is now. be a killjoy feminist and take things too seriously, we’ve been too nice about girl math and girl dinner and pink jobs and the general infantilization of women and it’s gotten us nowhere. be a buzzkill now, for our future and our dignity

[only-cat-memes]

[spicyreyes]

I try and avoid engagementbait when I can but look at his EYES

[cricketcat9]

Waiting for the immediate luck

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

must reblog for kittycat

[atwoodsfemalefantasy]

can we eliminate the term "good pussy". i don't think some pussies are bad and some are good. the pussy itself is not good or bad, the person is good or bad at sex. some pussies are not better than others. and phrasing it as "good pussy" and not "woman who's good at sex" removes the personhood of the woman. it puts her on the sidelines of the sex she is having. it makes her seem like an inanimate and inactive member of the sexual encounter as if her pussy is the only thing in the equation. you don't have sex with a pussy. you have sex with a woman.

[mkantor]

How do I talk my friend out of getting fillers? She says she’s hesitant to do it because it would make her a “bad feminist” (which… well, yeah), but she’s still leaning towards it. Are there any radfems out there more familiar with fillers, who can give me other reasons to present to her to convince her not to do it? (E.g., it doesn’t look natural, it can go wrong, anything.) I know she’s gonna regret it if she gets them.

[queen-mayhem]

Absolutely - because I've had to talk myself out of it and "good politics" isn't always enough.

First argument: It's more permanent than people realize. Filler doesn't actually dissolve. It migrates. They've done imaging on this, MRIs and stuff. Although the desired effects of the filler might not be visible on the face anymore, the filler is still present in the body. It has migrated deeper and into other places in the face. It also has the potential to expand over time. Fillers are forms of hyaluronic acid, which is a hydrophilic molecule - meaning it attracts water and swells up. As it migrates deeper into the skin, it could be attracting more water. We don't really know. The fact is, you have absolutely no way of knowing what that filler is going to do when it gets into your body. (Here's a consumer-oriented industry blog article on the subject, which I think has a decent balance of science and accessibility, but feel free to google 'filler migration mri' and pick whatever source you think she'll listen to.)

And sure, you can get filler dissolved. They use an enzyme that breaks up hyaluronic acid. Hey, did you know that hyaluronic acid is naturally present in the connective tissues of your body? The enzyme doesn't know the difference between the natural and the store-bought stuff. So sure, you can get your filler dissolved - if you know exactly where it is, and only use exactly enough of the enzyme to dissolve the filler, and you get lucky enough that your own body doesn't become collateral damage.

Second argument: Speaking of "we don't really know," let's talk about how fast and loose the cosmetic surgery industry plays with the science and health impacts. Silicone breast implants have been around since the 60s, and they've been the most popular and well-studied cosmetic procedure since then. The industry didn't start acknowledging health risks of rupture and leakage until the early 1980s. They didn't start acknowledging potential risks of cancer associated with them until the 1990s, and they continue to insist that implants in general are perfectly safe and non-carcinogenic (you know, except the textured ones - really can't spin that data any other way) to this day.

And despite the fact that accounts of strange symptoms consistent with systemic inflammation after breast implants have been reported in the medical literature since at least the early 1990s (commonly called "Breast Implant Illness"), the cosmetic surgery industry still, to this day, insists that there's no such thing and any apparent link between breast implants and poor health comes from the fact that women who get breast implants are shallow, crazy, unhealthy whores. (Seriously.)

HA fillers are much younger, only really hitting the market in the 90s, and don't have half the research because they're less medicalized. Wanna roll the dice?

Third argument: Facial harmony and cascading interventions.

I'm willing to acknowledge that this doesn't always happen. Sometimes, the stars align. You get a great aesthetic provider, you have realistic expectations, you make careful choices, your body takes filler well, you do a very small amount of filler, and the results look great. A lot of celebrities have had filler, and a lot of them look fine. Does your friend have the ability to go see who the celebrities see? If not, probably not worth it. Because not all celebrities end up looking fine, either.

One of the most important elements of facial aesthetics is harmony. Your face has to look like it makes sense together. Your face doesn't look the way it does by accident. You look the way you do because of your underlying bone structure and genetic predisposition to fat and muscle distributation. That's why we can do facial reconstruction.

When you start getting cosmetic procedures, it is very easy to do something that makes your face stop making sense. Sometimes these effects are minor, especially if you're doing something that only affects soft tissue/cartilage, like a minor nose job. Jennifer Grey is the best example here. Her post-rhinoplasty nose doesn't look bad. It doesn't look entirely out of place on her face. It wasn't a huge change. By all accounts, that was a great nose job. But she doesn't look like herself. Literally unrecognizable. Destroyed her career. Because her nose was the anchor point for her facial harmony. All her other features existed in conversation with it.

But that's a very minor example. It can be a lot more severe. And I'll use myself as an example, because that's how I talked myself out of it. I wanted undereye filler. I have hollows under my eyes - and since I have large eyes and wear high-prescription glasses, they're really noticeable. I've been self-conscious about them since I was a little kid. But the fact is, they're not fixable. Because they're structural. I have deep-set eyes. The depth isn't just below my eyes - my brow ridge is kind of strong too, because my actual eyes are farther back. It's not a lack of volume, it's just physically where the bones of my face are.

So, yeah, I could get undereye filler. And then my face would look extremely weird. Because my eyes would be deep-set at the top, but not at the bottom, like they're set in there at an angle. Also, because my cheekbones exist in relation to my deep-set eyes, getting underye filler will make my cheekbones look flat. So unless I want to completely lose my cheekbone structure, I'd need to get filler in my cheeks, too - to balance it out.

But my cheekbones exist in relation to the rest of my face. At that point, the features of my upper face would be a lot stronger and more prominent than the features of my lower face. That's gonna throw off the balance. I'll probably need lip filler, so my lips don't seem to disappear visually. But now my lips are out of balance with my jaw and chin - I'll need jawline and chin filler.

Meanwhile, my soft, small nose is progressively disappearing into these stronger, sharper features. Oh shit, now we're doing actual surgery. But most rhino procedures will make the nose look even smaller. Okay, keep it minimal with a tip-plasty and maybe some filler in the nose bridge to create a stronger, sharper look without losing too much actual size.

But now the ratio of my nose to my lips is off and it's making my philtrum look long. I guess I'll get a lip flip? But since my smile isn't gummy, I'll probably need an actual lip lift, which is another surgical procedure. And shit, now my teeth look weird, because I have small teeth. The lift increased tooth show, but there's no more tooth to show. Now I need veneers.

By the end of this, I would have spent tens of thousands of dollars on cosmetic procedures. I would not look anything like myself. I would have filler in every single feature on my face and have almost certainly started getting that overfilled pillowface look. And by the way, all that filler would probably gett in the way of the natural movement of my face, so my facial expressions would probably look super weird. (example - Bobbi Althoff) And I probably still wouldn't like the way I look. All because I wanted a little filler in the hollows under my eyes.

I didn't realize this until I found a series of pictures of someone who went through it. A very pretty young woman. Every procedure making her look slightly worse, but in a different way, as she tried to fix the problems caused by the last procedure. Until she eventually looked like a plastic alien freak tbh.

A final, gentler point: You are one link on a genetic chain.

This may not apply to your friend. She may not have any genetically-related children in her life, and may not ever have them. But if she wants children some day, or she has nieces and nephews... they're not gona inherit her altered features. They're gonna inherit the features that she felt were so unattractive they warranted painful, expensive, invasive alteration. What does that say to them?

Or maybe it's not about the children who share her features. Maybe it's about her mother, or grandmother, or aunt, or sister, or cousin. Most likely, there is someone in her family with exactly the same feature that she is trying to change.

I also have to regularly talk myself out of a very small amount of lip filler, right in the middle of the bottom lip. Frankly, it would make me look better, objectively speaking. My sisters have the same lips I do. By saying my lips are unacceptably unattractive, I'm saying their lips are unacceptably unattractive. And I would never, ever say that to them.

If your friend has absolutely zero relationship with any of her genetic relations and also never wants kids, maybe this won't apply. But if she does... this might hit harder than an abstract discussion of feminist principles.

TL;DR:

1. Filler is not temporary, it just migrates - and you have no way of knowing or controlling when, or how that happens. Trying to dissolve it could have disastrous consquences.

2. The long-term effects of filler are pretty unknown.

3. It probably won't look good anyway.

4. You are not the only person in the world with features that look like yours.

[mkantor]

Holy shit, this is amazing; thank you! I feel a lot more prepared to talk to her about it now.

[drbased]

The whole ‘if men didn’t exist we’d dress hotter’ is so irritating… girl you do realise that your entire conceptualisation of the concept of ‘hot’ has been constructed and perpetuated by men. Like most of you are straight, you wouldn’t know what looks hot on a woman without being told by men; men existing are the reason why you're drawn to sexy clothing in the first place. Men aren't fantasising about not having women around so they can walk around in mankinis, get a grip.

[feminismisfemale]

The existence of radical feminism is so incredible and I never see anyone talking about it. Somehow, after years of having anti-woman ideology hammered into us from all aspects of society, we break free of it and focus on our own goals in liberating ourselves and our sisters.

Radical feminism proves that anyone, no matter how deeply ingrained into society their suffering may be, can look past that and realise that they do not deserve to suffer.

I love all of my radical feminist sisters for helping me realise I do not deserve to suffer simply because I am female. I really do.