radical-grape

Woman, 23, Dutch, radfem.

[kiefbowl]

I know it's cringe as an american to play devil's advocate for other american's behaviors abroad, but I was reading this reddit thread about annoying american abroad habits, and most were fair, like yeah we dumb & rude I get ittttt blah blah blah. but then there were people complaining that american's will answer "where are you from?" with their town & state and the prevailing attitude was like "isn't that just like an american to think we know all their one horse towns" and idk I think we're just friendly lmao. like I would also take that question as a conversation starter. if I met an austrailian and asked where they were from and they said "australia" i'd be like no shit sherlock lol. I don't know beepboopville queensland, but I can't ask about it if you don't tell me. as if any of us yanks know the majority of the municipalities in the united states. if someone told me they were from googoogaga iowa I'd be like wow, never heard of it. tell me more. so that's the one thing I think ppl are misjudging americans on.

[dragyndyke]

I live in Ireland now and every time I say I’m from the States they ask me which one. I think you’re right that it’s a friendly conversation starter to give a specific answer.

[queen-mayhem]

100% I think people complaining about this are complaining about the wrong cultural difference. It's not "Americans think we all know their geography," it's "Americans love to chit-chat with strangers and assume everybody else wants to, too."

[notcisjustwoman]

It's literally the answer to the question that was asked, some people just enjoy being mad for no reason.

[sowhatnotcreative]

Alright internationals! Let's start answering "where are you from" with your municipality and not country! XD

[bakerstreetdoctor]

when you, as an American are asked, where you are from, especially in countries where the native language is not English, the chances are high that they do indeed not know which country you are from because people oftentimes can't tell your accents apart. It's easy to say "USA" and maybe people will then ask "oh where exactly" because they know it's a huge ass country, there you go, you can start to go in-depth without being culturally condescending

[shriekinghag]

If someone tells me they're from the USA or Australia or whatever I'm not gonna think to myself "no shit sherlock". I can't tell people apart by accent, I am barely able to place the most common german dialects. Sometimes this website is so utterly anglo-centric, for lack of a better term.

[radical-grape]

So I feel like there's two things going on here:

1. I do notice that people from my country who have never been to america or don't actually know any americans will harbor a ridiculous amount of hate and superiority towards americans just because of what they see in the media. It's objectively stupid and deserves to be called out. Japan is praised for it's politeness culture and the USA is seen as ingenuine stupid idiots for the same thing. People love to hate on the US for anything and everything.

2. You are misunderstanding why people dislike when americans mention their town instead of their country. The issue is not "oh that's tmi i don't need to know the exact spot", the issue is that they are not actually answering the question in a way the other person can understand. Saying "I'm from the US, specifically beepboopville" is fine and nice conversation, saying "I'm from beepboopville" with no reference to any place I would actually know leaves me feeling stupid and needing to ask again where the hell you're from.

It's like asking someone where they got a shirt and you answer "aisle 3", like wtf? At what store?? Am i supposed to tell by your style where you shop at? If you're IN the store it's a fine response but saying that anywhere else is INSANE.

At the same time it's really not hard to ask "at what store/in what country" and people love to blow this out of proportion because USamerica=bad.

Ok hope this helps bye

[kkoffin]

It’s funny that when you address the fact that men have more physical strength than women, people act as though you’re saying women are inferior. Like do you people think gorillas are superior to humans? maybe in a boxing match, sure, but I don’t see gorillas running successful democracies and building rockets to take them to the moon.

[gender-machine-broke]

“Ohhh so you think women are just useless little fragile waifs who can’t take care of themselves and should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen” no. Literally no one said that either. Women have several physical advantages over men including flexibility, more dexterous hands, and better resistance to famine and disease. But in a world where everything was designed for men and their bodies and men regularly use their greater physical strength to terrorize women, pretending there are zero physical differences between the sexes is not the more feminist stance. It puts women in harm’s way

[bushpropaganda]

exactly!!! painting physical strength disparities as anti-feminist only serves to aid male violence and victimize women. you teach a woman that she's as (physically) strong as any man, and she will be woefully unprepared when she's in a situation where it's her strength against his.

if you've ever had to fight off a man, either for your safety or another woman's, you would realize how insanely strong even the most sedentary man is. in addition to natural upper body strength, they have longer arms, larger hands, and stronger grip strength—it's easier for them to grab you, and when they do, you are not getting away without fighting dirty.

it's why women's self-defense classes teach unique incapacitation methods that do not rely on upper body strength, but on weak spots, dexterity, and making use of our legs.

i want all these feminists who have an issue with this to ask a man in their lives to subdue them without holding their strength back. then i want them to try and get away. then i want them to come back to me with how it went.

now, imagine a situation where a man's full intent is to hurt you, where he is exercising the full extent of his strength in an attempt to victimize you, and ask yourself how that would go.

instead of pretending that the strength disparity doesn't exist in an effort to prove women's value, stop making physical strength a defining factor of worthiness.

[unregistered-hypercam2-deactiva]

the evolution here is also a solid contender for meme of the year 2019

[dhaaruni]

She's right and she should say it

[a-lesbian-feminist]

There actually are a lot of genuinely submissive men, but they're submissive to OTHER MEN. It's rare for men to submit to women, but they constantly submit to their male authority figures like bosses, politicians, etc.

[atwoodsfemalefantasy]

and you'll soon find that these "submissive" men are actually just as in control as the "dominant" man. just tell your "submissive" boyfriend you no longer want to fulfill his submissive fantasies.

in the end, whose fantasies are you fulfilling? still his. he is still in control, he is still telling YOU what to do, it's just that he's controlling from what appears to be a submissive position.

[thepromiscuousfinger]

[liberalsarecool]

The bubble is nigh.

[digitalmyyth]

Hanging out with people will make you remember you're the crazy woke friend for like. not wanting to shop at shien

[no-longer-another-bondi-blonde]

17 year-old Juliane Koepcke was sucked out of an airplane in 1971 after it was struck by a bolt of lightning. She fell 2 miles to the ground, strapped to her seat and survived after she endured 10 days in the Amazon Jungle.

After ten days, she found a boat moored near a shelter, and found the boat's fuel tank still partly full. Koepcke poured the gasoline on her wounds, an action which succeeded in removing the maggots from her arm. Out of 93 passengers and crew, Juliane was the only survivor of the LANSA flight 508 crash that took place December 24th, 1971.

🔗Her story in her own words: https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-17476615

[my-weeping-id]

Juliane Koepcke is a Bad Ass!

[mannsweib-deactivated20231003]

Her book gives a small insight into how female survivors are treated: not as heroes, but as hypersexual psychopaths who, in her case, are relentlessly guilt-tripped and blamed for the catastrophic death of their loved ones ... all while the media is busy drawing sexualised cartoons and getting off on an underage girl's body.

[haterf]

^^^ Building off the above reply with some examples....

This was the first thing that stuck out to me, in her book:

If Juliane was a 17-year-old boy, her judgment calls & survival skills probably wouldn’t be passed off as a mere mistake/fluke. If she was a guy, people would lap that shit up and call her a Fine Boy Scout™.

Next is this passage:

“Now Father has lost his wife...” this thought never crossed Juliane’s mind, because she had no way of knowing if her mother was alive or dead. Juliane couldn’t find her mom after the crash. But notice how the media somehow managed to center the plight of a man in a story about *checks notes* a girl who braved the wilderness alone for 10 days after losing her mother in a plane crash.

Some media outlets floated the idea that, in addition to witnessing her mother’s death, Juliane had seen other struggling survivors as well & neglected to help them. This is false. It just goes to show that girls are villainized for taking care of themselves instead of taking care of everyone else—even when they’re all alone in the middle of the jungle, fighting for their own survival.

Juliane also came under scrutiny for her emotional state, after her rescue. Because she was traumatized and in shock, she didn’t react “appropriately” to her situation or grieve for her mother the way people expected her to.

As seen above, some voices in the media pathologized her understandable trauma response, treating her like a deranged sociopath.

^^^ This shit speaks for itself. Reminder that Juliane was just a child, a teenager.

Lastly, there actually is a 1974 movie about Juliane directed by Giuseppe Maria Scotese, starring Susan Penhaligon. The movie is called Miracles Still Happen. This is how the movie marketed her story:

And here’s how the media covered it:

So yeah. In conclusion, men are trash. And to wrap things up, I’ll leave you with this extremely tasteful comic strip by a (male) artist.

[mannsweib-deactivated20231003]

thank you so much for this valuable addition!! this is exactly what i was talking about! 

[izzavi]

@xxcaptainfantasticxx

1. 50 years is not that long ago

2. The dynamics of sexism/misogyny, sexual exploitation and anti indigenous racism (seen in using indigenous people as the scary simple abductors in that loser man’s trashy novel ripping off her experiences) are still with us today and still need to be dismantled

3. I don’t see you doing anything better with your time “respectful” “deep thinker”

[bobdylanyaoi]

all weapons formed against bisexual women shall not prosper

[godlessondheimite]

In 2026, the chicest thing a gay actor can do is never explicitly come out as gay but also make it abundantly clear that he is. Coming out is too modern. Staying closeted is too old fashioned. But this method merges contemporary freedom with Old Hollywood glamour and allure, and it weeds out the dumbest people who truly don’t get it. I call it the Pascal Method.

[nobodys-odyssey]

Taylor Swift does this

[godlessondheimite]

no she doesn’t

[nobodys-odyssey]

You clearly don't go here or to queer history and signaling, or both, enough to have this conversation and I'm not going to explain it to you. You could have asked questions, you could have done even a modicum of research. You didn't and you made yourself look ignorant. Goodbye.

[radical-grape]

Ok but she literally doesn't

[drarry]

Imagine being the gays at a pride event in 2004 living their lives when someone grabs the microphone and announces to the room that Ronald Reagan was pronounced dead. Can you even imagine the hype, the celebration, the pure elation

[drarry]

This is the Pride Month that It will happen. I feel it in my gay bones

[broken-horn-of-equius]

[goth-queen]

[woman-respecter]

tumblr is ground zero for something i like to call soft mens right’s activism (or uwu mra) and it makes me want to tear my hair out

[parallaxia2]

the main thing to understand about fandom women is that most of them are so sheltered and isolated irl that when someone says "men" they think of fictional characters and not actual men

[vanityschild-deactivated2026031]

"I love men ❤️ " no you love castiel

[hugewoman]

“boys deserve to be allowed to cry look at him!!!” homegirl that’s a cartoon drawing of a fictional person… beloved, he’s imaginary

[goldcrescent]

[rdlain]

From Women Hating, we have Dworkin on:

Beastiality:

and incest:

[pisceanpharies]

I've posted about this before. I was shocked and disgusted to read this and didn't read anything further by her.

I got attacked by radfems for talking about this, and I found that really weird, until I came to understand how stupid, lazy and self-indulgent radfems are in general.

Despite some of the other things she's said having a lot of merit, this sick stuff is not anything I want to identify with.

[godisafujoshi]

[maliceshoujo]

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