#generational healing

[a-path-by-the-moon]

[rayaeternum]

I might get a lot of hate for this, but I want Helluva Boss to explore the myriad of reasons cis women get abortions. I want it to be explored in a healthy way

Because I feel in the current climate (especially politically) people don't want to ever think of the possibility that a woman won't want children. Millie isn't happy about this news.

And I'd absolutely love for Millie to not tell Moxxie she had an abortion, I want her to feel guilty about it and talk to Blitzø about it, worrying that if Moxxie knew he'd hate her.

And I want Blitzø to convince her that because he loves her he would support her no matter what. And when she tells Moxxie he just says "it's your body so it's your choice, but next time let me know so I can help you through this."

Not all cis women want nor can physically have children. We need to talk about abortion in a much healthier way than the current climate allows.

Edit to add this:

Okay so while replying to someone it made me think, what if they tied this in to Stella's backstory? Very early on we see that Stella seems kind of distant towards Octavia.

If Stella is a woman who was forced to have a child when she didn't want one, her personality towards Stolas and Octavia becomes more apparent.

She spends more time with her brother than with Octavia.

she even calls her "an egg"

and "his daughter" instead of ever calling her Octavia or even her own daughter.

This could be a good way to explore how a person who was forced into a mothering role could act, and explains her distaste for Stolas' strength of actually doing something against the Ars Goetias authority.

Stella in this moment sees Octavia crying, but if we look at her eyes closely she isn't watching the television, she's looking at Octavia and smiling at the fact she's in pain.

Stella thinks she's proven here that it's impossible/was impossible to ever go against the status quo, that her wishes of ever disobeying the Goetia is futile and she's proven to Stolas and Octavia that it was always impossible.

I think a plot like this could really help the audience understand childfree people from a different perspective, and what  could happen if you force a person who wishes to be childfree to have a child.

She could even have been mentally unwell/unstable after/before giving birth, which effects how she reacts towards people.

We as a society need to stop pressuring people into doing things our grandparents did just because it's what is expected of you.

This whole show is about generational trauma and breaking free from it, so I can see the show going this direction if it chooses to.

What do you think of this idea, and of it tying into a possible Stella backstory?

[deepdiveastro]

[animealways]

Celine from Kpop demon hunter

My personal hot take is that Celine is one of the best characters from the movie, purely from a cultural standpoint. I don't think I have ever seen a more accurate scene of an asian mom reacting to a mental breakdown. If she truly is a bad person, she would have never felt the need to take Rumi in and raise her.

Celine doesn’t deserve the hate she gets. She's just simply a realistic asian mom. I don't think most people understand just how much trauma asian people, especially the older generation silently carries with them.

Asia has some of the highest suicide rates in the world cause it's a culture that actively focuses on getting results; feelings come second to duty. Whether that be work, school, or family, people rarely put themselves first.

Rumi reminds me so much of myself in the argument scene, as I had a similar mental breakdown once, and my mother reacted the same way. I didn't get unconditional love, I got 'you're young, you still have an entire life before you', 'I won't tell our extended family if that helps' while she hugged me. She didn't give me the affection and acceptance i desperately needed. She went into 'protective, productive, practical mom mode' cause that's what love and care look like to her.

My mom never abused me, but knew so little about actual parenting i didn’t get candy until i was like 8 cause she never realized children were supposed to have candy.

She got beaten with a stick as a child until she had bruises, she use to destroy her shoes just to get new stuff every year, her entire life my uncle got favored over her cause boys were seen as more important in china back then, got SA and when she told grandma the woman asked what she did for a man to lust after her and fainted during my birth.

She's like 90% of the reason I'm so insecure, but she also gave her everything to keep me alive. She gave me everything she had, but sometimes someone's everything isn’t enough. Sometimes your happiness isn't with 'family', sometimes it's doing better than those before you, and that includes distancing yourself from them.

Celine isn't evil. She's an asian mom, a woman filled with trauma she most likely doesn't even realise she has, and gave her everything for rumi.

Love doesn't make up for incompetence.

[pr0ceeding]

— Nikita Gill (2018)

[writethestory365]

[theweightofdivinity]

A beautiful reflection on generational healing and the parts of ourselves that sometimes never had the chance to fully develop.

“And perhaps, just perhaps, our own mother carried levels of her own psychic structure that were never fully built or finished. Perhaps she, too, lacked an internal mother capable of soothing, protecting, validating, and supporting her own becoming. And perhaps her mother before her. And hers before that. Not because they did not love us, but because some psychological structures cannot be transmitted until they have first been built within.”

By Women of Depth Psychology

[elisecairo]