“But why are aliens that appear at first glance to be more or less human being used here as a conduit to talk about real world problems and asexuality?”
Well, dear reader, there’s an answer for that.
Whether you’re aromantic/asexual and allistic, or autistic and alloromantic/allosexual, there’s a very common experience shared among both communities.
https://themighty.com/topic/autism-spectrum-disorder/feeling-alien-inner-space-autistic/
"Embracing alien has actually been a way to author my own autism."
There appears to be also direct high overlap between ace spectrum and autism spectrum people.
I’m not diagnosed as autistic, mind you. And I dont claim self-dx either and don’t intend to get sucked into a big debate about that controversy. This space is about asexuality. (lack of official diagnosis is mainly due to some concerns about what happens afterwards) Maybe one day I’ll dedicate a different sideblog to study on that debate (I can almost hear Entrapta giggling in the corner) but today is not that day. You can refer to me as allistic or autist as you see fit. I’m not here to enforce anything. DM me if you want but I’m not posting Asks about it.
My only aim in putting that there is to draw a commonality between two things that seem to have a lot of statistical concurrence (also gender nonconformity does too). (I am thereby relating them to a trio of fictional aliens)
EDIT: I just realized that the abbreviation of this blog is AACG and that makes my biology brain happy. HeeHeeHee.
Very important note before proceeding to my blog: I understand some people may not be at a point in their mental health journey where they can shrug off what other people think. Feeling invalidated sucks, and I look forward to the day where I can just bounce along doing my own thing. I already have at least a couple days like that out of the week, thankfully.
I guess Asexuality and Aromanticism primes you for that mightily, given that 9 out of 10 people will attempt to invalidate you.
You learn that to get through life happy, you have to do the mind training to undo those reactions you have. People are gonna think what they think.
It’s especially rewarding to see people who have been beavering away at integrating body positivity into their minds, when they reach that point where someone can say something insensitive or outright ‘ur fat and ugly’ and they just blow a raspberry and get on with their day.
I understand that mental resilience is a difficult skill to master.
It takes a lot of time.
But that does not obligate me to bend my opinions to your will. If you are ticked off by anything I might say, I will apologize for offending you, especially if I’ve taken up an attitude (if we can then be polite to each other) but that doesn’t change my opinion.
Take time to examine where feelings of being invalidated might arise from.
(one example: as https://contentmint.tumblr.com/post/639060296158396417 )
No Nuance November: The reason we're seeing trans kids with less dysphoria isn't that they're transtrenders; it's that as trans acceptance p
(another example: https://ask-asexual-crystal-gems.tumblr.com/post/646220121610895360/kadywicker-listen-you-can-say-capitalism-makes
People in less so-called “developed” countries exhibit much less mental illness symptoms. And even when they do, they don’t present as vehem
And I’m not trying to tone police either. You can post whatever you like to your own blog.
If you think that’s constructive.
There was one point in my character arc where I probably *would have engaged you at all times, and set all that aside.
But now?
I personally most of the time just don’t feel like interacting with you, especially if you’re cussing at me.
F*** in particular is a patriarchal term, unlike (most) other curse words, (particularly gendered ones, are too, obvs) and usually I want none of it.
