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NATIVE CARBON DIOXIDE FOUND ON JUPITERāS MOON EUROPA
The discovery made using NASA's powerful space telescope brings scientists a step closer to determining if the salty water oceans of Europa
HOLY SHIT, IT'S HAPPENING! EVERYBODY STAY CALM!
For those confused, this combined with liquid water being there makes this the strongest evidence of alien life to date.
These are conditions shockingly similar to earth.
Reminder: Bi Visibility Day is September 23. Remember to leave cookies out for Freddie.
consider: teenagers arenāt apathetic about everything theyāre just used to you shitting all over whatever they show excitement about
Teen: *gets a job*
āI GOT THE JOB!ā
Parents: Well, when I was your age, I already had 5 jobs and was supporting my family
Teen: *gets all Aās*
āI worked really hard!ā
Parents: Well, of course you did, this is the expectation, not a celebration.
probably why so many teens take to social media where they can enthusiastically share their interests and achievements and get positive feedback that their parents never gave
A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
This hit hard
I remember once, when I was in my early 20s, I was an afternoon supervisor at my job, and I worked with mostly teenagers, and the one day this one kid, who was like 15, was bored so I suggested he could clean out the fridge. He did and when he was done I said he did a good job.
After that, this kid was cleaning out the fridge at least once a week, and I was like, āwhy are you always cleaning the fridge?ā Like, I didnāt mind, but it seemed odd. And he said, āone time I cleaned the fridge and you said I did a good job. I wanted to make you proud of me again.ā
Literally, I changed the entire way I interacted with teenagers after that. I actually got a package of glitter stars and I would stick them on their nametags when they did a good job, and they loved it.
My manager had commented on how hard these kids work and I said, ātheyāre starved for positive feedback. They go to school all day then come to work all evening and no one appreciates it because itās expected of them, but theyāre still kids. They need positive feedback from adults in their lives.ā
Like, everyone likes feeling appreciated. Everyone likes being complimented and having their efforts be noticed. Another coworker (who was a mother of teenage children), hated that I did this, and said they were too old to be rewarded with stickers, but likeā¦ it wasnāt about the stickers. The stickers were just a symbol that their effort was noticed and appreciated. I was just lucky that I learned this at a time when I was still young enough to remember what it was like to be a teenager. I was only 2 years out of highschool at that point and highschool is fucking hard. People forget this as they get older, but ask anyone and almost no one would ever want to go back and do it again, but they expect kids to suck it up because theyāre young so they should be able to do school full time, plus homework, and work, and maintain a healthy social life, and sleep, and spend time with family, and do chores and help out at home, and worry about college and relationships and everything else, and then just get shit on all the time and treated like theyāre lazy and entitled. And then they wonder why teenagers are apathetic.
For a german exam I had to argue against an article that was essentially ākids these days, they donāt care about anything and are constantly on their phonesā and really it was the easiest essay Iāve ever written.
Teens donāt talk to adults bc adults only ask āso, howās schoolā to then interrupt them two sentences in. And because they canāt engage in a conversation about buying houses and working in a bank. I wouldāve loved to talk about philosophy and politics and history with family the way I did with friends and in class but because I was young no one took what I had to say seriously.
And no, teens arenāt always on their phone. Theyāre on their phone when theyāre bored. You think Iām on social media when Iām with my friends? When Iām talking about something Iām interested in?
Maybe the reason kids are so distant and always on their phone during family parties and the like is because youāre failing to engage and include them.
Whoop there it is
When you respect kids, they really respond and learn from you. But if you treat kids like ātheyre just a kid, what do they know??ā then youāll never find out.
As a Disneyland Cast Member, Iāll add my own experience onto this ā
Very frequently, when I first speak to a child while Iām at work, theyāll kind of withdraw and act uncomfortable and shy. Their parents will then rather frequently tell them to not be shy and try to coax them to talk to me ā whenever that happens, I always, without fail, politely dissuade the parents from pressuring them.
āIām a stranger,ā Iāll tell the kidās parents. āI donāt blame them for not talking to me ā if they were anywhere else, theyād have the right idea, to not immediately trust me.ā
I cannot tell you how many times Iāve seen that same kid ā simply after hearing their initial reaction being validated, instead of reproached ā immediately open up to me after that. I also cannot tell you how many times that child and I would go on to start a frigginā marathon conversation, and I got to hear all about how great their day was or what their favorite Disney movies were or what rides they liked and didnāt like or how much they like a certain Disney character or songā¦all from me validating that initial feeling and showing genuine interest in what they had to say.
This isnāt just young children, either. I will always remember being positioned outside the Animation Academy one day and starting up a conversation with a young lady, perhaps 12 or 13, who joined the line with her father a full 25 minutes before the class was supposed to start. Now keep in mind, we do a drawing class every 30 minutes: there was no one else in line at that point, and no one else joined the girl and her father in line for a full fifteen minutes. So I could tell pretty quickly that this girl was very emotionally invested in getting a good spot for the drawing class: a conclusion all the more bolstered by the fact that she had a notebook under her arm. I asked her if she was an artist ā she said yes, but seemed uncomfortable at the question, so I skipped even asking her if I could see her work, instead admitting that I myself wasnāt very good at art, but that Iām trying to get better and that I love the history of Disney animation. On the screens around us was video footage of different Disney concept art and animation reels, so I pointed one of them out (for Snow White) and asked if she knew the story behind the making of the movie. Upon confirming that she didnāt, I proceeded to get down on the floor so I could sit next to her and her father and dramatically tell the whole story of how āUncle Waltā created the first full-length animated motion picture, even though everyone and their mother thought he was an idiot for even trying, and how the film ended up becoming the first Hollywood blockbuster. After the story was over, the girlās father said that his daughter really wanted to be an animator when she grew up, and she finally felt comfortable enough to open her notebook and show me some of her artwork. It was wonderful! Every sketch had such character and you could tell how much work she put into it! And I could tell how much telling her that ā and sharing that moment with her, where we got to connect over something we both really enjoyed ā had meant. And after the class was over, she sought me out to show me what she and her father had drawn ā and sure enough, hers was great! (Her fatherās was too, really. XD)
People, kids and teens included, love sharing what they love and how they feel with others. You just have to give them the chance to show it.
A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!
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I feel like I am obliged to add one more thing: donāt ever think that the kids wonāt feel your unspoken judgements cause they do!
I felt always like a āproblemā in my family, until I was about sixteen, I got this teacher who was litterally the first to tell I was worthy. He changed my life up till this day.
Also how do grown ups imagine how āweā will ever learn to engage in conversations with adults properly if you donāt teach us?
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Everything
I told one of my new coworkers (who is 26) that he was doing really well and that I was proud of him and his progress. I thought he was going to start crying for how quietly he saidĀ āreally?ā.Ā
Positive feedback makes the biggest difference to everything.
I used to have a coworker who only spoke Burmese. She knew a few words in English, but literally it was like āhey Susu, can you clean the cooler for me?ā āYes yes, I clean, I clean.ā Sheād moved to the US in her late 30s and never really got the hang of English. (I donāt say this to make fun of her. She was a refugee fleeing a brutal and bloody war in Myanmar and her broken English was a sign of deep determination and tragedy. I say it because the language barrier, and the extent of it, is important to what happened next.)
She was shy, and kind of withdrawn, and extremely slowāit took this woman an hour to do a sink of dishes that took me 30 minutes and I was considered not particularly fastābut she was absolutely dogged. She would do her job and get it done.
So this one day I realized we had all kinds of āhey, great job!ā cards on our little recognition board thing for almost the whole crew, but none for Susu, because āshe wonāt understand anyway.ā So I threw a couple of simple sentences into a translation app and spent like half an hour very painstakingly drawing these sentences in Burmese characters (and drawing is really what it wasāI felt like I was four years old and holding a pencil for the first time again) and gave her the card. She kind of glanced and it and went āoh thank youā and then did this massive double-take and raised it in front of her face and read it, and read it again, and then just about hollered āOH THANK YOU THANK YOUā and I showed her where she could pin it on the recognition board if she wanted. She chose to take it home instead, which, totally fair.
All it said was āthank you for your hard work, youāre very reliable.ā
Everything changed after that. She started using her limited English more, picking up new words here and there (rather amusingly, ours was a multilingual kitchen but she didnāt know which words belonged to which language, and you really havenāt lived until youāve seen a tiny Burmese woman slap a fryer and say āOy vay this thing, yeah! Pendejo!ā I mean yes, completely valid emotion about that fucking fryer, but when this is how youāre discovering sheās picked up both Spanish and Yiddish and thinks both of them are English, lemme tell you, that sure is an Emotion), enthusiastically participating in things.
She was in her forties.
Nobody but her children had spoken a word to her in Burmese since she left home.
People just want to be known. Sometimes thatās all it takes.
Those of us who have been criticised far more than we have been praised also need this. Some people have a choice of hardening themselves against the unkindness of the world or remaining soft but also being sad a lot of the time. If you want other people to learn softness, be good to them. Be kind to them.
Remember that Raccoon that was crushed by the cruel fate that is cotton candy plus water? Well, there was a happy ending after all!
LOOK AT HIM HE LEARNED
!!!!!
Trans guys droppin titty for trans girls call that a transaction.
official boob post
M-M-M-MULTIKILL!
three fun and sexy facts about me: 1.) i have a slight fructose intolerance which manifests itself mostly in me getting violently ill whenever i eat garlic. 2.)Ā i have ādelayed phased sleep disorderā aka my body wants to sleep during the day and stay up at night. 3. i am extremely sensitive to sunlight and cannot be in direct sunlight for more than like five minutes without getting burned or overheated.
extra bonus fun and sexy fact: the one and only time i stepped foot in a catholic church, someone spilled hot coffee on me and i got a bad burn on my chest and had to leave before the service started
unrelated: i think i might start taking classes to become a phlebotomistĀ
wait i gotta google something
yeah this is funny
To be fair to that last point, that kills just about everyone.
Op i would like an interview
only if itās homoerotic
whoa dude when I heard about "radfems" I thought it would be some most radical females! šš¤
but these chicks are saying some bogus things about other babes š¬
Happiness Will Come To You.
when tho
When You Least Expect It. Probably Late March
reblog for happiness to come for you in late march!
I reblogged this last year and I hung out with blink-182 backstage on March 30. Reblogging again because it worked the first time.
honestly, last year one of the best days of my life happened in late March
Babe wake up, new Blood just dropped
HUGE day for vampires
Doing an experiment
What type of milk do you drink?
Whole Milk
2% Milk
1% Milk
0%/Fat free/Skim milk
Almond milk
Cashew milk
Coconut milk
Oat milk
Soy milk
Other (tell me in the tags)
Please rb to expand my sample size!
& btw fruit Flies literally spawn spontaneously
you look at a fruit fly and tell me it's ever been anywhere else
I really get why people used to think life could generate randomly out of rotting meat and dirt
Do you have a scar/scars?
Yes i have at least one
No i'm unblemished
Put in the tags how many scars you have and how you got them
āif you consume enough problematic media then there will be a point in which you become desensitized and replicate the behaviorā
right, thatās why all my media studies professors moonlight as serial killers
half-serious quip aside, what youāre saying is that you think people have the inherent moral fiber of overcooked pasta and if you donāt spoonfeed them pre-digested purity, they will revert to their baser nature of amoral, immoral, cruel and murderous beasts which, frankly, means youāre a dehumanizing cunt
This is almost 1:1 the argument of āIf you donāt have God, how can you be moral?ā Execpt, this is about consuming fiction.
How can you leave this absolute Mic drop in the tags
