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[anxietyproblem]

[zero-two-ten]

this site has one setting

[jenroses]

I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record.  And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons. 

[kittydorkling]

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

[guerrillatech]

[politicalhobbyist]

[darksteel-relic]

Let’s not overlook how it always seems to be black women targeted either.

[hypersensationalism]

obviously i dont like her for various reasons but this is a good reminder that media visibility and popularity do not equal real world equality. nikita dragun is an extremely rich and popular influencer and that still didnt protect her from institutionalized transmisogyny.

[hypersensationalism]

im a transfem and i said this because nikita dragun has been antiblack several times in the past no its not relevant to the situation at hand which is why i made the rest of the post abt the point i was actually trying to make. but its not worth forgetting entirely either. also i made this post for like 3 of my mutuals this comment is kind of weird.

[roxas-reblogs]

#honestly with purity/cancel culture saying 'i don't like this person but...' is actually important#because like yeah this person has said racist things (as op says) but that doesn't mean#that this affront against their transness is warranted#its possible to hate someone for one reason but still say they should be treated better for a different reason#these ideas can and should coexist#im sure yall know how some people will say that she deserved being put in a mens prison because she's a racist#like no that's not how it works

important tags via @/peachdoxie

[lotronprimesucks]

Amazon’s casting choices don’t reflect the true racial diversity in Tolkien’s works and are focused on tokenism over real efforts to tackle the flaws in the text and make an inclusive vision of Arda

Amazon’s one major POC actress is playing a role that canonically involves her throne and her power being stolen from her by a genocidal colonizer who wants to exterminate the religious minority she’s part of

Amazon fired their Tolkien consultant and their unsafe set conditions caused the injuries of stuntpeople

Amazon as a company is unethical, directly opposed to progressive causes, and openly emotionally manipulating viewers to get them to watch the show

Amazon has done more real harm to actual people of color and other marginalized groups than their efforts to include nonwhite actors in relatively small or stereotypical roles can address

Amazon’s promotional materials for this show treat fans of color as props to further their agenda

REPOST THIS ANYWHERE YOU LIKE AS OFTEN AS YOU LIKE.

[triviallytrue]

what trans girl in a frat one...

[andhumanslovedstories]

I’m watching The Big Bang Theory in its natural setting—playing in the background of a hot spiral room—and I can say within that specific context, it is a very charming show. Like the saltine crackers of media.

[genderoutlaws]

Marsha P. Johnson at NYC Pride | 1982 | ph: Ron Simmons

[lesbianshepard]

lmao

[autumngracy]

Why would you leave this absolutely critical context in the tags

[bucksangel]

this is immensely funny to me

[inkskinned]

fucking hate it when the stuff everybody says "actually works" does actually work.

hate exercising and realizing i've let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i've overturned my fight-or-flight response.

hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i'm less anxious and i have more energy

hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i've actually started healing about something once i'm able to externalize it

hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently

hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love

horrible horrible horrible. hate it but i'm gonna do it tho

[daveboogie]

Here is a pic of Grace Jones shoving cake into Divine’s mouth at what I believe was Grace’s 30th birthday party…you’re welcome!

[johnnyideaseed]

It’s like “The Creation of Adam,” but relevant to my interests.

[elierlick]

FTM Trans Pride 1994

[will-o-the-witch]

That new Potter game looks like it's just magical blood libel except they want you to burn the Jewish village down.

[will-o-the-witch]

Okay for real though, Rowling's whole "antisemitic goblin" thing is actually WAY worse than a lot of people think.

Like even outside of Jowling Kowling Rowling being a piece of shit anyway, the blatant antisemitism in these Goblin characters is getting less and less excusable as an "honest mistake." Rowling's antisemitism is blatant at this point people's excuses don't work for her- here's why. It's one thing to let your unconscious biases influence your world-building, nobody is immune to that risk, but it's another to have it pointed out and double down on it. Rowling is notorious for retconning details into her story, adding "inclusivity" after the fact (oh boy, we got "at least one Jewish wizard at Hogwarts" a few years ago!) but nothing was ever done to address the goblins. The house elves got an attempt at least with "they like being enslaved so it isn't bad!" (Which arguably makes it even worse but like... at least she recognized a problem existed in the first place I guess? I'm being very generous here.)

It's also way more than just "they own banks and have hooked noses." That said, that's notable enough on its own. When we say they look like a stereotype that is extremely literal, here's a piece of nazi propaganda side-by-side I saw:

Anyway, the books also establish that goblins can use magic but aren't allowed to carry wands. (So like, obvious systemic oppression that's never rationalized, we're supposed to just accept it and assume it's because they're untrustworthy or something.) Even Hagrid, who deals with magical creatures for a living and also tends to be much more With It than the rest of the cast, calls them "not the friendliest of beasts." Idk about y'all but it's a little disturbing to see even Hagrid call them "beasts" even though they're considered intelligent and "civilized" enough to run their whole banking system. Not to mention this is Hagrid, the guy that gave a Terrifying Giant Spider Everyone Hated a chance. The new game makes it even more clear that goblins are exceptionally greedy and don't understand (or abide by) wizard customs. They're considered at fault for their own oppression and the current rebellion must be stopped to put them back "in their place."

ALSO THEY ARE LITERALLY TRYING TO KIDNAP CHILDREN. That specifically has a HUGE and extremely direct history to a thing called blood libel, the leading excuse for pogroms for centuries. Christians love the idea that we are very literally kidnapping Pure Christian Children™ and using their blood to make matzah on Passover. That's not even kosher. The most recent example I could find of this exact myth was in the United States in 1928, though the idea of Jews luring away children was a good way to teach stranger danger in Nazi Germany. Nowadays blood libel sentiment fuels things like QAnon (where we're kidnapping children to use their blood for Satanic stuff I guess?) Antisemitism has a LONG history of painting Jews out to be predatory towards children in particular.

Okay, now for the main excuses for her I hear:

"But she visited a Holocaust museum and said she based Voldemort off of Hitler!" Anyone can visit a Holocaust museum. They're buildings. Holocaust museums are not machines that suck in antisemites and spit out allies, yet in the public eye, it seems all a celebrity needs to do to remove accusations of antisemitism is visit a holocaust museum and make a statement about how horrified and inspired they were. Visiting a museum doesn't mean shit. Neither does writing a metaphor for Hitler or racism, that's literally the most low-hanging fruit possible. Or everyone's biggest "gotcha:"

"But Rowling wasn't in charge of making the games OR the movie design!"

Y'all really think they didn't ask her to sign off on this? You really think she wasn't in the room when people pitched their ideas for the entire plot? You think she'd hand over the rights to her cash cow and then never look at the product?

Yeah, Rowling is probably not maliciously thinking about how she can make it worse. But at the very least, she wrote enough into her work to inspire people to make harmful stories like this, and a literal billionaire can't be bothered to hire people who give a shit (about any of her many issues) to screen things on her behalf. In the age we live in, I think it's telling that she doesn't even try. o

[brightwanderer]

I think a lot about how we as a culture have turned “forever” into the only acceptable definition of success.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

I just think that something can be good, and also end, and that thing was still good. And it’s okay to be sad that it ended, too. But the idea that anything that ends is automatically less than this hypothetical eternal state of success… I don’t think that’s doing us any good at all.

[prideknights]

Moms for Liberty cry when ‘Don’t Say Gay’ bill gets turned against heterosexual parents

The American conservative “advocates for parental rights in schools” known as Moms for Liberty have been busy working on making sure your children are protected from things like critical race theory (CRT), and any talk about gender identities (and...

[cryinginthelightofthetvstatic]

can we like…get rid of the so-called leather and rubber “pride flags” ? it’s honestly ridiculous and offensive to the lgbtq community. those aren’t pride flags. 

[dead-dyke]

The leather pride flag is the second oldest pride flag. It has been at almost every single US pride parade and protest in history.

It’s older then you are, it’s older then I am. The leather community is responsible for pride. Leather daddies were the ones chasing away cops when they tried to arrest us for being queer in public back when Pride Parades were illegal in the US. They are still the ones chasing away cops and corporations from smaller pride events and those that aren’t sanctioned by Wells Fargo. The leather community is essential to the queer community and has a long and rich history.

Please fuck off if you’re not going to learn the actual history of pride.

And don’t fucking out your hate in our tags, asshole.

[budgiesmuggled-deactivated20210]

The leather pride flag represents an expression of self which is inherently queer, and a community which has been around for generations. It is not offensive to the LGBT+ community in any way. I have seen cis gay and bisexual men standing shoulder-to-shoulder with trans men, all of them united by their leather community roots. The leather community is more diverse and nuanced than you perhaps know, but that is no reason for you to shit on a community you don’t understand.

Here is a photograph from 1998, displaying the leather pride flag, the bear gay pride flag, and the rainbow flag. This is our history.

Source.

Here is a photograph from 1987: three queer women entering into the Ms. National Leather Association Contest, or simply gathering as spectators.

Source.

A flyer from 1989, rallying the leather community to march in a Stonewall anniversary protest.

Source.

A photograph from 1988: Tony Deblase, the creator of the leather pride flag, and a gay man, embracing a fellow member of the leather community. Over his shoulder is Judy Tallwing McCarthy, a Native American woman who was part of the leather community from 1959. She co-founded the first lesbian BDSM group in Portland, along with her partner, Sashie Hyatt.

Source. Source.

Just because you don’t know the history, doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Be humble, and always assume you have more to learn. Hatred, and outright dismissal of communities you know nothing about, is the most aggressively anti-LGBT thing I can imagine.

The leather community has always included trans people, lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals. The leather community is global and nuanced. The leather community is where many of us encounter our found families, and our lovers. For you to dismiss that is cold-hearted and ignorant. Just because queer sex is involved, doesn’t make the community dirty or bad.

[thunderboltsortofapenny]

I’m again fucking begging the baby gays to read/watch/listen to How To Survive A Plague.

Do you have any. Any idea. Any god damn clue. How kink intersects with LGBT and queer community. Queer history. Do you know why the community pushed for, and against, closing the bathhouses during the 80s? Do you know who organized awareness campaigns about HIV, even way back when it was still called GIRD. Do you know who created the safe sex pamphlets, the classes, who pushed for disclosing your health history to partners, who distributed contraceptives and condoms and dental dams at parties and meetings and baths? Do you even know where the safe sex education we have now comes from? Do you know where a bulk of the language about consent came from? Do you have any good god damn idea what the kink communities have done for us, and continue to do for us?

Keep their names out of your mouths because you clearly don’t know what the hell you’re talking about

[darkshrimpemotions]

If there is one thing I could say to young queer folks, especially young queer folks in the U.S. who are coming of age in a world that is more accepting than the one I knew growing up, it’s this:

Don’t be so quick to sanitize your queerness and make it corporate pride daytime TV-friendly. Don’t be so quick to jump on the purity bandwagon. Don’t be so quick to speak on what your community should look like before you’ve actually learned the history of your community, and always be aware that there are things you probably don’t yet know.

These things will not protect you. They never have. And all you’re doing is isolating yourself from community, from support, from the strength we all have when we stand together in a world that would gladly pick us off one by one.

Queerness isn’t as hidden or embattled now (in some places) as it once was, but make no mistake: when our existence was illegal everywhere the people you have this knee-jerk “hide the weirdos” reaction to are the very ones who would’ve had your back against the cops and the gay-bashers.

The people who made me feel safe to come out in my 20s flew the rubber and leather flags alongside the rainbow flag and often the trans flag as well. You don’t get to tell any of them they don’t belong anymore just because you don’t understand.

[wytrykusarchives]

The Milt Kahl Head Swaggle (Source: Cartoon Brew)

[spootywabbit]

I love it when you can pick up an animator’s quirks. 

[kaseylgifford]

     I’ve read in old interviews with Milt Khal’s fellow animators that he did the swaggle to purposefully show off. Moving the head in 3-d space is an exceptionally hard thing to do but Khal upped the level of difficulty to a place many animators wouldn’t go.      Not only are they all doing the swaggle you’ll notice they are all TALKING while they are doing it. This is back in the days where you had to use a timing sheet to pace your animation and a head swaggle doesn’t work if its too slow or too fast so he had to figure out the right speed so it looked natural while the character finishes what they have to say while not interfering with the distinct mouth shapes.       Not only did Khal do it without any shifting weight problems or timing issues he would often do it while moving the rest of the body. This isn’t his signature move just because he was good at it.This is his signature move because he was one of the only people skilled enough to DO IT AT ALL.

Milt Khal was a MASTER.

[riverthunder]

God, I can’t express to you how fucking DELIGHTED I become whenever they Milt Khal Head Swaggle Post graces my dash with its presence again.