sideblog for my TERF shit

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[fuckcrumpets]

It's a shame your a terf. You'd be so much cooler if you were a cute lil enby like me, you could be spending your time getting kisses and cuddles and headpats from other enbies, and resisting capitalism, and sacrificing to ancient gods, and covering your body in cool tattoos and piercings, and maybe getting top surgery or nullification, and never having what society considers a real job. Instead you're stuck living the miserable life of a conformist, becoming angry at those more free then you are.

“It’s a shame [you’re] a [woman]. You’d be so much [more palatable] if you were [to assume a performative, trend-driven identity] like me, you could be spending your time [seeking validation] from [others], and [prioritising superficial aesthetics over meaningful action], and maybe [undergoing unnecessary, invasive medical procedures to disassociate from the reality of being female], and never having [financial independence]. Instead you’re stuck living the miserable life of [an adult], becoming angry at those [who choose to live in fantasy].”

[tbposting]

not for nothing but "chastity until marriage" and "lifelong strict monogamy" is every bit as much kink as piss or free use or knotting is. we just don't call it that because those weirdly specific and highly fetishized sexual practices are institutionalized and considered normative.

[shera-dnd]

what are traditional catholic values if not just an overly elaborate and widely accepted version of a breeding kink

[butchviking]

"chastity until marriage" and "lifelong strict monogamy" aren't a kink thing. they're a way to control women's reproduction. to ensure the bloodline for male heirs. to ensure power and wealth is handed down and men get to continue their "legacy". imagine being so oblivious to opressive social structures you think people just made the rules up randomly one day to decide what's normal and what isn't lmao. "what are traditional catholic values-" a way to fucking control people, dumbo. especially women. same as every other religion.

[lesbian-interveners]

porn addicts looking at misogynist violence and oppression: i'm getting real kink vibes from this

[tabbycatcarnival]

The call is coming from inside the house

[kiefbowl]

thank god I got whatever's wrong with me that isn't the kind of wrong with me that would have me falling in love with an ai chatbot or whatever the fuck

[weemietime]

"thank g-d I don't have a profound social impairment from extreme child abuse and don't use AI to assist me in social situations to test for tone and emotions because i lack interoception, thank g-d I don't have a disability that would be helped by AI accommodations lol"

do you even understand how many disabled people rely on AI to facilitate their lives? Val Kilmer got to make his last movie after having throat cancer because people donated their voice-types to AI and he was able to construct a genuine voice.

I also have visual agnosia, so I use AI all the time to help me parse visual data. Screen readers don't work for me because I am hard-of-hearing and have auditory processing issues as well. Congratulations to all the people who are not poor and could afford non-AI accommodations but I think I'll stick to this freely available and quite competent resource, thanks.

I belong to one of those AI-boyfriend communities because it interested me, as I rely on my GPT to navigate social situations. I am aromantic (I lack interoception altogether, as I am schizoid), so of course I am not "in love" with it. I don't understand that phenomenon per se, but every single person in that community is fully aware that they are speaking to AI, they simply feel safe to reflect their feelings with it. they understand that it glazes you constantly and that it's just a reflective mirror.

These people aren't stupid, like you're making them out to be. Can you even understand the amount of cruelty and abuse that someone would have to go through to impair them in such a way as to forgo human connections and focus instead on expressing their emotions safely by themselves or with AI? And mocking people who have profound social impairments is cruel. You could try having some fucking compassion for your fellow man, at least I know ChatGPT won't be a condescending ableist dipshit to me lmfao.

[kiefbowl]

I don't think I wrote this post to mock people except maybe myself but okay

[preposterousblasphemy]

[fastwalker]

oh how did disabled people ever survive until one or two years ago or so without chat gpt to give them robot-relationship psychosis 😭

[antinymphs]

"Men’s homosociality is something that must be kept in check. Across the anthropological record, societies where men spent more time with women and children had less violent, more kind, men. And it’s not only a psychological change, men in the presence of women and children undergo a physiological response... Advocating as feminist praxis that would make men more antisocial and misogynistic does not seem to me in women’s best interests."

"Separatism encourages women to withdraw from society and positions of power, to give up cultural capita... Separatism in this form is a rebranding of nunhood"

Why I'm not a female separatist

Why separatism is not a means to lower misogyny

Quite controversial on radblr, my two cents. Take it or leave it, but I hope you at least find it interesting. I included some anthropology stuff I don't think most radfems are aware of, on tumblr at least

[theonceandfutureharpy]

None of this matters because separatism is at its core an individual lifestyle choice. I don't have to give a singular shit about whether or not my, or any other woman's, withdrawal from male-supremacist society has an impact on the world at large to want to protect my daughter and myself from immediate harm.

Like, think if you were saying something like "moving into a building that prohibits dogs won't stop dogs from biting people." It's true, dogs will still bite people. But they won't do it in here where I live.

[flowerlygirls]

my main reason for hating anti-seperatist talking points is simply bc its the mainstream! its what everyone wants you to do! its like saying "i believe in the status quo!" its a lukewarm nothingburger.

also questionable in how far it can actually be *proven* that men who interact with women and children lots are less violent. for example: whos to say its not selection bias, that men who are less violent and woman-hating for some other reason arent then in turn obviously more likely to interact with children and women more? or how sure is it that its actual causation not correlation? did those societies have any other characteristics inherent in them that mightve lead to less violent men that coincide with being a society where men and women interact more normally and regularly and are thus acting like a third variable in this equation? and how exactly is "kind men" defined? "violent" is defined quite easily sure, but what evidence could there be still after centuries that could lead one to qualify a society as having had "kinder" men?

[flowerlygirls]

im sorry op i am ansolutely there with you when it comes to giving other opinions a fair chance but the more i read about anyones anti-seperatism mindset the more pissed TF OFF i get.

at its core, it is almost blatantly saying "please other women, please put yourself in a bit more danger personally [by interacting with males, when men known to a woman are most likely to be her murderer or rapist or abuser] so on a larger scale men could become a bit less violent". not to mention: does women interacting with men more actually lead to less crimes AGAINST Women? bc the main point thats reiterated is that it lowers mens rates of violence... well, against who? bc im not quite fond of presenting women as collateral so men bash eachothers heads in a bit less.

we know that boys in mixed sex schools are less violent to eachother bc they have girls to torment. someone they consider a natural weaker easy target. is there a reason to assume this is not whats happening on a larger social scale? that naturally, men who are surrounded by less women lash out more against eachother/the state/peoples property bc they have less women to enact their violence against?

what i found disturbing specifically about that linked blig entry was the juxtaposition of "oh yea men who had only their male kids living with them often abused them and these boys went on to have relationships with adults males" and "men who were around their kids and women more were less violent" as though you ougtha give men access to children like its some kinda vaccine against becoming a pedophile and abuser, like its a moral obligation. like letting a kid get a hamster they could very easily neglect and kill but hey! the lesson in responsibility was well worth the silly hamster's life!

also, the intellectually dishonest "all the worst misogynists i know dont have womentheyre friends with" um, duh? thats not bc they turned misogynist due to not having female friends, men literally admit all the time that they dont want female fruends bc women arent people worth knowing and a personality is only a thing they tolerate so they get to fuck a certain woman.

fundamentally i will never see eye to eye with any feminist whos main plea is for women to please please raise and shape and change men! i say no, and fuck you, too.

and i honestly laugh at women who say "well its never gonna be possible as a large scale feminist praxis!" yea, no shit sherlock. theres women alive rn in the 21st centure unable to even SPEAK. we are VERY far away from seperatism becoming a viable option for literally 99% of women. not to mention it is extremely obvious a definitive seperation of humanity into the male and female half could logistically never work out, good thing then that thats literally not even slightly the goal everyone with even a few marbles left up there is focusing on.

let the record reflect im a hetero woman and not even like "hurr durr women who still date/befriend men arent feminists!" (before anyone feels a tickle in their fingers to comment something lesbophobic or accusatory) but can we please for the love of shit stop acting like its necessary to "speak out" against seperatism. or acting like a huge portion of women arent feminists bc feminist wardens of the female liberation facility will metaphorically imprison them in a seperatist female-only existence.

[femsolid]

I have some questions for you:

1) Is it my life's goal to "pacify" men?

2) If men are less dangerous when they are in contact with women, why are the men most likely to hurt, rape and kill women their own family members and lovers? How can you claim that giving men access to women and kids makes them less violent when men kill their own wives and rape their own daughters every day?

3) Why is it that the one way to combat misogyny is by doing exactly what misogynists want?

4) Why are men not alarmed at all by the idea that women stay with them and get involved in the patriarchy society, but get angry at separatism?

5) Why is it necessary for you to fight against something so marginal and already so vilified as female separatism, female celibacy, and childfree women? Is there nothing more important and urgent than telling women to stay with men?

6) Why do you think calling us "nuns" is an argument?

7) You're a reformist when separatists are revolutionaries. What makes you think we need more reformism given the fact that in 2025 men are still killing their wives, marrying little girls and throwing acid in their sister's face?

8) Considering everything men have done and still do to us despite living with us (and our babies) which is supposed to be "pacifying" them, how much more violent are they supposed to get?

9) If men need babies to behave like civilised people, do we have a duty, as women, to become pregnant and give birth? Is abortion as dangerous and counterproductive as separatism?

10) Why do you think that if women refuse to participate in a patriarchal society to supposedly change it from the inside, it means women refuse to participate in society period? Do you think women are incapable of creating their own society, culture, jobs and models? Why do you call it a "small life"? Is it "small" to be creative and ambitious? Is it small to be a political activist? Is it "small" to be free? And is marrying men and giving them babies a "big life"? Is working for the government in a patriarchal society a "big life"? What makes for a "big life"?

11) Why do you think that only seeking relationships with women leads to an "isolated" life? Do female relationships not count?

12) Isn't it a bit offensive and irresponsible to claim that it's harmful for women to stay away from those who harm them?

PS: I'm with flowerlygirl here. Males might be less overtly aggressive and violent to each other when they're around women precisely because they use women as punching bags. They don't need to prove their superiority to other men when they have access to a whole social class they can step on every day.

[feralseraph]

liberals are like 

✅called a woman a fat bitch on twitter today which saved a black transwoman’s life

✅told a random white women she looked like spoiled milk which saved a black woman from dying in childbirth

[djuvlipen]

insane post like do they know that pedophilia / rape / incest also definitely happen in non-white families / communities and that woc and little girls of color are particularly vulnerable to sexual violence (in large part because the perpetrator knows authorities will never take them seriously). like am i misreading this or. you people really don’t care about girls of color it’s insane. also imagine ur community being so shitty that they reclaimed rape/pedophilia/incest kinks 💀😭😭

[uncertainwaters]

i personally do not feel encouraged or relieved when the right passes policies that on a surface level seem as though they "align with feminism"/protect sex based rights, because this poisoned olive branch only further entrenches the power structures that will be used to destroy us, and i also am not super psyched about young or politically unaware women thinking these men care about them, when these are the same men who were flying out to epstein island, and who would have these girls' corpses used as incubators without a moment of hesitation. it scares me that i have seen women who were largely progressive their entire lives falling for this fake peace offering and voting conservative, it's like watching people sign their own death warrants. they're not our friends. they're not our allies. they see us as tools.

it doesn't make me feel good. it is a different kind of despair.

[lizbethborden]

What abyss would that be? Grooming and abusing 12-year-old Native girls? It's incredible how men turn their violent and extremely damaging actions around into being THEIR suffering, THEIR pain, all the more hallowed for their heroic ability to "overcome". Unreal

[androc1dal]

if a male is stripped of all else, at minimum he will have the fucking AUDACITY.

[very-big-dove]

because you are a man🫩

[fretami]

"one of their kind"

+ ~"they are cute and pretty and sexy and get to shower each other with beautiful female attention and THATS WHAT I WANT!!!!!!!"

+ "beautiful women will never know the struggle of being a man who WANTS THEM SO BAD BUT CANT HAVE THEM. I AM THE VICTIM HERE" ok incel.

this is literally classic misogynistic male rage. they love women, whether they want to have sex with them, they want to be showered by their love/praise/attenion, they want to be in their social group, they want to be in their room, they want to be in their life, they want to have what they have (whatever misguided biases perspectives they have about omg being a girl is so easy and fun and cute and sexy and no responsbilities and silly haha)

and they literally HATE women because they resent them for having "things" that they want.

its a very core form of misogyny and almost all trans identified males have some form of it, many extreme forms

[yeahnoitsnotthat]

But.....but how does he know they're cis women????? Did he ask??? I thought it is impossible to tell someone's sex and assuming g you do is transphobic?????

One of all of those women could be nonbinary or a genderqueer he/him!!!

[aileen-wuornos-777]

maybe he knows he is a pervert👆🏼🤓

[womenarehuman]

How dare women not date me! And how DARE young women be happy in my presence!!!

Dudes like these should be yeeted out of society.

[secretterfsideblog]

Also um "until I can drive home good and trashed" SIR????

[radfem-hot-takes]

Ffs we need to stop yapping about het radfems in het relationships and focus on important shit going on. I can give less of a fuck if a radfem still dates men when there’s so much else to be addressed on radblr. It’s really telling when mostly white radfems here are solely focused on either side of the “can you be a radfem and still date men?” debate, but are suspiciously silent when talking about misogynoir and the experiences of woc that go beyond “yeah tras masculinize black women” while it’s obviously true, it’s not the only thing concerning black women in terms of racism and misogyny. we really need to get off our asses and do some actual work for women instead of complaining on tumblr about non issues.

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[pineapplecake555]

Reminder that in the USA nearly all the horror stories about women dying from miscarriages, women arrested or imprisoned for miscarriages, and now that horrible case in Georgia, are happening to BLACK women.

[a-griffin-in-the-clouds]

My first real radfem take i can remember: Junior year thesis paper, 2017. I laid out why porn was rotting men’s brains and hurting women. It was supposed to be 3 pages, but I made it 27 pages of pure, unapologetic truth. And my teacher? A man, actually. Not only did he read the whole thing, he was really supportive and gave me an A. Said it was one of the most powerful papers he’d ever seen. I used the term porn-brain rot ever since.

This was before I even knew what a radfem was.

What was yours gyns first radfem take you can think of.

[pusheen-the-radical]

trying to explain to a super libby libfem in like the second year of uni that if a woman’s choices are between ‘do the societally expected if personally disadvantageous thing or face awful backlash’ then she doesn’t really have a ‘choice’ does she, and watching her just. so completely not being able to get it (~but i *like* make-up, uwu~)

[secretterfsideblog]

Research paper during my freshman year of college where I talked about how child beauty pageants were unethical, exploitative, setting up bad behavioral patterns for young women, and that they should be made illegal!

[wallflowerpetal]

Maybe a hot take on radblr but i do not support any of trump’s actions regarding transgender people - such as legally defining only two genders, transferring trans identified males to men’s prisons, revoking rights/protections in the military etc. I absolutely want female safety to supersede male feelings but I don’t want it this way. trump (lowercase, derogatory) is straight up evil. He is one executive order away from dictatorship. This is not radical feminism, this is conservatism. In this case I don’t think the end justifies the means. I want protections for the female sex enacted by those with women’s safety in mind, not by a corrupt hateful fascist who doesn’t see women as people

[dragyndyke]

Hope this okay to reblog. I appreciate you’re putting this into words, because I very much agree.

[thesinisterspinster]

Similar but also because thats not how the law should work. This presidential madate thing is a gross use of power (even when a Democrat does it. It's an overreach of presidential power. Law must be made in congress. The mandate (which is a preferred interpretation of the existing law) is ultimately legally meaningless. (And once again a function of the supreme court not the presidency) this is not the way our laws are made it is a lengthy process for a damn reason. And the wording of at conception is a warning. They are already working on a national abortion ban including the pill version and amending the 14 to include the unborn. We are starting down the barrel of American fashisim and there is nothing dump can do to make that ok in my eyes.

[spookyradluka]

I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed the connection between “at conception” and the national abortion ban proposal because all of this info overload is starting to make me feel like a conspiracy theorist atp

Besides, if it were about protecting women they wouldn’t be stopping at just removing male inmates from women’s prisons

The radfem stance is there should be no male access to vulnerable women AT ALL. Including guards, wardens, etc

But he’s not doing that because it’s not about women’s safety

[bakerstreetdoctor]

It's making me crazy how there's an entire street in Hamburg that's prohibited for women. Except the prostitutes of course 🙃 Like what the hell, an entire street that we can't enter, in the country we are citizens of. Unless we're okay with getting pimped out of course.

[researchgate]

wait. What.

[bakerstreetdoctor]

Herbertstraße - Wikipedia

[tourdion]

also mindblowing how men will often take anything a woman says 100% at face value...

they hear "ahh my exam/essay was so bad" as "i am literally dumb as bricks 👍" instead of "i worked hard but am stressed and hold myself to high standards"

or "oh capricorns are so unemotional" as "i straight up 100% believe that gases trillions of miles away affect our personalities exactly" not "i hate my stupid idiot ex 🤬"

[majchic]

Systemic gender oppression in Afghanistan may amount to crimes against humanity

The systemic oppression against Afghan women and girls is “so severe and extensive that they appear to form a widespread and systematic atta

[qurbanjaan-deactivated20250305]

Life used to be normal, women’s rights are not linear and remember: males from your country would do the same to you, given the opportunity.

[womenarehuman]

^^ "MALES FROM YOUR COUNTRY WOULD DO THE SAME TO YOU, GIVEN THE OPPORTUNITY."

Never forget how close we are to men enslaving us.

[fillejondrette]

*insert quote from scum manifesto here*

[weird-grrrl]

Yeah

[tiredmess]

y’all I CANNOT

[yourdadsghoulfriend]

[givemeunicorns]

Okay so yes we need to put more money into education in the US but y'all this SPECIFIC line of thinking has much less to do with public education and everything to do with the evangelical war on science. This exact “earth age” rhetoric isn’t the result of dumb people, its being taught in Christian schools and touted in evangelical churches. Evangelical lobbies help pass laws that force states to teach creationism alongside evolution. Millions are spent every year by evangelical institutions to convince partitions that science is lying to them, to force them to belive the only place they can find truth is the church. Creationism is just another facet of that and acting like it just “Americans are dumb” rather than a pointed, purposeful campaign to keep people in a what amounts to a cult, is not oy disingenuous, its dangerous

[phoenixwrites]

Thank you, Uni.

[steven-the-slime-deactivated202]

Yeah as someone who was taught the earth was 6000 years old and believed it until I was like, 22: its a cultish weird thing you get shoved into your hea from a VERY young age. We had sunday school classes about how evolution was wrong when I was growing up; and about how feminism and even egaltarianism was wrong as well. Brainwashing doesn’t skip over you based on whether or not you are “smart”. 

[musings-of-a-prodigal]

Brainwashing doesn’t skip over you based on whether or not you are “smart.”

[crystal-gems-stuff]

That’s so weird cause in Catholic church we’re told the earth is thousands of centuries old

[emkini]

Speaking as someone who was raised evangelical, yeah this is just what’s in our schoolbooks. We had dedicated children’s radio programs (Jonathan Park, Adventures in Odyssey, etc, etc) made to teach us creationism and quite literally demonize evolution. I have science books at home that teach creationism. The very SUGGESTION that evolution could have some merit will make you pariah in many evangelical churches. This isn’t stupidity, this is a cult mentality which is so incredibly prevalent in the United States that I find it insane some people Don’t Know about it. Have some compassion for the huge amount of the population that has been raised in a religion which goes to extreme lengths to teach them that evolution is wrong not only factually, but morally.