What does splitting feel like from the new headmate's perspective? Was it gradual or sudden? Did you immediately have a sense of who/what you are? What your supposed "purpose"/"role" is? Bc I've heard a bit of what it's like for the body or the "og" headmate they're being split from but not from the pov of the headmate being formed.
This is directed to anyone but specifically median system members if possible, though I am unsure whether the answers would differ.
This is a question for sysmembers that split from another member.
we had a JOY split yesterday? usually our splits are bc something very very upsetting is happening but we split a new alter out of JOY!!
we love when it's usually one extreme that causes it, but instead it's a different extreme... it's nice to have something that isn't just like, kinda tied to a sad event.
A suffix referring to how or why a specific alter formed, view themself as having formed, and/or are viewed by others in-system, in their system. For example 'Stressformed', would refer to an alter that formed because another alter(s) or the (sub)system as a whole was under stress.
They can also have to do with the alter's feeling about why they exist. For example, an Introject who died in source may consider themself to have been reborn into the system, and as such consider themself 'rebirthformed' ,or similar.
Sub terms under read more
-splitformed
We know that some systems use the term split to refer to any time an alter formed in the system. However we use to specifically refer to new alters that split from already know alters in the system, this often will result in something of the original alter being taken to the new one. I will be using split how we(my system) typically use it, in this post. Example 'griefsplitformed'(shorted to griefsplit) would be an alter that split because of, to deal with, and/or to hold, another alter's grief.
-fuseformed
This would refer to an alter that formed as they are now do to the fusion of alters. For an example 'fearfuseformed'(shorted to fearfused) would be an alter that formed by fusion because of fear.
-wakeformed
An alter the come out of dormancy, and they leaving dormancy is seen as formation for any reason. For example 'ragewakeformed'(shorted to ragewaked) would be an alter that come of dormancy because rage, in a way that is viewed as formation.
-nowPCformed
An alter the formed from a NPC. For example traumanowPCformed(shorted to traumanowPC), would be a NPC that became an alter because, someone in the system/the system went through a new traumatic event or was reminded of past traumas.
All of these suffixes can also be used in combination with role term, in reference to alter that formed for a specific role regardless if they still are that role or not. For example protectorformed is an alter that was originally formed to be a protector, they may or may not still be one.
This was with complex dissociative disorder systems who don't like using "-genic" to describe individual alters(cough cough us) in mind
I've been super aware of switches and who's fronting lately. I can recognize who's voice is whos, various memories and feelings and body language. I can even almost pinpoint how people talk based on where in my throat or chest they're using my bodys voice
Its taken me probably about 2 years to get to this point and its taken documentation, constant asking myself questions and so much patience
These questions include
Who am i
What names do i resonate with
What do i look like inside
Where am i from
What do i remember
What is familiar about where im at, and have i fronted here yet(often asked at work or in my current home)
How do i know the people around me
Do i particularly like or dislike something
What are my base emotions (alters cant be boiled down to singular emotions necessarily but some tend to experience one more than others and it can help section them off)
How old are they
How many are there
Can they speak or are they semi-verbal, mute, or do they talk in ways that arent words(some use music or animal noises or just communicate telepathically)
There are loads of other questions and its not like i go through the entire list every time but things like this have helped me figure out a lot more about my system. It's about who affects what, what triggers who, and how everyone navigates the world and why.
This may not work for everyone but im hoping this resource may help someone
think we had our first split in a very long time today..
long story short we have an alter who is an introject of our abuser and we thought was just kind of only there as a means to berate/upset our system members because it’s what we were used to back home and ig was ingrained into our brain.
turns out that during this split, this alter kind of fragmented and now we have another alter (we think with the same name) who seems to contain all of our past anger and a lot of our trauma. the original alter just seems to be super fragmented now? like not even an alter anymore?? just like a collection of emotions and parts??
our internal communication has been pretty screwy recently because of a fight between alters so this is just the information I could kind of gather??
honestly no idea what’s going on so advice is very very much appreciated /g
Okay.... so.... we split again. It happened about a week and a half ago and it wasn't very surprising. This has been a very stressful month because of going back to school and many dentist appointments (we had surgery yesterday and are minus two teeth).
I would like to introduce to you, our newest system member -drumroll please- Claire!
She is an introject of the creator of a YouTube channel that the system often goes to for comfort, so I guess it makes sense that she came to be during this stressful time (especially since I've been watching the channel more often).
She is fully aware of the system and our terms, and even wrote herself an intro the first time she fronted. I will post her intro separately in a few minutes.
Please be nice to her! She is a very kind and lovely lady!
