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@butterynutjob

He stopped in front of the mirror and sighed. His penis was just a little too large to be fashionable, and his balls were just a little lopsided. Most days it didn’t bother him, but today he pushed at his genitals, trying to make them look more normal, like the men in magazines. It was hopeless. He dropped his junk in resigned frustration. There were worse things than having too large of a penis, he thought.

spellbound7

While, granted, some writers do take the breast thing too far, this comparison doesn’t even make sense. Men don’t obsess about their genitals the way women obsess about their breasts because they’re not in your face all the time (in the case of large boobs). Breasts are just more visible (closer to eye level).

writing-while-female

Newsflash! Women don’t obsess about our breasts.

No really, we live with them 24/7, we can see friends, and relatives breasts pretty much on demand, hell, we just have to go to get changed at the gym to be inundated with boobs. They are really boring to us (ad while we’re on it, nowhere near as sensitive as so many men seem to think!).

The only time a woman might obsess about her breasts is when they’re painful, such as when lactating or wearing an ill-fitting bra, and neither situation is at all sexy.

Men obsess over women’s breasts. Women don’t.

mareebrittenford

I’m just loling about supposedly obsessing over my breasts because they’re near my face.

addigni

“In your face all the time (in case of large boobs)”

So apparently large breasts are gravity-defying objects that rise up to our face until eye level, huh??

Any women out there willing to draw out how this guy’s version of boob reality might look like, because this is just too ridiculous 😂😂😂

totallysilvergirl

I needed this belly-laugh, I really did, so many you did too.

love-in-mind-palace

I..am..idk

kajaono

I am running around with D boobs. Do you really think I am obsessed with them?! The only thing I am obsessed with are big bras!

bobeatspie300

New study finally visualizes how the average woman perceives her daily life(24/7) with boobs, according to cis men

@addignisherlock

writing-while-female

In your face, boobies! In. Your. Face!

(I don’t know why I’m trash talking breasts. I just am, okay? Good.)

mochaninjani

Wait? Men don’t obsess over their genitalia? They sure do send a lot of dick pics for people who aren’t obsessed

writing-while-female

That’s an excellent point,

Men, when is the last time any woman sent you an unsolicited nip pic?

radcityrat

uh, last I paid attention, men were obsessed with their genitals, always talking about having big dicks and joking about who has a little dick, grabbing their dicks, drawing dicks on everything…so….

theresagooseinthemainframe

Men are 100000000% obsessed with their own and other mens genitals

benyw

It’s called projection. Male writers project what they think they would be like if they had boobs onto their female characters, and that guy in the comments is projecting the fact that he acts like a boob obsessed toddler who was weened off mamma’s nip too early onto women.

genderisareligion

Banger post you couldn’t get away with today

mini-wrants

Her “violent revenge” was asking him to find a new job because he had an affair at work, btw.

That was her violent revenge. Find a new job so he doesn’t keep having an affair with his coworker.

She kept the abortion pills on hand because she had 6 children already and her last child was unplanned, and she did not feel capable of caring for a 7th.

mini-wrants

Listen up ladies, never talk about your marriage woes publicly because if you do, the Daily Mail will refer to you as “violent” internationally after your husband shoots you and your six children to death and then sets the house of fire before killing himself.

Investigators have ruled a murder-suicide in the case of eight family members found dead inside a burning Grand Haven home.

thegenderienvy

So the “violent revenge” was actually her shoving him to get space from him during the fight about it. She described him as “towering over her” and that she “felt like she was being assaulted.” Huh I wonder if the fact he MURDERED HER AND THEIR SIX KIDS might point to her fears for her safety around him being completely justified?

itdoobielikethat

kirby-with-feet-deactivated2021

THIS OHMYGOD think of the walls of text tras come up with when they’re asked to define woman, define gender, explain what ‘queer’ means. To fix this wave of feminism we need dialectic materialism.

blacklezrage

“The Descent from Radical Feminism to Postmodernism” (Ti-Grace Atkinson)

you can find the full text online just by googling it, but the pdf is hosted on Boston University’s website

(it’s only 4 pages so definitely read it! i didn’t agree with everything but it’s still useful)

feministskeptic

https://www.bu.edu/wgs/files/2013/10/Atkinson-The-Descent-from-Radical-Feminism-to-Postmodernism.pdf

liberate-women-now

Since 2005, there are more registered female drivers than males and for the past 30 years male drivers account for 70% of all fatal car accidents.

kawaiigardenerwolf

this one is particularly good because whenever I present vehicular fatalities by sex stats I usually am hit with "well men drive more/there's more male drivers than women" which always struck me as particularly stupid even before seeing the numbers of registered drivers. Nice to know that even with MORE women drivers than men men are still taking the lions share of reckless driving. Males really are bad at driving and they are fucking idiots too. This is the sex that thinks wearing seatbelts and driving sober is gay.

fematrix

radfem-ish movie recs!!

as a professional procrastinator i tend to watch a lot of movies recently. i wanted to give you a list of my personal recs - movies about women, by women, for women. without misogyny (that goes unpunished, at least), making women suffer for men's plot development, where women are the center, the background and the core of a production, which treats their issues with respect and dignity. i tried to reach for the lesser known titles, but these are usually the best in this category!

1. Blow the Man Down (2019)

one of my absolute favourite movies of all time - there's a small seaside town, abusers that get their justice delivered, women with knives and a local secret that forever changes our characters' lives 🌊

directed by bridget savage cole and danielle krudy

its-terf-or-nothin

Never watched any of these. If I do I might review them though.

crimson-femme

90s butches by Chloe Sherman

femalegrandma

dapperprincess

women: i choose the bear because the way men are capable of raping, murdering, or even enslaving us is all far worse than being eaten alive or left to bleed out

this man: I choose the bear because female humans have said mean things to me

fretami

once again:

women are afraid of men because of the violence they inflict on us

men are afraid of women because their feelings get hurt

kkoffin

ironically this is the most male socialised thing this guy could’ve possibly said

omegaversereloaded

Im not reading the rest of this i think you should beat him and then leave him

omegaversereloaded

Beat him like he's a stranger

3liza

"waiting until you move in" is a deeply under-discussed tactic

maramagnus

Tactics of abusers:

Waiting until you move in

Waiting until you're married / they feel they have you "locked down"

Getting you pregnant by any means

Assaulting you and then gaslighting you

Isolating you from all your friends by coming up with problems with them, or demanding all of your time, or being repugnant to them and nice to you so you start siding with them

If you ever encounter anyone doing any of this to you, RUN. They will escalate.

marmorada

Well fuck Doctor Mike then, another male creator down

virtualcremefem

men can never shock me anymore at how ignorant they are and how much they don't give a fuck

loserdogma

The speed with which men hear women tell about lived experience only to say “don’t worry about it” is actually insane. The absolute swiftness with which men dismiss women’s real, researched, statistical, and/or lived experiences is just astounding.

dwellordream

a very common thing i see posited is the idea that historically, fathers could not both love their daughters and see them as their personal property to dispose of as they saw fit, and i think it comes from this difficulty people have in understanding that a parent can be affectionate and loving in many ways, but also put their own desires before that of their child/have misogynistic views about women's roles in society.

i also think it's very common for modern day commentators to overlook the fact that many men who genuinely loved their wives also pressured their wives to keep having children until they died or were physically disabled by it.

evenlesssentimentaltranslator

It's a very common thing you see posited because we are saying that whatever affection an enslaver displays to his slave, it doesn't mean a goddamn thing at the end of the day because enslaving someone is incompatible with any kind of love that's worth shit.

We're not saying enslavers can't display, or even feel, affection toward their slaves. We're making a value judgment about the nature of that affection. And in my case, I am doing it because from the time I entered puberty, the whole of society said "many boys and men like to beat up, rape, and kill you so you have to be savvy enough to avoid those ones, but you still have to love boys and men because you're not a complete person if you don't." That mentality shapes every aspect of how violence against women and girls is handled, from the criminal justice system to expectations in society.

So no, I will not pretend that men's emotional relationship with women and girls they oppress, exploit, and brutalise is love.

evenlesssentimentaltranslator

Someone: There's no such thing as a happy slave

The left: That's right! It's reprehensible that right wingers think otherwise!

Me: And there's no such thing as an enslaver who loves his slave

The left: But he thinks he loves her! So that counts as loving her!

veritablevent

you can't girlboss your way out of the humiliation of performing femininity. miniskirts are supposed to humble you by having you stay alert to them riding up and exposing you. high heels are supposed to humble you by having you move carefully, wary of twisting an ankle (or stumbling and exposing yourself). make-up is supposed to humble you by having you control your feeding and resting habits, lest you smudge it. there's sexualization imbedded in them. they are SUPPOSED to embarrass you, because the ultimate titillation is the assertion of control over you. you can't desex them.

bittermarching

You ever think about how particularly insidious it is that women are expected to wear makeup, heels, and often figure flattering skirts in office settings, especially if the woman is high-ranking at her job? Like, the purpose of heels is to make your butt and legs look sexier. The purpose of makeup is to make you look more attractive. Impractical pencil skirts are hard to move in, but highlight your figure to look more appealing than loose slacks. It makes sense on some level to wear makeup, heels, and form-fitting clothing when going out to a club or whatever bc you're trying to look attractive.

But the fact that women, who should be focused on appearing professional and competent, are often expected to dress in a way that makes them more sexually appealing to men while they're just trying to do their jobs really reveals how women are viewed in the workplace and society at large. His job is being a manager or lawyer or executive or whatever. Her job is to do all that while looking pretty for the men.

diana-lostandfound

Yup. I will be transitioning to a significantly higher-ranking job in the fall, and when I told my current boss about it, his assistant goes, "ha, I guess you're finally going to have to start putting on some skirts and pantyhose!" I wear formal court attire everyday but yes, I do not own any skirts and I wear suits (blazer and slacks) with plain oxfords or loafers. My friend who used to dress VERY butch 24/7 got promoted last year and now in her picture on LinkedIn she's in a low-cut top, bold red lipstick, and stilettos that frankly I would break a knee trying to walk in. It's been demonstrated that when women are put in sexually revealing, humiliating outfits, we do worse on tests that involve reasoning and logic. It takes up so much brainpower focusing on not accidentally exposing yourself, not smudging your makeup, not breaking an ankle, and just feeling so uncomfortable and unsafe. Because the evidence bears this out, I personally am convinced that the expectation that we dress revealing and sexual when we rise through the ranks is to prevent us from rising too high. Well, too bad. I'm not changing my wardrobe for my new job and they can deal with it.

trans-masked

Trans guy got a kind of lame tattoo of a uterus and people are saying it’s equivalent to getting a swastika oh my fucking god bro

kiefbowl

I got these back to back on my facebook feed. Now, I haven't read the Atlantic article, and also it was written in 2020 and not as a response to this couple, but clearly the Atlantic is reposting it with an incendiary pull line to capitalize on this couple's story.

And the pull line is ridiculous on its own, regardless of what context I'm missing from the article. Down syndrome is not an inherited trait like red hair or brown eyes. It's chromosomal abnormality. Talking about it like there's some kind of movement trying to "wipe out" a group of people is so intellectually dishonest. Down syndrome is not an ethnic group, and one woman aborting is not a call to murder all living people with Down syndrome.

It's just so woman hating. Why shouldn't a family decide what's best for the health of their family and child? I don't know of this couple, even if they are cringe influencers, I think it's so brave to share their story and it's helpful to women and girls to hear it. Despite the hate that is being directed at this couple, I hope they realize they are helping normalize this conversation and this choice.

goodmiffy

Iceland and Denmark have a near zero birth rate of children with Down syndrome because it’s so common for women to get a screening and terminate their pregnancy if the baby will be born with Down syndrome. This is not considered controversial, they are simply prioritising their own and their families quality of life. There is no ethical reason that a woman should continue with the pregnancy if she doesn’t want to, and plenty of reasons why it might be more sensible to terminate it, such as the financial, mental and physical strain of caring for a special needs child.

feminist-furby-freak

Also I think people are unaware that Down syndrome is not just an intellectual disability. It is associated with a spectrum of congenital abnormalities, in some cases very severe cardiac defects. Anyone who has ever worked at a children’s hospital will tell you there are wards filled with medically complex children who have been abandoned.

cordycepsfem

Also higher rates of leukemia.

raddazestarlight

Most people with Down Syndrome have shortened life expectancies because of the above cardiac conditions. I knew a girl with DS who needed multiple open heart surgeries as a toddler.

Also, it's worth pointing out that women bear the VAST majority of the care burden in cases like these. Men have been known to abandon their families when a severe disability or illness occurs, leaving women to handle these medical complexities alone. This is not a gender-neutral decision. I will never judge a woman for doing what she needs to do to protect her own wellbeing, especially now that we are among the first generations to have a genuine choice in the matter.

justalurkr

Truncated text of tweet from MrPitBull, Mar 11, 2026:

She kept finding women in laboratory photographs from the 1800s. Then she read the published papers—and every single woman had vanished. Someone had erased them from history.

Yale University, 1969.

Margaret Rossiter was a graduate student studying the history of science. She was one of very few women in her program.

Every Friday afternoon, students and faculty gathered for beers and informal conversation. One week, Margaret asked a simple question: "Were there ever any women scientists?"

The faculty answered firmly: No.

Someone mentioned Marie Curie. The group dismissed it—her husband Pierre really deserved the credit.

Margaret didn't argue. But she also didn't believe them.

So she started looking.

She found a reference book called "American Men of Science"—essentially a Who's Who of scientific achievement. Despite the title, she was shocked to discover it contained entries about women. Botanists trained at Wellesley. Geologists from Vermont.

There were names. There were credentials. There were careers.

The professors had been wrong.

But Margaret's discovery was just the beginning. Because as she dug deeper into archives across the country, she found something far more disturbing.

Photograph after photograph showed women standing at laboratory benches, working with equipment, listed on research teams.

But when she read the published papers, the award citations, the official histories—those same women had disappeared. Their names were missing. Their contributions erased.

It wasn't random. It was systematic.

Women who designed experiments watched male colleagues publish results without giving them credit. Women whose discoveries were assigned to supervisors. Women listed in acknowledgments instead of as authors. Women passed over for awards that went to male collaborators who contributed far less.

Margaret realized she was witnessing a pattern that stretched across centuries.

Women had always been present in science. The record had simply pushed them aside.

She needed a name for what she was documenting.

In the early 1990s, she found it in the work of Matilda Joslyn Gage—a 19th-century suffragist who had written about this exact phenomenon in 1870.

In 1993, Margaret published a paper formally naming it: The Matilda Effect.

The term captured something that had been hidden in plain sight for generations. Once you knew the term, you saw it everywhere.

Her dissertation became a lifelong mission.

For more than 30 years, Margaret researched and wrote her landmark three-volume series: Women Scientists in America. She examined letters, institutional policies, individual careers. She gathered undeniable evidence that women in science had been consistently under-credited and structurally excluded.

Her work faced resistance. Many dismissed women's history as political rather than academic. Others insisted she was exaggerating.

Margaret didn't argue emotionally. She presented data. Documented cases. Patterns repeated across decades and institutions.

Eventually, the evidence became undeniable.

Her research helped restore recognition to scientists who had been erased:

Rosalind Franklin, whose X-ray work revealed DNA's structure—credit went to Watson and Crick.

Lise Meitner, who explained nuclear fission—omitted from the Nobel Prize.

Nettie Stevens, who discovered sex chromosomes—received little credit.

Cecilia Payne-Gaposchkin, who discovered stars are made of hydrogen—initially dismissed.

And countless others whose names had nearly vanished.

Margaret changed the narrative. Science was no longer just the story of solitary male geniuses. It became a story of collaboration that included women who had been written out.

The Matilda Effect became standard terminology. Scholars used it to examine how credit is assigned, how authors are listed, who receives awards, who gets left out.

leontocephagaina

atwoodsfemalefantasy

no one else believes me, but i SWEAR The Giving Tree is misogynistic propaganda. you're telling me a female described tree loves a boy so much she gives him everything. and the little boy asks for everything she has, and she gives it all until she has nothing left. and the boy is never grateful until the very end when the tree is just a stump, and even then the boy sees nothing wrong with what he's done. and this is a message we're supposed to read to children????? that men can take and take and take from women until we have nothing left and it's somehow wholesome?

i remember being read The Giving Tree as a little girl. i remember the little boys thinking it was a great story, while me and my friends, all girls, were left shocked. we had expected some message at the end about how taking and taking from someone while giving nothing in return is wrong. it was like pages had been ripped from the book. the little boys saw nothing wrong, but we understood that the book was saying we were supposed to give and give and give until we had nothing left, and it was a happy ending. because the boy got everything he could ever want, and the tree got the boys attention for an hour or two.

The Giving Tree should really have been called The Taking Boy. i still can't believe we read this to children.

marbleguard

this post has unearthed a deep forgotten memory of having this book read to me by my mother as a very young child, and crying inconsolably at the end of it. Like you say, I think because the story feels like it's missing a part where the tree receives some mutual care in return, and you wait and wait as the pages turn for this to happen, but it just never does, and the tree essentially dies as it watches the boy (now and old man) teach his grandson to plant a new tree... presumably to exploit in the same way.

I remember my mother telling me "Why are you crying? The tree was happy! It's a story about love. The tree gave itself because it loved the boy," and not knowing how to articulate what upset me so deeply about the book. It may sound dramatic to say but I felt deeply scarred by this book just from the few times it was read to me, and I think that's because even if we cannot put it into words at that age, even very small female children have some sort of subconscious awareness the book is about their mothers, and by extension about our own future as women, and about the unfairness and cruelty we will experience which will be treated as a virtuous expectation.

atwoodsfemalefantasy

i want to bounce off this reblog because it's so great and i also thought of another point i didn't touch totally on in the OG post that relates to this response :)

i remember, as a little girl, hearing all these stories about "sacrifice". "she sacrificed everything for me, she's the best mom" or "my mom sacrificed her whole life to help me" or even our own mothers saying that "love is sacrifice" and how she was happy to give up her dreams or goals because she loved her husband and her kids. The Giving Tree is about our mothers that gave everything to this world, to their husbands, to their children, and it's called love. it's romanticized. it feels like the best thing a woman can be is someone who gives everything up, sacrifices everything, until she's not even a real person but a driving force in someone else's life. we watched our moms in relationships where she gave and gave for so little in return, and called it love. kids pick up on that, especially daughters. The Giving Tree is our mothers.

marbleguard

What you describe is something I have noticed over and over in TV and documentary interviews where adult children are asked to speak about their mothers. Both men and women will mention appreciating how their mothers sacrificed for them, but almost without fail, this will be the only thing the men have to say about who their mothers were. Women will often speak about her sense of humor, her style, her favorite hobbies, her talents unrelated to care-giving, but the men almost never mention a single thing about their mothers aside from what she did for them. To them, their mother's greatest achievement is having given up everything to make them a successful man.

In the male mind, women are not their own people with their own lives, but vessels that carry and sacrifice to make and support the people with actual lives... men.

blackpilljesus

I saw this from the female separatism subreddit & the responses are some of the biggest reasons for separatism et al (or extinction if I'm being candid here). Moids cant be reformed they are fully aware of the hell they force women to live in. MaIe achievement & happiness is rooted in female exploitation & life. Their glory days are based on our horrific days. No amount of love, kindness or facts will change maIes and we cannot happily or even neutrally coexist with them.

Main points across answers:

Many want to experiment but not permanently be women

They dont want to be in constant danger or lose their autonomy at the hands of maIes for merely existing

They dont want to deal with childbirth (& periods)

They dont want to have to share spaces with species much stronger than them with ulterior motives

It makes me go crazy seeing people give moids benefit of doubt for their evil like "maIes just dont understand", "we need to teach maIes", or claiming that maIe violence is a result of maIes struggling with (expressing) their feelings. I get that women love maIes and it can be hard to imagine that people can intentionally be so evil but it is what it is. MaIes have no problems expressing themselves, abusing women is what maIes choose to do because they enjoy & benefit from it - that is their expression.

MaIes see the same news of women being abused, raped, and killed like we do except rather than be disheartened or alarmed they're either apathetic or satisfied. It isn't aliens that's committing GBV it's maIes & maIes have no problem reminding women of this when women anger them (such as rape threats & threatening women they'll end up on the news/true crime). The victim blaming, denial, and derailment of misogyny is part of the game to keep the system alive, they know the events occured & are a systemic occurence they just dont care. Hell not only do they not care, they rejoice in it or get off on it.

MaIes set up environments that work in their favour which simultaneously ensures that women will lose. They know women are set up to live in damn near impossible conditions for us. It's normalised for women to defenselessly share personal & private spaces with beings much more stronger than them with ulterior motives for us, it's trap. It's interesting how these moids aren't saying that they'll just cover up and *poof* harrassment gone, or they'll just pick a nice guy & they'll be okay. MaIes know the net negative they are towards women.

MaIes know that childbirth is a painful process & what do they do? Demand it happens and make it even MORE painful for women. MaIes that impregnate women do not love or care for them. Pregnancy itself is dangerous & sometimes lethal, often comes with a range of health issues, to cause someone to be in that condition especially in a environment where abortions are illegal is reckless & unloving. Now imagine how sinister & full of hatred one has to be to impregnate someone and abuse them on top of that. Many women risk their health & lives to reproduce with a Y and they get abused by said Y instead of being taken care of. Deranged.

Realising that maIes are aware of the evil they inflict is one of the things that radicalised me. It isn't a miscommunication or ignorance issue, their violence is intended. They want control. The cruelty is the point. Instead of wasting time & energy trying to change maIes or hope that they "understand" one day, focus on yourself & other women (who prioritise women). Moids aren't oblivious to female pain they enjoy it. A lot of women treat maIe evil like it's a mistake on maIes part but it's calculated terrorism. I know that this will go over many womens heads as they refuse to hold strong negative sentiments about moids as a collective so if you're not a woman like that, take this post as a sanity check. You aren't crazy, it isn't all in your head.

blackpilljesus

Adding honourable comment from the separatist subreddit:

TLDR: Don't waste time debating or educating moids. Focus on (building for) yourself & other women who aren't maIe apologists.

Few others in my gallery I couldn't include in the main post:

secedenconquer

Notice the apathy these men talk with about all the horrible suffering women have to endure, as if it's someone else's problem, as if it isn't their mothers, daughters, sisters, and spouses experiencing these horrors first-hand 24/7 trapped on this planet with them. Notice that "sucks to be them🤷‍♂️" attitude as they casually list all the pains women go through. The cold, detached awareness they have of half the population's misery. I don't know how women convince themselves "not all men". Clearly men collectively prefer patriarchy and want to maintain the status quo. Women can stay deluding themselves but reality is reality.

genderresister

Men are aware of their sociopolitical and physical advantages that they hold over women and that being male in a male dominated world shields them from the majorities of rape, sexual abuse, sexual harassment and male violence victimization in general. They are aware of women’s reality, and yet they express no remorse, no empathy, no compassion or regard for women’s humanity and have no desire to make amends or remedy the damage they cause women on a global scale.

This proves men are largely self-serving and misogynistic, attempts to humanize men or consort with them are better spent enriching your own life or those of other women.

hagfem

Reminds me of a therapist who worked with abusive men and asked them what they gained from the abuse. Lots of things, obviously. Their only reasons for not being violent were personal consequences to them. Not one word about women deserving better.

By Chuck Derry For many years, I facilitated courtmandated groups for men who batter. In the early 1980s we were concentrating on healthy re

Like a patriarchy microcosm.

thereissomethingdeeplywrong

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